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Last summer when we were home, my mum threw a huge party to introduce FI to everyone and welcome him to Canada.  My Great Aunt (father's mother's sister) and her husband were there, and we promised them an invite and talked to them about the wedding (we revealed we were engaged at the wedding).

Well in October, my Great Aunt suddenly died of a stroke. Since then, my Great Uncle has been living alone...and he has recently been going around to all the sister-in-laws (it was a family of 11 and many are still living), and asking them to come and live with him so they can cook and clean for him and uh...give him some 'extra benefits.'  He's quite serious about this!  He's always been extremely cheap (if a family member needed a ride to the dr. - even just 10 minutes away - he would charge them for his time, gas, and mileage!)  But he's never been that pervy.

Now I'm not really sure what to do about the wedding. I did promise him an invite, but I also don't want him sexually harassing my 80 year old aunts (or younger cousins?) at the wedding.  He may not come since it is out of town, but he is still able to drive long distances, and he LOVES a free meal.  What should I do?....

Ohhh no, that is so awkward! My grandpa is getting like this too, even though my grandma is alive and they are still very much in love and happy. I think it has to do with senility or something... he always wants to give kisses to all the pretty young things in our family. For the most part, everyone is used to it, so if your family is anything like mine, maybe it won't bother people? I don't know... since he already seems to be doing it to his sisters-in-law, maybe they will be prepared. You can always have someone there keep an eye on him and issue warnings as necessary. It might be the only way he can cope with his loss which is sad...

Thanks for your thoughts bees :)

My mum actually doesn't know what to do either.  It's something very recent that has happened (he hasn't always been like this...or now he is showing his true colours?), but the biggest problem is that my dad died three years ago, and this isn't my mum's family.  We want to maintain ties with my dad's family as when someone dies, that is sometimes hard, but the great aunts are all quite elderly and not necessarily able to defend themselves/fully understand.  My grandmother kind of gets what is going on, but her ability to comprehend the world comes and goes at times.  I think I'm leaning toward not inviting him...as he is my grandmother's brother-in-law not brother....but it's still a tough call. 

@jordynrose:  That's what we were hoping...but he is REALLY cheap and always goes for a free meal if he can.  He is still quite active, and drives older family members around (for a price), so it's very possible he will come.

@lilyfaith That's a really interesting perspective - thank you for that.  I've been focusing so much on how uncomfortable I feel about the situation that I haven't been thinking in a compassionate way about what he might be going through.