(Closed) WELP, it finally happened – SIL is engaged!

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yeah, when my FSIL (2 yrs older than fiance) found out we were engaged she basically said she was going to hang herself right after the wedding.  How morbid!  I wish she was getting engaged because a) she’d be less depressing all the time and b) we’d have something in common to talk about besides the latest ep of Grey’s Anatomy.

Sadly, no boyfriend in sight for her. 🙁

Post # 5
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4824 posts
Honey bee

It is a real bummer what they did to you, but I think this could be a turning point in your relationship with them and how easy it is to be around them in the future (even if they are never your best friend)

Remember what you would have liked from them when you were engaged and try to give it to them. You know the whole “be a bigger person” thing or the “you catch more flies with sugar than you do with vinegar”.

If for some reason things dont get better after you showing all the proper support and excitement, you will know that you have done everything you can. Also, I am sure your husband will notice and be proud that you have taken it all in stride and tried to be happy for his family.

Post # 7
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1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@7SEVENJ9: Can you distance yourself from the planning and that? It sounds like keeping a safe distance from planning could help you. Just think of it where you just have to show up for the shower and wedding, smile your way through the thing. There are always people who suck the excitement out of life events. It’s easier to ignore and not engage them than to be wrapped up in it.

Post # 9
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Wannabee

@7SEVENJ9:I have been in a situation similar to yours with my older sister and her SIL. The girl did everything she possibly could to make my sisters planning time and wedding day all about her, She even whent as far as to “Pass out” in the reception claiming my sister had ordered her dress too small when it was obvious nothing was too small for the chick.

My sister confronted her mid reception and told her if she didn’t shut up she would show her how a real woman handed her feelings. We are from Louisiana and have a but of coonass in our blood so sometimes we handle things a little differntly than most people think we should.

I’m not saying confront the chick. But be yourself if they ask your opinion on a dress and you hate it Tell them. If you’re late or make something complicated on accident (or purpose ;]) Tell them to build a bridge, and if they label you as the b*tch for just because you’re being who you are just say. Yeah I am ;] And proud of it. They may not ever be your friends but don’t let them change who you are. Be nice and cordial but stand up for yourself. Respect yourself or they’ll never respect you. Be who your husband fell in love with and if they don’t like it. Tell’em to suck it. (You may want to rephrase this if your family is in a higher society.)

Post # 11
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

OMG, I havent signed in for months but I just HAD to follow up with the SIL drama you were going though. I can not believe she showed up in a freaking party bus – drunk!!!  I am still having FSIL drama myself… in fact, she is not invited at this point. This was the FI decision, and boy do I support it, obviously! I can’t believe people are so aweful. Hope all is well with you!! 🙂

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