Post # 1
I just got engaged yesterday, so I’m over the moon. We’ve been visiting friends and family all day to tell them the story and show them my ring. It’s been an amazing day, and the only little cloud over my parade was a tactless comment from a close friend’s sister, who happened to be visiting at the same time.
My fiance was briefly engaged once before in his early 20’s. The engagement lasted 6 months before they realized they weren’t right for each other. She gave him the ring back, but he ended up returning it. He’s now in his early 30’s, and we’ve been together for 2 years.
When I showed my friend’s sister the ring when she asked to see it, she looks me dead in the eyes and says to my fiance, “Why on earth would you go buy another ring when you already had one? You could have just saved it for the next engagement. This ring is completely different”.
My fiance just stared at her and I could tell he was about to get super defensive. So to difuse the situation, I said “Hey, different girl. Different ring. New chapter, let’s leave the last one closed, got it???”. Then everyone in the room clapped. She was so embarassed. But seriously, who says something like that?????
Post # 2
You handled it so well! She was an idiot
Post # 3
wow i don’t understand why someone would say that! Good job for defending you and your FI. and Congrats!
Post # 4
Yeah, she needs to grow a filter. But you handled it perfectly!
Post # 5
Grafton86: Love it. She’s right to be embarrassed because what she said was embarrassing and poor reflection of her manners.
Post # 6
Maybe she was just confused? Sometimes things just slip out of people’s mouths.
Then she was embarrassed, by everyone in the room. Hmmm …
Post # 7
PABride: confused about what exactly? How it’s not cool to bring up an ex from 10 years ago?
Op- great comment!
Post # 8
of course different engagement a different ring! You handled it very well, interesting though the friend’s sister saw the previous ring before?! that’s like many years apart. You will likely encounter numerous unanticipated minor random comments throughout the engagement and planning process, but just don’t mind and focus on your own celebration!!!
Post # 9
Omg, I didn’t think people like that existed in real life …
Post # 10
Grafton86: Wow, that friend’s sister is a little bit awful.
Had she even seen the previous ring he’d given out?
I don’t think you could have handled it better than, “different girl. different ring”.
Post # 12
MOHlookingForIdeas: Thanks! She’s actually known my fiance since college. And she still keeps in touch with his old fiance. She must have remembered what the other ring looked like. My fiance doesn’t even remember what it looked like! haha. Mine is a blue sapphire, and I know the first one was a diamond, so it obviously inspired her to comment on it. She’s never been overly tactful and tends to be obnoxious.
Post # 13
Grafton86: I’ll tell you who says something like that, my MOM! Geez, some people. I was married before. And when I started talking about my ring she said, “Why don’t you just use your old one?” I was so caught off guard I didn’t have a cool comeback like you did, so high 5! I should’ve said, “Why didn’t you??” She’s married for a 2nd time. My mom says some weird stuff the older she gets.
Post # 14
RedHeadKel: Haha! Your story makes me feel better because I’m not the only one dealing with crazy comments like that lol
Post # 15
Grafton86: Yup, people are idiots. (Sorry, Mom, but you need to turn on your filter!)