Post # 1
I wasn’t sure where to post this since there isn’t a childfree board… yet, and this has far more to do with pregnancy than wellness. I am on an alternative account to protect FI’s privacy.
FI is getting a vasectomy! I’m estatic, so proud of him, so pumped, I can barely type this. He’s getting it done a few months before the wedding. We’ll never use protection again!
I was shocked how easy it was for him. He only had one consultation and then was able to schedule it. He’s low-mid 20s and I’m a year younger. I was going to get fixed but it’s so much more expensive and invasive. His insurance covers almost all of it and he didn’t get bingo’d a single time. According to FI, the consultation was more like, “What brings you here today? You sure? Your partner on board?” and then “What date works best for you?”
I am going to treat him like a king during his recovery. We still have to use protection for a little while after, but he’s having it done in the summer, so there will be plenty of time for a full recovery. Ahhh so excited.
Anyone else out there childfree and snipped?
Post # 3
@SecretSharpie: Good luck to you both.
Post # 4
I hope we will be soon, too! I’m thrilled for you that you are able to get this accomplished…. I know all too well the plight of trying to convince doctors that you know in your heart that you truly do not want children. Congrats!!!!!! You must be ecstatic!!!!!
Post # 5
Awesome! Hope it goes smoothly! My DH will hopefully soon be following in his footsteps!
Post # 6
@MadameTussaud: He didn’t have to convince anyone! When I last asked my doc for tubal, I was 23 and she said no problem! It’s all about finding the right doctor.
FI is a little nervous, but a lot more relaxed when he found out he’s getting a step above local anesthesia and below getting fully knocked out. I’m already stocking up on ice packs.
Post # 7
I’m glad you both see eye to eye and worked everything out! I don’t want children either and it’s been a nightmare trying to explain this to his family. I really doubt my FI would have the surgery, it’d probably have to be me, but I’m so happy that you guys are working together and supporting each other!
Post # 8
Just curious, have you heard that there is now a staple method? Meaning it’s not permanent if kids were wanted later downthe line. They just simply remove it? I haven’t heard much about it by FSIL brought it up to me they are considering using it.
But, back to you…goodluck 🙂
Post # 9
@JlovesM: But that’s the problem- we want to be sterile. His urologist will be tying the vas deferens in such a way that they can never accidentally grow back. If we were less serious about this we would have many many options. Our options were I get me fixed or to get him fixed.
It means a lot to me since FI didn’t start out childfree. He always figured he’d have as many kids as his wife wanted. A few years ago he really thought about it and has been on board ever since. He suggested the vascetomy before the wedding and I was speechless with excitement. About 2 years ago I asked him, “If I ever wanted kids, what would you say?” and his response: “I’d try to convince you otherwise. ” PS: wouldn’t dream of it. So happy -=]
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2012 - Glades Pike Winery, Somerset, PA
Ohh, congratulations!! I wish Mr. Wiz would get the snip, but he wants to wait, so for now I will just live jealously and vicariously through you and others who have gotten the snip 😛 Good luck to him during the procedure + recovery, and enjoy your baby-free sex!! 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
@SecretSharpie: That’s awesome!! FI and I are still on the fence about having kids on the future but leaning towards nuuuuu… hope the operation goes smoothly and you can enjoy yourselves that much more!
Post # 12
FI and I aren’t child-free (we each have a child from a previous relationship), but I can tell you I was sure glad to find out early on that FI was snipped several years ago. We love our children dearly, but neither of us wanted any more!
Post # 13
We don’t want children, but we want the option in case we change our minds later on down the line (I’m 25, he’s 23.). It kinda sucks for me because due to a health issue we can’t use BC pills. So it’s condoms for us. I did hear about male BC possibly coming to the market within the next few years though, which I’m super excited about.
Anyway, congrats! Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for your decision not to have kids. (that happens to me on the regular) It’s not for everyone!
Post # 14
LOL. I like that you called it “getting fixed.” LOL. I’m happy for you! I’m sure this will be a great thing!
Post # 15
Congrats to you – and an especially big yay for doctors who don’t second guess their patients’ wishes!
Post # 16
I am extremely envious of you!
My partner doesn’t want to get the snip, he doesn’t want anyone messing with his bits I think he said.
I went to the doctor, she basically laughed me all the way to the door. We talked about getting the coil, I’ve had the implant for nearly 3 years and want to try something else. So I said : I knew I wasn’t going to walk in here and have you say ‘Yep, let’s get you signed up’ but I thought if I at least had it on record and then a can get a couple of coils, it’ll be 10 years later and we can talk about it again once you have proof over time of how serious I am.’
Her responce? ‘Well, we’ll see, you never know how you might change in 5 years time….’
Gr! But anyway, yay for you!