Post # 1
So. FH and I just drove the three hours to meet his childrens mother half way to drop them off. We stopped ar a Harley store, because he needed copies of his keys. He was glancing over at a bike while waiting, and the sales person asked mw if he could have it…
I responded “No, I wish, but we have 4 already!” All three of us chuckeled end of it.
Well, we walked around some more, and he says to me… are you ready to go? Or do you want to stay ans embarass me a few more times? Ummm what? So of course, we walked to the car in silence, and are about 45 minutes in and he hasnt spoken a word to me…. was what i said bad? Did i miss somthing?
Post # 3
@Djacks88: That’s not fair to you! I think you handled it fine! Even the “I wish” part was an informing statement that even though it’s a nice thought it isn’t gonna happen. You weren’t embarassing at all.
Post # 4
@Djacks88: hmm, that doesnt sound embarassing to me??? just ask him what about that was upsetting so you know! im stumped!
Post # 5
Wow, he’s being really sensitive. It was a joke, and one that someone else initiated. Little too much machismo in that man for my taste.
Post # 6
Yeah the lady is the one who asked the awkward question.
Post # 7
I don’t get why he is so mad/embarassed by what you said. That is something I would jokingly say to my FI all of the time and he laughs about it.
Post # 8
I guess I’d ask why he’s so bothered because I’m completely clueless as to why he would be upset.
Post # 9
I dont even kbow what to say. Hes so whatever over it. Slamming stuff around. Its nuts.
Post # 10
i have NO idea why he’s angry… ask him.
Post # 11
That’s really… weird. I really don’t see what’s to be upset over?
Post # 12
@Djacks88: You bruised his little man pride. He wanted you to say “Oh no, he doesn’t have to ask me, he’s the man!” You didn’t, his ego got miffed. He’ll get over it.
Post # 13
By putting in the “I wish” part, you clearly were on side with the idea that was presented by the Salesperson (and they were just doing their job… trying to sell a Bike). You were just stating that it wasn’t practical / affordable (whatever) at this time.
I am older, and I would have to say that if you & your guy have 4 Bikes between you, and he is a Father of kids then in some ways he is ALREADY LUCKY
(Someone needs to tell him THAT PART)
I know plenty of Wives / GFs who made their men sell off the Bike(s) once there was kids.
He’s being silly, IMO
You were far from embarassing him / being controlling… or whatever he thinks he’s heard / experienced.
Post # 14
We have 4 what…. bikes or kids?
Either way, he sounds far too senstitive. Is he often ’embarassed’ by you opening your mouth? He sounds annoying, the silent treatment is for kids on the playground, not grown adults.
Post # 15
@Djacks88: the lady was out of line, not you. I would have said the same thing. Unless he’s embarassed that you pointed out you already have 4 bikes?
Post # 16
@Djacks88: Id let the awkward meaness stew. I would just not talk back either. Thats just ridiculous having him blame you, for absolutely nothing. Even if its a not-so-manly when a wife/gf/fiance says “no”… I mean seriously?! The sales person was joking and likely knew the answer prior to asking you the question. if you had come to buy, I think it wouldve been more obvious.