I didn’t want to do a whole post on the stuff that went wrong, but I think it may be kind of therapeutic to write it all out. So I’m going to share just here in this post…
The musicians ruined everything. They didn’t play a single prelude song. I spent hours choosing and purchasing instrumental music for before/after the ceremony. They didn’t start the ceremony music until probably 30 minutes after the set time – after probably a dozen people had gone and yelled at them to PLEASE start. They kept getting music mixed up. We had to walk out after the ceremony to the bridal march rather than the recessional………..
They never played our father-daughter song. We begged them to do it and they started going through the music trying to find it – letting each song play for a few seconds and then skipping to the next one. The guests were all just sitting and waiting during this. We finally told them to just skip it…….. They didn’t play a single song that I requested for the reception. I even gave them the music on CD to play but they wouldn’t do it.
When the musicians finally played live music, it was really bad. Like, people cringed, bad. I’ve heard them before and they don’t usually play so bad… Then they’d only play about 15 minutes and then sit at a table for an hour.
There were tons of blocks of time with COMPLETE silence – no background music whatsoever. My sister went and got mad at them but it didn’t get any better.
We rented 20 blue lights from our florist. They only brought 10 – two of which were burned out and never came on. Many of our decorations (linens, flowers, etc.) were just white because the blue lighting was supposed to give them color.
Due to the musicians’ refusal to start our ceremony on time, we were very late going to take our photos. By the time we got to the limo, the driver said we only had 10 minutes left. He refused to go anywhere until we paid him another hour. My husband and I had no cash on hand, so everyone had to dig through their pockets and contribute whatever they had. We had to quickly rip open cards and search for cash 🙁
The pastor forgot about my dad’s blessing, so it was skipped. My dad had prepared a special prayer for us and was supposed to go up and pray over us right after the vows 🙁
My husband’s mom refused to sit at the head table. She had a personalized place card there and everyone else was there. My parents had never met her before and kept asking why she wasn’t sitting there. I still don’t know why she didn’t…
7 of our 21 tables were empty. 🙁 This was probably the part that HURT the most. The other stuff going wrong was frustrating, but this hurt. It was super cold here that night (for where we live), so I think people didn’t travel or go out. But our wedding as completely inside and I was never cold in my strapless dress. We have tons of food & alcohol left over 🙁
I’m writing this with tears in my eyes. When I woke up the day after the wedding and realized that it hadn’t been a dream I cried for about half an hour. Just had to let it out…
But at the end of the day, I’m married to the love of my life and that’s what counts. The POSITIVES: Our pastor’s message was perfect, our vows/rings was a really romantic, special moment. Many guests told me they cried during my vows. Our final prayer with the pastor was perfect. Walking up the aisle with my dad was everything I expected it to be. The cake our aunt made was perfect. And I guess that’s the important part. In the past few days I realized who the most important people in my life are – who will stick by me no matter what – who will bring a smile to my face when I’ve got tears in my eyes. So for that, and for my amazing husband, I am so grateful 🙂