Welp. Now the whole family knows.

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

womp womp indeed.

I suppose everything happens for a reason! You’ll just have to wait to find out “why.”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I can’t really put myself in your place since I’ve never been pregnant, and therefore had no news for people to find out about, but I can tell you from my sister’s experience.  She told everyone very early, and then discovered it was an ectopic pregnancy and had to end it. 

It was hard for her obviously, but I made sure to help her share that news with family so she wouldn’t have to go through that conversation over and over again.  Family helped spread the good news, and if you needed them to, they can help share the bad too.  

But, think positive! Now you have a whole bunch more people sending positive thoughts your way! 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Sorry your news got spoiled, that sucks!

But I have a question. I have never been pregnant so consider me clueless. But why would you not be able to go to the hospital because you are pregnant?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Aww that does suck. 🙁 When I got pregnant the first time, I wanted to wait until the end of the first trimester. However my parents came down for a weekend to visit with my in laws (they live several hours apart and NEVER get together) when I was around 10 weeks, so we decided to tell just our parents. It was a nice surprise. 

However, it was then decided we had to tell my husband’s grandmother, because she would be very hurt if she found out that others knew before her. So we told her, and swore her to secrecy until I was further along before we would tell the rest of the family. She of course told every single extended family member she could think of.

One week after that, I found out I had a missed miscarriage. My husband called his mom and made her spread the word on his side of the family, and I, to be completely honest, sent my mother a text message saying what happened and that I didn’t want to talk about it (I wasn’t dealing with it very well). I figured if his grandmother wanted to share our good news so badly, she could spread our bad news too. I am a very private, introverted person so having everyone know about my miscarriage was almost more than I could take. I definitely would not have been able to share my bad news with everyone 

I am currently pregnant again, and we did tell our parents under penalty of severe flogging if they opened their mouths to anyone, including my husband’s grandmother before we were ready to share. Thankfully things have been working out much better this go round, I am 19 weeks along today.

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@PuntaCanaBride:  I would assume for fear of catching mrsa, but I’m just guessing.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Do make sure your aunts and uncles know that it is still early, and that for the moment it is a family secrete only and you do not want them sharing with anyone else. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Awe man, they should have just said you were sick or something.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@IAmTheShadow:  Thanks! We’re thrilled everything has been going well so far. We found out we’re having a little girl, so now my biggest challenge is convincing my mother I don’t need ALL OF THE PINK THINGS haha.

Haha she is a stinker! I do love his grandmother dearly, and I know she would never do something to intentionally hurt my feelings. I mean she’s in her 80’s and it was her first great-grandchild, there’s no curbing that enthusiasm! 😉

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Awwwww booo!! People and their big mouths.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  That’s what I was thinking!  It was too early for us to say anything at Christmas – not even my parents knew – but DH did a good job of saying that I wasn’t eating anything because I wasn’t feeling too well. Which was the truth, sort of, and no one suspected a thing.

Sorry though. Hopefully your family can keep it to themselves and you’ll be able to have your moment to share to everyone else when you’re ready! 🙂

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