(Closed) We'll still be receiving RSVPs after the wedding

posted 4 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
Member
2430 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Definitely call EVERYONE you don’t have an RSVP for at this point. A week prior to our wedding, we had to add 2 or 3 extra TABLES to accommodate all of the late RSVPs. That included a family of 5 who RSVP’ed literally a day or so before our finalized headcount had to be submitted to the caterer. 

We attempted to do that, and still had last minute changes. Stressful and so inconsiderate of the guests!

Post # 4
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11287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@HisMoon:  why haven’t you called the non-rsvp’ers yet?  spreading word of mouth is just not concrete enough.  most brides start calling the day after rsvp date.

Post # 6
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825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mypinkshoes:  why should she? If someone can’t bother to mail back a simple RSVP, I am going to assume it’s a no and there won’t be a seat for them. 

Post # 7
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3737 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@TattedNYBride:  Or she could just take a few minutes to contact the non-responders and hopefully avoid any surprise guests on her wedding day. It would only take a few minutes now and will save a lot of headaches later.

Post # 9
Member
2430 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@cmbr:  Agreed. We recruited family members to make phone calls or e-mail, so that we weren’t taking on all of the time it would’ve taken to contact all of the non-responders individually. We would not have ordered enough food otherwise, and those guests wouldn’t have seats at the reception!

Post # 10
Member
710 posts
Busy bee

Assuming delinquent RSVPs are all declines is setting yourself up for chaos!

Post # 11
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859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Sadly I’ve been one of those people who didn’t rsvp.  My fiance had an old friend who invited us to his wedding.  I tried to remind him on a regular basis that he needed to rsvp.  Slowly I stopped reminding him and since he was super busy he had completely forgotten to send it.  4 days before the wedding we started packing to go to the wedding and I saw the rsvp.  He called to make sure it was okay that we still come and of course said sorry.

Post # 13
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8021 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@TattedNYBride:  She should because mail gets lost, messages don’t get through etc etc.

The guests may not have even received the invite. Who knows.

Post # 14
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11287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@cmbr:  @shaka:  exactly.

 

@TattedNYBride:  i don’t think any bride would turn away a guest at their wedding just because they forgot to rsvp.  to save embarrassment and an uncomfortable situation for all, this is why a good host follows up with non-responders. 

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