Not with the quality of the photography, the pictures are beautiful...
but with how I look, and the fact that I didn't give her a list of people to photograph.
There are maybe 5 pictures of me that I think I look good. Maybe I set myself up for disappointment after looking at so many wedding pictures over the year I was engaged - thinking I'd look that stunning in my photos when the truth is, I'm just not that pretty OR that photogenic. There are a few group pictures I like, but not a single one of just me and my husband that i'd put up in our house. And he had his eyes wide open when he kissed me, so those pictures look silly too (he said he was nervous).
And then there's the other thing, that I feel incredibly guilty about, there are literally NO pictures of several of my extended family members - my uncle who bought my dress, my cousins, my aunt who was very involved in helping me plan. We only did formal pictures with our immediate family because we didn't want to spend hours away from our guests taking pictures, but it was SO stupid of me not to make sure she got pictures of them. Because they were involved in our ceremony, I thought for sure (stupidly) that there would be pictures taken of them. My uncle already asked for a picture from the ceremony, I'm dreading telling him that there isn't one.
None of this is her fault - the day went by SO SO fast - I know the tradeoff would have been spending less time dancing, eating, and enoying everything to take more photos, and there's nothing I can do about not being photogenic. But having a self esteem and guilt bitch slap is not how I imagined spending the day we got our pro photos. I put my game face on when I looked through them with my husband, but had a good cry when he left for work this morning.
Point being - this is mostly just a "vent" - but - make sure you give a list to your photog of everyone you want pictures of, even if they're in the ceremony and you think its a given.
:(
I feel the same way about mine!
I feel I look horrible in most pics, and I didn't get any pics of me and my sisters, me and my brother , etc. I'm so upset
@BartenderPlease: *Hugs* we're all our own worst critics. I am sure you looked lovely and HAPPY - that's the main thing.
Weddings go by in a flash and I am sure that no one was offended when they weren't picked to do photos. Many people hate photos.
Remember the happy memories - how your uncle bought the dress etc. Trust me, the memories will stick with him forever, and no photo could capture that. I'd just send him a pic of you in the dress.
I've seen a lot of brides on here do like a day after shoot, where you get dressed up and either hang out or trash the dress, you could do something like that-maybe your photographer will give you a deal for a couple of hours? -if you let them know you aren't satisfied w/the photos, or you could do some searches in your area for photographers, I've seen many bees on here get excellent deals from those just starting out or who maybe are new to wedding photography, or even a friend or family member get some shots... it could be like a first look, only it'd be called 2nd look or something :) I have not have mine done yet, but I know exactly what you mean by scouring thru the photos and having expectations.
just remember, you get to spend the rest of your life with your best friend and that's the most important part!
Truth be told, I gave my photographer a list of pictures that I wanted, but I didn't get all of them. The day goes by like a flash, so all the pictures you want, aren't necessarily going to be taken due to other circumstances. For example, there are very few of my hubby and me at the reception, because guess what, we were mingling with our guests; it would have been awkward for our photographs to make us step aside and take pictures. Not having every moment captured sucks, but what can you do?!?
I cant say I've ever seen an ugly bride. They are kind of like newborns that way.
HUGS! I am really sorry you feel this way. I am terrified I will feel the same way. The Bee sometimes doesnt help because everyone has such dreamy photos and it feels like there is no way mine will come out that well. But like others have said, we are our own worst critics! I am sure you look lovely. And I bet the photos of the kiss are adorable, even with his eyes open. I bet it'll be a fun story to tell years from now. Maybe post some photos and let the bees fawn over you! :)
@RockStar33: Sorry that you had the same feeling - at least we're not alone. And I bet like mine, your husband insisted you were beautiful and that you were being silly ;)
@throughthebarricades: Thank you. Fortunately his son, my cousin, is getting married next year. I'll have to make SURE I have a nice photo of him and I taken then. Its just one of those thing - I know there's nothing I can do and that in the long run its not a big deal, but I'm still kicking myself.
@babbot: We talked about doing that - he asked if he could wear jeans even if I wore my wedding dress. haha.
Thanks all of you. I'm sure I'll feel better about this by tomorrow. Just dealing with feeling let down and not so pretty, but our wedding day was perfect and for this to be the ONLY thing I'm upset about is pretty damn awesome.
@Jer72: Haha, I think I feel that way about literally everyone except myself - which I know is silly. I hate how my nose looks, and my jaw is slightly asymmetrical and I think it looks REALLY obvious in a lot of the pictures.
@BartenderPlease: oh of course he did! Which was the right thing for him to do lol. But really, I do look horrible in most of them. I'm either in the middle of talking or making a weird face lol
i might find someone to do some extra pics for me.
@RockStar33: SAME!! Either that or in a half blink, or I was smiling and my face looks all wrinkly and awkward. And my feelings were confirmed when my mom was like "wellllllll, you look really happy". Id like to have some photos taken of the 2 of us, but now Im afraid if I don't like those either it will REALLY be a blow to my self esteem. Maybe next year.
I have been wrestling with similar feelings ever since we got our photos. I have tried to keep in mind that we could have taken photos all day long but we would have never been able to talk with everyone and enjoy ourselves - there were too many people and not enough time.
I am also trying to appreciate the good photos that we do have, even if there aren't as many as I would like, or particular shots I would have liked. One of my bridesmaids told me how her friend paid $$$ for her wedding photographer...who then ran away with the money, leaving her no photos at all, so that has helped me count my blessings!
Anyway, I wish there was something more I could say, but I'm sending you hugs and sympathy!
@BartenderPlease: yea!
And now I'm supposed to pick 50 for our wedding album!!! HA! Plus pick ones for both sets of parents for an album
im also upset that the pictures of my parents and I turned out horrible! We had them done outside and it was really cold, and you could see the tenseness in my body because I was freezing.
@Fairy Penguin: Thanks, and thats a really good point. There are some really great shots of our friends and family, and she got a GREAT shot of my grandfather and my sister. Hopefully my aunt and uncle won't be hurt that there aren't any nice pictures of them... but in the long run, having NO pictures would be a nightmare.
@RockStar33: Heh. Go figure. Out of all the family formals, the one decent picture of me and my mom, my dad is making a goofy face. We're just not a photogenic family. The only one who looks great in all of them is my SIL (my brothers wife) - so I'll blame genetics!!
@TheFutureMrsNguyen: Thanks :)
Here's one that I don't hate - but still not quite like enough to hang up in a frame...
@ItsSoFluffy: HA! love it.
But seriously OP, you look like a lovely excited bride!! Nothing to worry about. You are beautiful!
@BartenderPlease: Can you ask your photographer if they have any photos of your uncle during the ceremony, or other specific people/details you are missing? Photographers typically don't give you 100% of the photos they take and it could be there are a few that they held back that you would like even if your photographer wouldn't have selected them.
P.S. - I love the photo you posted!
@BartenderPlease: I asked my photog for the shots she decided weren't quality enough to include and found some I really loved. Ask to see the entire set.
You guys are too kind!
@reebee: Yeah, thats a great idea. I'm looking for another picture of my uncle for her to know who he is and give the rejected photos a once over.
@BartenderPlease: That's a great photo! I understand what you're saying though; I have a few photogrphy regrets and wish I would've asked for a few specific things.
One thing you will find is that the more you see the photos the more you will come the love them. We are always our worst critic, Just remember that your photos are a picture of your day not a bridal magazine, and that every detail does not need to be perfect for it to still be a beautiful photo. Some of my favorite photos, my necklace is crooked but I have learned to look at them and say "thats ok, no big deal, what happened happened, nobodys perfect" and I also remind myself that there is no way that every photo will turn out great. We spent 3 hours on photos, we got tons of great photos but also got tons of not so great photos lol and there are till so many more I wish we could have gotten, but it is impossible the get it all.
If in a few months you still hate all your photos you may want to look at doing a re-shoot. Get back in your dress and Hubby in a Suit and go spend a few hours snapping photos. Sure it wont be your big day but they will still be beautiful photos to look back on. And dont forgot that some of your best memories are in your head :)
@Genuine513: all good points. And I did love looking through the reception photos and seeing everyone dancing and partying, so there are plenty of positives. I should probably post one of the ones I DONT like so you girls see what I mean, but, truth is I'm more bummed about the pictures that weren't taken than the ones I don't like how I look...
Aww, you're adorable! I kinda know how you feel - I hate my face when I smile so I'm pretty worried about how I'm going to look on the big day. But you just look radiant and so happy, and that by far is the first thing anyone will see when looking at your pics. You can photoshop and fake classic 'beauty' with layers of makeup, but you can't fake genuine happiness.
I think you're very beautiful and showing true happiness in that photo. I think you're too hard on yourself!
Thank you ladies :)
This is one of the ones that just made me feel BLEHH. I feel like everyone looks great in this picture except me. My nose looks GINORMOUS and I just look awkward. Its such a good picture of my husband too, so this one really bummed me out.
Just wanted to chime in....You look beautiful in both pictures you posted! :)
The pictures you posted are wonderful and you look beautiful and happy! I think you are being silly, but I do understand that it doesn't change how you feel about yourself. Trust us though, you look great and have nothing to worry about!!
@BartenderPlease: OMG, girl please. I really love you in that group shot. I feel like I take bad pictures, too, so I'm going to instruct my photographer to not snap if I am looking like something stinks. I have a habit of frowning up like that, but it's because I'm concentrating.
You look beautiful sorry you are disappointed in the results I think we who have browsed a lot of wedding photos get disappointed when some important pics are not there as expected. I feel the same way
Your pics look awesome to me!
However, this feeling is sooooo my fear. :(
i totally understand your disappointment where other guest/family pics are concerned. we got pics with our parents and grandparents, and i got a pic w/ my brothers, but we got no pics with our entire immediate families or almost none with other guests. my husband doesn't care, but it's been a major disappointment for me. i haven't seen all of our pro pics yet, so i'm hoping she at least got some good shots of our guests even if we're not in them.
anyway, you look beautiful in the pics you posted. i'm sure your other pics are gorgeous too :)
We are our own worst critics...You are absolutely gorgeous!! :) And the photos are just stunning.
You are so beautiful, seriously! I feel the same way though, I hope I'm suffering from the same thing you are and I actually look okay!
Someone might have suggested this, I tried to read everything but I'm sick and my attention span is terrible because of it. Did you try putting out a facebook request? A lot of your friends probably took some photos, and someone might have a good picture of you and your uncle...if you're comfortable posting his picture, put out the 911 for them to search the photos and see if they have any with your uncle and aunt!
Some of my favorites so far were taken by my new SIL, not the photographer. It's amazing what gems you can find sometimes.
@HappierKate: I did, nothing back yet, but at least I tried. and thank you :)
Thanks all of you ladies, definitely makes me feel a bit better!
@BartenderPlease: But you look so happy! I think you both look great! You definately fit the bill for beautiful glowing bride in the picture you posted. We are definately our own worst ciritics. Listen to your hubby. You look awesome. Don't let a few bad photos ruin your mood.
@BartenderPlease: I just saw the second one - you look good in that one too! Seriously! Maybe a little nervous, but I think that's sweet. And I think you look great!
I think you look great! I do the same thing about photos of myself.. always critical =(
Would love to see more of your wedding !! =)
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