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posted 4 months ago in Waiting
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  • poll: Has January been a good waiting month (if there is such a thing!) or a bad one?
    Good - I've kept my cool and enjoyed the month : (5 votes)
    19 %
    Ok - a few wobbly moments but mainly good : (10 votes)
    38 %
    Could be better... : (7 votes)
    27 %
    Arrrgh - get me out of January!! : (4 votes)
    15 %
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    emmylouloubobells      

    So... January is an expensive time for us - on top of all of the Christmas expenses

    7th Jan -  My birthday

    16th Jan  - was our 8 YEAR anniversary

    21st Jan - my Dad's birthday

    27th Jan - My SO's brothers birthday

    Plus 6 out of 10 people in my department at work have Janury birthdays!

    So a January proposal wasn't on the cards, but a Feb, March, April or May one isn't looking likely either, as in addition to the above expenses, and the monthly ring savings being on hold for January, SO has managed to crash his car, not once but TWICE, within the last month! To be fair neither were really his fault - and I was in the car for one of them so I know it wasn't his fault - and I'm glad that he escaped the second one unharmed as he could have been injured.

    It's a Company car so he only has to pay the excess - but that totals £500.00! That's £500.00 he's had to manage to find out of no-where - and £150.00 that would have gone to the ring!

    Before you think i'm a total cow - please note that I actually offered to use some of the the engagement ring fund to cover the costs, (praying that he wouldn't agree!) but SO refused (phew!) - saying that if we keep using it to bail things out, it'll never happen - Too true!

    Arrgh! the best thing is that January is nearly over and we're 1 month closer to the summer - prime proposal time!

     
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    Tarheelgurl       Canada

    Well January isn't over yet and next week is SO and I's anniversary, so I'm still holding out hope. If not next week, possibly Valentine's Day I'm hoping. And who knows, maybe he'll surprise you and ask you before summer.

     
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    jpalm13    December 21, 2012  

    @Tarheelgurl:  Good thoughts your way!

    SO and I talked about 'dates' seeing as we both want a fall wedding and the time to act would be coming up. As would my gparents 50th anniversary date next July. Either way something needs to happen or both will be impossible. But he was open to discussion, said both dates/timeframes are possibilities, and ring looking- progress!

     
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    WestCoast    May 2013   Canada

    Love this thread. I haven't been posting much this month because I am finally having a good time waiting. It's still not coming soon for me, but I'm happy anyway :)

     
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    MisfitPrincess      

    I voted "OK - a few wobbly moments but mainly good". This month I've been able to keep myself occupied with the gym, spending time with my friends, and with some new projects at work. For the most part I've been able to keep from dwelling on engagement the way I have been in the recent past (not being able to think about ANYTHING but getting engaged), and in that respect January hasn't been such a grueling month. I just don't really care anymore at this point, and it's actually proving to be a really good thing.

    It hasn't been totally without stress though. SO's started doing lots of 'window shopping', both out in the stores and online, for things he wants to purchase with his tax refund that will be coming soon. On the list? A toolbox for his truck, new shoes (which he actually already ordered), and he looked at tvs again. Grr!

    Also, the bridal expo that our area has each year is this week, so all this month I've been having to listen to the annoying-ass commercials on the radio at work, all day, every day. So, SO freakin' annoying!

    SO has also been acting really strange and insecure since last Monday (1/16). He asked me twice last week, once by text and once in person, if I loved him and when I said 'yes' he said "I hope so". Also last week, for the first time ever in our relationship, he got jealous that I was texting a guy friend of mine.  He actually started referring to him as my "new boyfriend", to which I responded that he was an idiot. Plus, it wasn't like we sat there and texted for hours and hours, my friend sent me ONE text, which was to ask me how I knew a mutual friend of ours. My answer? "She's engaged to my ex". Yeah, that's some flirty conversation there!

    I actually had a really good day on Monday, it didn't last very long though. SO completely blindsided me on Monday by sending me some pictures of rings. I told him not to tease me, and he said he's not teasing, he's been looking at them for me. I spent the rest of the day all excited and happy and just like, wtf wtf wtf wtf :) Then yesterday I texted him and told him that there was one in particular that was just perfect and I loved.  His response? Along the lines of "Oh, oops, well that one is just the setting only and doesn't come with the diamond".  In other words, 'I'm an idiot and I don't pay any attention and you're going to have to keep waiting if you want a ring with an actual stone in it'. So, needless to say, complete and total deflation, I knew it was too good to last for very long. 

    Ugh. Back to not giving a sh&t

     
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    LucyLaLa    June 13, 2012  

    I love this thread too.  Maybe we can do a monthly check in like this in February too.  I feel like I only post here when something goes very well or very poorly, but actually it's nice when you have does mainly well for the entire month.

     

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