(Closed) We’re Eloping! And elopement announcement question?

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If there are people in attendance then you technically are not eloping this would be an intimate wedding

I would send an announcement like “____ & ____ were married on __________ in an intimate ceremony in Gatlinburg, TN” Whichever option you choose you are probably going to get calls about it!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

if you are going to do a resturant thing afterwards and people are going to have to pay for their own meal i wouldnt make any mention of it at all to be honest – its just not a nice thing to put on an invite

do your annoucement annoucing your marriage and leave it at that. we did something similar, a we’ve eloped annoucement but we included after elopment party invite/details.  if people phone you are just going to have to deal with it, i know my MIL got calls from family when we eloped so she took care of them thankfully

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@paigers91:  I totally understand. We are eloping due to MY family being crazy (and lots of other reasons). I wasn’t going to use the word elopement in the anouncement or anything we send to family (if we do) only because there’s really no good way to word it!!!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sorry, I personally do not like any of this. Sending elopement announcements sounds like all you are doing is asking for gifts. If they were not important enough to be invited to your wedding, then why send an announcement. Also, you cannot have a reception sort of thing without paying. Is this also just to get gifts?

Can you just have an open house cake and punch party where people can congratulate you two and be included in some sort of celebration? Then an announcement/invitation would make sense.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Soon.to.be.Mrs.Freeman:  are you saying that if you elope you shouldn’t send anything to family to let them know that you are married? I don’t think annoucing “hey I’m married” is saying “please send me a gift!” I do agree with you on the dinner thing. I also do not think if someone chooses to elope that they are saying the people who were not invited are not important. 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I do not think that just because you want to elope or have an intimate wedding that those people who won’t be there aren’t “important enough.”  Maybe a person (like me) just wants the day to be as intimate as possible.  I do, however, think it’s perfectly okay to send out some sort of announcement sharing your joy.  Personally, I don’t expect any gifts whatsoever, but we will be sending out a newsletter/newspaper style (I have a writing background) announcement after we’ve gotten the formal pictures back.  This is an idea I saw on a site and fell in love with it.  Send something out, but I would not mention the dinner because they probably will expect you to pay.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

When my husband and I eloped (technically an “intimate wedding”, I guess), we sent out an announcement afterward to all our relatives and friends. I don’t remember exactly what wording we used, but we included a link to a private online album of all the photos, and people loved getting to look at the pics.

So there’s another idea for you. (:

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Jade33:  That’s what I thought I would do too. I like that idea!

@Soon.to.be.Mrs.Freeman:  One thing I thought of…eloping or having an intimate wedding is really no different than having a destination wedding with few people and then announcing it later. 

@paigers91:  Also, my eloping v intimate wedding thing probably came off bitchy so I’m sorry! In the end it doesn’t really matter what you call it.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Sending elopement announcements sounds like all you are doing is asking for gifts

 

we mailed out over 100 annoucements and we received 1 gift only (flowers) so the majority of our friends/family didnt view it as a reason to send gifts

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