We're going to Europe for our honeymoon and everyone is against it….

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
7940 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Well your FIs mother sounds insane first of all. 

2ndly, do what you want! I will say that that’s a lot of travel and touristing and you’ll be exhausted! But if that’s the trip you want go for it! 

Personally I would be looking for more of a lay around a beautiful locale with excellent food and alternate between sex and relaxing kind of trip- but you gotta do what makes you happy and just smile and nod to everyone else. 

Post # 4
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Hotel Baronette Renaissance in Novi

@Birdiebaby4:  What?!  That sounds absolutely ridiculous.  FI and I are going to Europe too… probably just France (Paris and the such), and we might take the train to Belgium.  IMO there is nothing wrong with what you guys chose to do.  We also looked into Mexico/Sandals resorts, etc. and they were roughly the same price, even a little more, as you mentioned.  We are not beach people at all, and can’t justify spending that amount of money and only sort of having something fun that we would enjoy.  As for the superstitous stuff… that’s bupkis.  I don’t believe in superstition; things inevitably go wrong.  I don’t think you’re going to be kidnapped by terrorists in Europe; if anything, I think it’s much safer than going to Jamaica, Mexico, or the Carribbean countries where you’re pretty much only safe on your resort. 

Post # 5
1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Europe is awesome and if it’s where the two of you want to go then do it!  This trip is for you two not for anyone else!

I have no clue how the printer messing up on your STDs is an ill omen, I’d be questioning the ability of the printer not of your honeymoon!

Post # 6
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@Birdiebaby4:  Screw ’em! They are being irrational. We are going on a month long honeymoon in Greece and Rome. Because it is so long we are going to rough it and try to spend around $6000. We are going to start TTC shortly after the honeymoon so this is our last big trip for awhile. It really is none of their business where you go and there is nothing wrong with your plans. Both my parents are huge travellers and love we are going to Europe. My dad used to be a travel writer, particularly in Europe. I don’t think we have told FH’s family where we plan on going yet… Going the Spring after the wedding though, so over a year away. 

Post # 7
771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Birdiebaby4:  sounds great and reasonable! My dream honeymoon would be Paris but I thought same way as you- before kids etc… My Paris trip turned into “well while we are there we may as well see London etc…”. Fiancé is no longer a fan. He wants to relax on the honeymoon and said if I really want it he will do two countries max. We ultimately decided against it because it would be going non stop to see everything Plus we d have a week in Vegas before. It sounds ahhhhhmazing to me though but I can see where you may want longer for 3 countries. Have fun!

Post # 8
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Birdiebaby4:  she sounds like a control freak who is strangely unhappy that you havent decided on a honeymoon that SHE wants to take..

has she personally been to Europe? She sounds nearly jealous…

Post # 9
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

There is nothing wrong with any of your plans except that you’re going to Europe in August…=)  The Chunnel is not bad…you barely notice it, in fact!  

Post # 10
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

These people are nuts! Europe rules! I just wish you could go for longer!

Post # 11
2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

Parents will always be parents!

I wouldn’t go through a travel agent. Read travel forums like Trip Advisor, Virtual Tourist, Lonely Planet, Thorn Tree. Locals and people who have already been there will be lots of help.

My FI and I are also wanting an Europe honeymoon. I told him to be prepared to rough it on most legs of the journey with staying on bunk beds at Youth Hostels. I’ve travelled ALONE to the UK from Canada in 2008. I’m still alive!

I would highly recommend YHA. Cheap and comfortable. The trick to travelling to Europe is avoid the tourist spots as they gouge on prices.

Post # 12
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Birdiebaby4:  you’re not wrong! Your in laws are just being overbearing. I’ve done the guided tours and the hostel thing while backpacking, as well as the luxury hotel route – and it was great every time. You guys will have a great time. 🙂


Post # 13
42182 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Birdiebaby4:  You are adults. Do what you want. You can’t make your plans in life based on other people’s opinions.

 I do think you need to budget a bit more than $1000 for extras and meals. That is less than $100 per day for two people. Not much room for food or sightseeing.

ps check out the free options before you go. Museums and state owned galleries are free in many European cities.

pps Rather than line up, you can make reservations for many attractions for groups of 10 or more.Make the reservation in your name, then when you arrive at the back of the lineup, get 8 other people to join you. You will never have difficulty finding 8 people to bypass the wait.

Post # 14
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I agree 11 days is pretty short since it takes me a week just to get over jetlag, but you can still do a lot. I don’t think your package sounds shady, and terrorist attacks can happen anywhere. We go to Europe every year and it’s great. I think you will have a fabulous time!!

Post # 15
970 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@Birdiebaby4:  Here’s the thing – it is YOUR honeymoon!!!!!! If you get to do the things you want, you have succeeded in your time there…..if you don’t, you can always go back sometime 🙂 AND it’s not their decision and whatnot with how much time you spend there and do the things YOU GUYS want to do! Woo just do what you want to do.

Post # 16
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Birdiebaby4:  Ok so being from europe I say the only problem with your itinerary is that thats alot of flights in 11 days… I mean you have to get to the airport 2/3 hours before your flight and then theres possible delays and getting from the aiport to your hotel, unpacking, repacking e.t.c

It will not be relaxing but if you are happy doing all that then there should be no problem and you’ll have a great time… either your fiances family have some personal issues or they are not telling you the real reason….

I mean terrorism??? snobby europeans??? (well like any place your not going to like everyone but generalising all europeans as snobby is more than a bit wrong of her) Expensive? well some places yes espeically since your going to the capitols but preplan and you’ll be able to do it all within your budget, look out out for tourist cards, and shady package??? Virgin are well known tour operators for how good they are

Really just ignore her and do what you want


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