Post # 1
This is my first post, and I would really like some re-assurance. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, and have started talking really seriously about getting married. We even designed the rings online last night, and I started a pinterest board to help me organize my thoughts.
I can’t solidly decide. On. Anything. I’ve never had to Google “figure flattery” anything! I even needed to go back and amend my search to “how in the heck do I find the official name for my body shape!?” And when you couple that with trying to stick with a color scheme (which I’ve aready changed 3 times) settings, bridesmaids dresses and all the rest, it’s hard to find what you really want, and not just what catches your eye first.
I feel like I may have opened up a giant can of worms. Could anyone suggest some good websites to help guide me along my way? This whole going-in-blind on the search engine thing is just not helping me narrow anything down.
Post # 3
It just depends on what your looking for. I enjoy reading blogs and looking at other people’s pictures of their weddings for inspiration.
Offbeat bride is one of my favorites: http://offbeatbride.com/
& Martha always has great examples of all things wedding: http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/
Just start looking around and getting some ideas. The pressure is off and you have plenty of time to decide what you want. Talk to your boyfriend too and decide on how big/lavish you want your wedding. This is supposed to be fun 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Well– for starters: SLOW DOWN!!!
You’re not even engaged yet! You shouldn’t be in any huge rush to make all the planning decisions– keep your pintrest page going, and add all the things that catch you eye. In a few months, once you have a nice collection going, then you can decide which ones you really like, and which ones were just flashy enough to get your attention.
Post # 5
Good job getting an early start, but I agree with both of the PP. Start looking at blogs. Stylemepretty.com is good. Also, if you google wedding photographers, their sites usually have a bunch of photos from their weddings. I drew a lot of inspiration just by looking at other people’s wedding photos! And sloooooow down. It’s all a bit overwhelming at first, so don’t get ahead of yourself.
Post # 6
This is all very sound advice. Especially the part about slowing down! Thank you. My boyfriend is notoriously indifferent about this sort of stuff, so I’m kind of feeling the urge to round up all my best ideas to see if what I like is even something he’d appreciate.
I think I just need to know that this can be fun and not anxiety-inducing when it gets to be go-time.
Post # 7
I’d suggest picking one key element you just HAVE to have and working from there. For me? I absolutely HAD to have the color robin’s egg blue and it HAD to be in the summer. Everything else fell into place from there.
Post # 8
On a side note, some people get very judgy if you start planning a wedding before you’re engaged (not debating whether or not this is right or wrong) so you *might* want to consider hiding your Pinterest from nosies you know who might make side comments
Post # 9
I started a word doc (not on Pinterest yet) and just started pasting pictures I liked, no matter what they looked liked. Over time, I noticed themes coming out from my “like” page, and I started gravitating towards certain colors and styles.
Grab some bride magazines or go online and just start pulling stuff you like, regardless of color, style, etc. Then take a week or so off from it, come back and see if you notice anything you picked ALOT.
Have fun, this is not a time for stress yet!
Post # 10
I think the venue is a good place to start – it will really set the tone for what kind of wedding you want to have. I guess in order to chose the venue though you need to have an idea of what kind of wedding you want (formal, causal, shabby chic, modern, etc.) Pinterest is a great way to collect ideas – I find that once I go back to my board and look at all my pins, I see a general trend in everythign I have pinned and that helps confirm to me what I am looking for.
For instance, I had NO idea what I wanted to do for hair but I pinned anything and everything I saw for hair that i LOVED and I went back a few weeks later to my “wedding hair” board and saw that all 50 pins basically were side swept, simple updo with a bun in the back – it was CLEAR what kind of hair style I want to have, even though in my mind I had no idea.
Good luck and happy planning! It can definitely be overwhelming with so many choices out there! Maybe consider a wedding planner if you have the budget for it – they can help you hone in on a vision
Post # 11
I agree with PPs–pin like crazy just for fun/to capture ideas. Then, once you get engaged and figure out your date, number of guests and venue then start narrowing down what exactly you want. DIY for 50 is different than 200 guests, shabby chic may not work for a more elegant venue, etc. I had a few concrete themes going into the wedding discussions with SO but I wasn’t really factoring him much into those visions.
Now we’re looking at a much smaller guest list, brunch instead of a drink/dinner/dance reception. And not only did that change my vision, but fInding the venue to fit our dream changed it again. So now I’m back to an elegant, antique, red roses and lace kind of wedding–just scaled down a bit.
Oh and once you have some of these things figured out, don’t compromise on them. My family thinks my color scheme is inappropriate for a spring wedding but I’ve dreamed of these colors for decades and no way am I waiting until Fall 2013 to marry my sweetheart! I’m hoping we’ll be expecting by then 😉
Post # 12
@admiralcupcakekiller: Planning a wedding is super exciting and fun….but being engaged is fun as well, you’re missing out on something wonderful by jumping ahead, stop putting the cart before the horse girl
Post # 13
My advice? STOP PLANNING!! 🙂
Wait till you’re truly, for real engaged. You never know when that might be, and by then your tastes/choices/opinions might be a little different.
Post # 14
@KristenGotMarried: Not only may your tastes change, but you may want to wait until you know your budget. That will be a huge determining factor, and it should be decided before planning anything.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
OP- You are planning something so nebulous that you can’t pin it down (pun FULLY intended!). Looking at a lot of pretty things this early will only leave you more confused. Don’t do that to yourself. Instead, keep having conversations with your partner. “When we get married? Do you want to have a big wedding with a lot of guests? What is your definition of “a lot”? Who would you absolutely have to have there? Do you want to get married in the town that we live in? Your hometown? My hometown? Another destination? If we got married in my hometown, do you think your best friend and his family could afford to travel there? How much do you think our wedding should cost? Ya know, babe, it would be really hard to have your 200 person wedding on a $5000 budget. If you had to chose a small budget OR a big guest list, which one matters more to you? ” etc., etc., etc. Pinterest is awesome for filling in the details, but details are absolutely useless until yopu have an overall plan and vision that you both 100% share. So work on that piece first.
Post # 16
Its okay to get ideas and think ahead but don’t obsess. Wait for your ring till you really start to roll the ball.
Welcome to the Bee! 🙂