We're eloping should we expect wedding presents?

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We didn’t expect anything, but were pleasantly surprised by a couple of our friends.  I do not think it’s customary to receive gifts if you haven’t hosted an event.


Post # 4
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@1blingedoutbride:  My uncle eloped. Everyone in the family found out when he was home on a break from his world travels. I know my parents sent a nice gift.

FI and I would personally gift the couple, however, I don’t know what is customary.


Post # 5
6018 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Some people will gift you something I’m sure, but I wouldn’t expect it.  I would give something depending on who it was. 

Post # 6
1231 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would not expect them but some family and friends may get you something anyway. Just to congratulate you.

Post # 7
2976 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

No, don’t expect it. I’m sure some of your friends and relatives will still get you something, even if its a bottle of champagne.

Post # 8
3751 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I probably wouldn’t send a gift unless you were my sibling.

Post # 9
6817 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Since you don’t usually announce your elopement until after it’s happened, you generally get fewer gifts.

Post # 10
9027 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t expect anything.  I’m sure some people will send something, but probably just close friends or immediate family.  I wouldn’t send a gift unless you were a very close friend (like one of my bridesmaids) or a sibling.

Post # 11
3738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@1blingedoutbride:  I wouldn’t expect many gifts. You might get some but if there’s no wedding and reception, there’s likely not to be many gifts.

Post # 12
2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

People knew we were eloping all along and I even got two showers… I think people will send gifts regardless if its a big old fashioned wedding or a private elopement.

Post # 13
1725 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

@1blingedoutbride:  I wouldn’t EXPECT gifts, if people give then that is nice. Now, if you have a reception or something when you come home then you can choose to not ask for gifts when inviting people or you can include registry information. It is up to you.

Post # 15
6125 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@1blingedoutbride:  In general, I would say do not expect any wedding gifts.

We did get gifts from our immeidate family though.  I really did not expect that.

I really had no intentions of registering, but my MIL insisted because her sister was going to get us something so might as well be something we wanted.  So I registered, and felt really silly about it.  She never got us anything, so I just felt weird about it all.  Another uncle’s girlfriend found us onher own and did get us something, which was also a huge surprise.

My THIRD cousin just eloped.  I’m thinking of getting them a GC and card because well, I have a special spot in my heart for elopers!

Post # 16
1215 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@1blingedoutbride:  You should never really “expect” presents. That being said I’m pretty sure if we eloped our family would still give us gifts, but probably not extended family and guests.

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