(Closed) Well that was rude!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would be extremely offended, but I am overly sensitive and get upset really easily. I would not have shown it at the time though.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Eh, I wouldn’t read into it too much or sweat it. People are stupid, that’s all Laughing

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Wow. Lol. WHYYY does she care??

 If she ever asks you again what you decided, with a straight face tell her your going to get a rainbow colored dress, since you couldn’t pick one color. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

It’s a generational thing– when she got married, if you weren’t a virgin it’s was “scandelous” to wear white– don’t let it get to you. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

There was a time when there was a big distinction between brides in white and brides in ivory. Now…. it depends on what you like/look best in and you should wear what makes you feel like a bride… I mean for goodness sakes… veils were origonally used when grooms did not see the bride (ever) before the wedding to cover her up so he wouldn’t turn tail and run if she were less than pretty! So non of that holds meaning anymore. 

I think what she said was quite rude, but some people have no brain to mouth filter and really that is more her problem than yours. I’m sure you will look good in any color! (next time she asks tell her you are wearing black…that will give her something to twit about!)

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would have said “EXcuuuuse me” (in “the” tone…) and waited for her embarassed, caught off gaurd response.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Geez, that was rude lol. What’s it to her… Undecided

Post # 11
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Helper bee

honestly? just own your choice. yes it’s a generational thing, but even if it wasn’t, she might not know it’s a thing because she’s never seen or heard of it before. think of it as an educational moment. “because i like it/it’s more flattering on me/light-coloured dresses are in now”. if you back it up (no matter how arbitrary the reason), she’ll accept it, and maybe even grow to like it in general (vs just for you). if someone had asked “why are you serving pasta”, “why is your colour red” or “why are you wearing heels” would you have gotten as offended? no, you would’ve said “because i love it”.

if she continues to push for more reasons or get you to change your mind, yeah be offended, but right now she’s just curious/thrown off, and trying to understand you and your choices better. not that you owe her an explanation, but if you’re going to share, don’t you want her to get you?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

tell her you’re wearing a burka- seeing as that is how she sees women

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

You just say “well, bless your heart I guess you didn’t know that the bride always has the right to wear white, even while livin’ in sin!”  I’m sure a lot of ladies who wore white to their wedding in the 30’s, 40’s, and 50’s weren’t as pure as their parents and pastors hoped they would be on their wedding day.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kariface:  This!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Coming from someone who has lived in the same city you currently live in….that’s just kind of the norm for older women There. Trust me, I have been given the “you live in sin” eyebrow raise from many older women in the south, so I can only imagine their reaction if I “dared to wear white” on my wedding day and they found out 😉

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