(Closed) Well this is awkward…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

send him a contract that says, he can come if the doesnt hit on old ladies? or send him an invite that includes the address of the nearest nursing home! just kidding!

Definitely awkward, but I would think a phonecall would be warranted and be honest and truthful. He is in the age, where you dont have to be so diplomatic and worry about treading on his toes. Least he knows where he stands.

Or you could avoid the issue, sweep it under the rug and not send him an invite.


Post # 4
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Can you speak to your mom or other family member about this? It seems like a somewhat unusual situation that your family would probably know how best to handle.

Post # 5
627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ohhh no, that is so awkward! My grandpa is getting like this too, even though my grandma is alive and they are still very much in love and happy. I think it has to do with senility or something… he always wants to give kisses to all the pretty young things in our family. For the most part, everyone is used to it, so if your family is anything like mine, maybe it won’t bother people? I don’t know… since he already seems to be doing it to his sisters-in-law, maybe they will be prepared. You can always have someone there keep an eye on him and issue warnings as necessary. It might be the only way he can cope with his loss which is sad…

Post # 6
1816 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Maybe he won’t come?  Even though he likes a free meal, will he have to drive some distance for it?

Post # 8
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I work at a nursing home, and in my experience most of the men who act like this are depressed or lonely, especially when it’s a sudden change. One man at work thinks it’s okay to come up behind me and press himself against me! Ick! 

My advice – be straightforward, but don’t make a big deal of it. Just find time for you or a family member to say “Hey. This day is important, so be on your best behavior!” 

And maybe have someone else in the family pay him a little extra attention. I can almost guarantee you he’s just lonely, even with all of his other, er, quirks. 

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