Were all the extras worth it?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@BriansBride:  I don’t regret a single solitary thing.

I did washroom baskets, guest bags in each room, special snacks during our rehearsal dinner over night stay, flip flops at the reception and loads of decor touches. I loved it all!

I did opt to skip ceremony programs and I am glad that I did. I stand by the motto that unless your wedding has some special element that needs explaining there really isn’t a need.

Post # 5
2358 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Everything I put effort and budget into was worth it, and anything I didn’t include would not have been worth it. I didn’t sacrifice anything I wanted to have. Except the shell strings hanging from the tree behind the ceremony. But that really wasn’t something I was dead set on. 

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Totally worth it: Transportation from the ceremony to the reception, and the reception to the hotel, my bouquet, our photog

Totally NOT worth it: Programs, corsages/BM bouquets, guest book, unlimited soda

Post # 7
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Some little things I wouldn’t have done again like personalized napkins and paper striped straws in our wedding colors. I also did mad libs but almost nobody filled them out which was dissapointing so totally not worth the effort.

Post # 8
2578 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The biggest thing we sprung for was open bar with top shelf liquors. We also upped the hours from 4 to 8. Taking the food into consideration, as well, guests are still commenting about what a kickass party it was. As for the little touches (flip flop basket, glow sticks, bubbles, programs, etc.), people loved those too. We had been to 4 weddings that had no personalization/fun whatsoever, so I think we wanted to cram in as much as possible, and everyone realized it.

That only thing that people didn’t really take advantage of were the ‘I Spy’s on the tables, and our Flickr account that no one posted to, lol.


Post # 9
3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@BriansBride:  I didn’t do a LOT of things due to budget constraints, & I’m mostly happy about all of it. I was able to do my wedding for just over 6k for 100 guests.

I only had 3 splurges (what I consider splurges, anyway). I did an open bar, which cost us $700. We got our photographer for 4hrs for $700 (I regret not getting her for 1 more hour), & we paid $1,350 for our venue.

The things I did not do in order to save money: No “save the dates”, no ceremony/reception programs, free invites from partypop.com which also gave our guests an online RSVP code which saved us on shipping for RSVP cards since we didn’t have them, no limo, no ceremony decor (we used what the venue had on hand), no welcome baskets, free favors because were a gift from the best man’s wife (cookies & fruit tarts), no rehearsal dinner (we rehearsed the day before with just the bridal party when we were setting up the venue), no day after brunch (many of us breakfast the next morning, but it was a spur the moment decision & everyone paid their own tab), no formal teired wedding cake. 

Other cheap things are: my dress was only $500 after alterations, all the venue decor cost less than $500, & we got all of our catering for $8.50pp (soup, salad, sandwiches from & red velvet sheet cake an amazing local restaurant).

I think my wedding was still pretty awesome!

Post # 10
1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We had napkins with our names on them. They were cute, but honestly, I still have like a million of them. Totally not worth it. We didn’t do many extras, we splurged on our cake and photographer and were very on-budget with the rest. I had plastic (but pretty) plates, plastic (but pretty) silverware, plastic (but pretty) wine glasses, etc. Throw them out at the end of the night, no cleaning and stuff, all good. Nobody missed anything and everyone said our wedding was one of the most fun they’d ever been to. 😀

Post # 11
632 posts
Busy bee

@MrsSkeletonKey:  What a fantastic deal you got on your food. $8.50 pp, that’s awesome, good job!!

Post # 12
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We did washroom baskets because I always very much appreciate them as a guest, so I wanted to give that to my guests.  They were like $25 each because we just went to the dollar store for supplies, and worth every dime.

Other than that, we didn’t have many extras or splurges… We put more money into a great DJ, photographer, and bar, and we found that to be the right choice.  I don’t regret a thing; I didn’t miss that stuff, our guests didn’t miss that stuff, and we were able to put the money on the stuff that gave our guests a great night. 

Post # 13
3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Kazza:  Thanks! It was definitely yummy too 🙂


Post # 14
2 posts
  • Wedding: December 2013

worth it:

photobooth: Our guests had a blast.  Also, the pictures were hilarious, and we had so much fun looking at them after the wedding.   The photographer working the photobooth ended up taking pictures of the reception just for fun, and he was nice enough to edit them/ send them to us, so we got free pictures!  (he had an assistant)

sparklers: it was such an amazing end to our night walking out to the car with our guests cheering us on!  our friends had too much fun with the sparklers.

upgrading our menu: so many people commented on how awesome the food was.

day of coordinator: no one asked me logistic questions the day of the wedding, and it made my life easier.

bus transportation for guests: we didn’t have to worry about people getting home safely, and people were able to enjoy themselves

dance lessons: we had fun learning how to dance, the actual first dance was kind of a secondary goal.

not worth it:

favors.  we spent a lot of time making baked goods.  I didn’t even notice if people ate them or took them home.

popcorn bar:  the venue served huge portions, so people didn’t make much use of this.

wine glasses for bridesmaids: I don’t think anyone kept theirs.  I didn’t mind much, but with the hectic schedule of the wedding day, it was inconvenient to put their glasses away or to bring the glasses with them.

ceremony programs: I spent wayy too much time making these.  No one kept them.

In general, I think if it’s an “extra” that will make you or your guests feel more comfortable / have more fun, go for it! If it’s just for pictures, or if it’s something you feel like you “should” do, then it’s not.

Post # 15
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, this was helpful. I guess I will save my time/money and not make programs or a program “board” after all.

Post # 16
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Personalized napkins.  I should have just bought regular napkins in my colors.  Way cheaper and I wouldn’t have a bunch left over.

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