- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
So ladies, Ive been avoiding the Wedding Bee for a while as it just made waiting SO MUCH harder. And a few weeks ago I even “closed” my FB account; all the pictures of babies and weddings were really getting to me. My waiting period was really hard so while I have moments of pure joy its currently mostly relief that we’ve moved on to the next step.
BG: At his prompting we went ring shopping in March. I heard in April and then May that we’d be engaged REALLY, really soon. Then in June he says it will be in the summer. Every few weeks Im a hot, snotty mess of frustrated tears. Then I was told we’d be engaged by the end of August or he would move out (I own the house). The whole month was hard but the last week of August was by far the hardest as each night I would come home and….. nothing. Finally August 31st comes and Im MAD but try to act normal just in case he has some sort of surprise. There is a lull in the conversation and finally I say something to the effect, “Either leave or commit. You promised we’d be engaged by today.”
Nice, huh? His response, “There is a problem with the ring.”
Turns out the jeweler chipped the emerald (that *I* chose and paid for since that was important to me, and bf was having enough issues choosing a semi-mount) while trying to set it and was sending it off to be re-cut but some master gemstone cutter blah blah blah would take 2 weeks blah blah blah. I lost my sh**. BF knew Id be upset which is why he decided to not tell me (like Id magically forget??). Here I was coming home and rightfully expecting a proposal when he wasnt even going to have the ring till well into September. It was not a good night and I kept him up pretty late complaining/ yelling and crying. He promised we’d be engaged my September 18th. I made it clear that this was his last chance; he was the one who just HAD to have a ring to get engaged and that if things hadnt happened by the end of the day not only was he moving out but we were done. I deserve someone who doesnt jerk me around.
Ive been insanely busy with my full time job, part time job and 2 classes. He tried to take me out the Saturday before D-Day but that didnt work out like it should have due to my work schedule. Finally, September 18th arrives and he finally asks me to be his wife. It was lovely and sweet and thoughtful. And took long enough to get here 😉
Im so relieved things finally worked out. The lessons I learned: 1) waiting pays off if you are waiting for the right man 2) men have no clue how hard it can be for those of us waiting.
Ill post pictures of the ring this weekend. I havent had time to get good pictures, just blurry ones on my phone for close family who wouldnt let up.