- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I’m thrilled to announce that Fi is now Darling Husband and we are happy newliweds!
The ceremony was beautiful and the reception was a great time for everyone!
I don’t have pictures yet, but will post a few later on.
A few things I learned:
1. Spanx = indigestion! At least for me! Especially when eating rich wedding food! I was good and followed the advice to be sure to eat on my wedding day. Unfortunately, I had some tummy upset over the next couple days. Nerves + spanx + cupcakes = ickiness!
2. My bridal headband was painfully uncomfortable! I wish I would have practiced wearing it and realized that it was painful to keep on for more than a few minutes. Luckily our ceremony was short, but my head was throbbing throughout. I almost took it off mid-ceremony! It was my something borrowed or else I might have.
3. I didn’t get my brother a boutoniere and I think his feelings were hurt 🙁 Everyone else in our immediate families were part of the wedding party so they got some kind of flowers. I apologized profusely and said we order bouts to go with each tux we rented. Anyway, I wish I would have gotten him one (it’s not like either of us have tons of siblings).
4. Bar miscommunication. Our reception was in a hotel and we had complimentary beer, wine, and soda. There’s a full bar down the hallway that we figured people could go to if they wanted something stronger. But our reception bar had hard alcohol for sale! I was disappointed because I wanted everything in the room to be complimentary for the guests. Also, I had asked the event coordinator to make sure there wasn’t a tip jar out at the bar and there was one (they put it away when we asked).
5. General family miscommunication. My brother didn’t know that he was supposed to be at pictures (I sent him an email, but….). My
6. There was a huge block party in downtown Madison not far from where we got our hair and make-up done. Also, a large running race. I managed to avoid traffic, but some of our guests got stuck in it! One ended up going by the block party and saw public nudity and urination! Anyway, just know what’s going on in your area on your wedding day and try to pass the info onto your out-of-town guests!
7. We had wanted group pictures at the reception of various collections of guests (all the pilots, college friends, everyone from my mom’s side of the family, etc.). That just was not going to happen! Way too much activity!
A few things I’m really glad we did!
1. I put a modesty panel over my cleavage so I wouldn’t have to bother adjusting my dress to cover “the girls” all night. I’m so glad i did that!
2. I scheduled in some buffer time in the day’s schedule. I’m really glad I did that! We were late for most things.
3. Had activities for the kids! We had activity books for during the ceremony and a table during the reception. Actually, some of the adults liked checking out the kids’ activity table we had. My Mother-In-Law is a children’s librarian and brought a ton of stuff. It really helped keep the adults happy too because they didn’t have to worry about entertaining their children.
4. Delegated! I gave up on being super-bride and called up friends and family to help out with various tasks. The old saying “many hands make light work” was proven true when we were able to clear our stuff out of the reception hall in less than fifteen minutes!
5. Had activities for our guests! We had a map with flags for people to mark where they travelled from for our big day. Our wedding was basically a destination wedding because 95% of our guests travelled at least an hour so it was fun. Plus it was a good conversation piece.
6. Personal touches! Our centerpieces were books and airplanes because I’m an academic and Darling Husband is a pilot. Our table numbers were places that were special to the two of us. People noticed how much we had put into our day and really appreciated it.
7. Relaxed and enjoyed the day! Once I got to the church and put my dress on I was calm and enjoying myself for the rest of the day. I figured at that point everything else was out of my control!
8. I know this isn’t the case for everyone, but I’m glad Darling Husband and I didn’t see each other until I walked down the aisle. I feel like it made that moment magical for us! Plus it helped with splitting up our respective duties that day (he took care of setting up for the reception, I took care of making sure all the women got dressed and beautified!). If we would have been rushing around and dealing with tedious details up until the ceremony, I don’t think it would have been the same.
9. Had a special, non-alcoholic drink at the reception. I’m a recovering alcoholic and Darling Husband rarely drinks. Lots of adults at the reception don’t drink alcohol for various reasons so we wanted to have more than just coke and water for them. We special ordered a barrel of local root beer. It was a hit!
I’ll post some DIY ideas later on, just wanted to pass on my experience now!