Post # 1
- Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema
And I can’t figure out why!
They are friends of FI’s, but I have met them both many times.
It was a lovely venue and while there were quite a few things I personally would do differently and am clearly looking out for since I am in the process of planning my own wedding, it wasn’t a bad wedding. The guests were looked after etc……I just didn’t have fun!
I also didn’t cry, which is a wedding first for me! Possibly because we couldn’t hear the vows? But there are still plenty of moments where I usually tear up! Even watching wedding shows on tv!
Has anyone been to a perfectly fine wedding but just didn’t enjoy it? Do you know why? Help me figure it out!!!
(FI had a great time, but I guess since there were plenty of his close friends – aquaintances for me – it makes it a little different)
Post # 3
@MissBettsy: yeah i have been to two….and at both of them….i had had a horrible work week and just didnt want to do crap and then i sat through a wedding and just didnt get into it…sometimes im just not in a wedding mood…esp when ive been to like 5 already….i wouldnt sweat it…maybe its because your not really close to the couple so while it was lovely, you just werent as into it since your not that close to them…
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema
The thing is I was looking forward to it! lol
Have been to 2 other weddings with FI, one where I hadn’t even met the couple and had a great time.
Ah well, I guess I just have to put it down to one of those things….
Post # 5
@MissBettsy: I bet actors and directors get less pleasure out of watching movies too. I think it’s the fact of being in the wedding planning process, instead of sitting back and enjoying the wedding you’re examining details, thinking of what you’d do differently, what you’d like to do the same, how your own wedding will be…it takes you out of the moment I think. Don’t sweat it, most people at your wedding won’t be planning their own 😉
Post # 6
Was the DJ/music good? I think that really makes or breaks the night!
I have been to a wedding where I didnt dig the music, and didnt dance much..
Post # 7
I blame the wedding planning! I can totally relate to the whole noticing things you’d do differently.. if you weren’t in the midst of planning, you probably wouldn’t even notice.
Or maybe it was just a typical type of wedding with no “wow” factor?
Did the other guests seem to be enjoying themselves? Hear anyone complaining?
Post # 8
@MissBettsy: No, never.
Maybe being immersed in wedding planning has put you in “analysed and criticise” mode instead of “enjoy it” mode?
Or maybe it was nothing to do with the wedding and you were just feeling flat…
Post # 9
@MissBettsy: I have, but it was due to the delay in serving food. It was a Friday wedding and I had run straight from work to the wedding without having time to stop and eat. They didn’t serve dinner until 10 pm and I was starving! Other than that, the wedding was beautiful and music was good. But I swear if I’m hungry, it ruins everything for me.
Post # 10
I think the fact that it was FI’s friends, not yours would be enough for me to not really have fun. I have so much more fun when I know more than one person (FI) at the wedding. Otherwise, we keep to ourselves, don’t drink very much, and have a decent time but not really super fun usually.
Post # 11
I’ve never been to a wedding that I thought sucked. When I haven’t had as good a time it’s usually been more about me than about the wedding – I was tired from traveling so not in as much of a party mood, or I didn’t know many people at the wedding and didn’t have a lot of people to socialize with (obviously I try to meet new people, but sometimes that doesn’t work).
Most weddings I’ve been to have provided a full dinner and either some drinks (wine on the tables, a few drink tickets) or an open bar and a DJ or band for entertainment. I’ve been to a lot of weddings that were in community halls/etc and weren’t super fancy. But I’ve never been to a wedding where I felt like they were “cheaping out” on the guests.
Post # 12
@MissBettsy: I went to one wedding where everything was by the book, and there wasn’t anything I could say that made it not fun, but it just wasn’t. The wedding was smaller, which I never thought I’d mind, but it made us feel pressure to bring the fun and dance, and we just weren’t into it. I think it didn’t help that the groom’s sister had gotten married only two months before that so we basically attended two weddings in two months with all the same people. We had a blast at the groom’s sister’s wedding.
Another wedding that also did all the right things, but wasn’t fun was a friend’s wedding that was the weekend after ours. That alone was a bit annoying since we were still coming down from our whole wedding. I think the main killer there was that 90% of the guests were over 50, so very few people danced and it just wasn’t a fun atmosphere. The bride and groom also were pretty cold to each other and the whole thing felt a bit forced.
I think at the end of the day all the pretty details don’t matter nearly as much as the guests and the love the bride and groom have for each other. When the guests are happy and ready for a good time, and you can tell the bride and groom are super happy, it all makes the atmosphere so much better.