We're vegetarian – what about the food?

posted 2 years ago in Food
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

As much as I like my meat, if I were your guest, I would be happy to eat a veggie meal. There’s no reason you should serve something you’re ethically opposed to at your wedding. 

And since there’s no option for a choice, I’d go with a single main dish. It would be terrible if half the people got meat and the other half didn’t. Again, as this is a question of ethics for you, it is simple. No meat.

Post # 3
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693 posts
Busy bee

As a guest if I attended the wedding of a vegetarian couple (particularly those who are veggie for ethical reasons) I would not mind at all eating an entirely vegetarian meal. That said I have bordered on being a vegetarian myself and have a lot of respect for those who are. Yet I know of other people who are less tolerant of vegetarians. 

I just think that it is your wedding and should be customised to what you are comfortable with and to reflect you as a couple…why should this not include the food as well? As you say people will still be eating, you aren’t depriving them of food alltogether so they should just enjoy and be grateful. 

I think it is a nice idea and is simply personalising the day to reflect you as a couple.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

juski:  I am not a vegetarian but I would be happy with a veggie meal so long as their was a protein source in it and it wasn’t a highly processed main dish like white pasta.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

At the end of the day, I think its your wedding, so you should serve what makes you happy. I am not vegetarian, however my parents are vegan. When they throw parties at their house, or invite people over for dinner, it is only vegan food that they serve, and nobody ever expects otherwise. When I eat with my parents, I expect to eat vegan food, I would never expect them to cook me meat when they dont agree with it. Like you said, nobody is going to die if they dont get served meat for one dinner.

I myself do not eat dairy, so when people come over to my house for dinner, all meals are dairy free. However, this is because of allergies, not ethics, so at my wedding I will be offering food with dairy and just not eating it myself.

If I were a vegetarian for ethical reasons, no I wouldn’t serve meat at my wedding. Like you said, I would assume everyone you are inviting to your wedding is aware of  your situation, and they probably wouldnt expect you to serve meat.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I tihnk alternating mains is a terrible idea, and I honestly don’t understand why venues do it.  In your situation, I think doing one vegetarian entree will be fine, since a good chunk of your guests are also vegetarian.  Just make it sometihng delicious and flavorful, and avoid things that may scare your meat-eating guests (tofu, bean curd, etc). 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I love meat, but there are plenty of delicious vegetarian dishes out there and I would joyfully eat one as a guest at your wedding without a second thought. I agree with PP that I would go with a single main dish. Alternating doesn’t sound like a good plan. I would not expect you to go against your beliefs and order meat for me. People can go without for a night!

What are you thinking of serving as the main dish?

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

juski:  The way I look at it, if I look at DH’s plate and it looks better than mine, I’m going to be jealous.  If mine looks better, I’m going to feel guilty not sharing with him.  It just seems uncomfortable to me.  What if people have other dietary restrictions, like not eating red meat, and get a red meat meal? Can they not request the other alternative?  It just seems very strange to me that a venue would prepare 2 entrees, but not prepare them to order, and would rather just put a mystery dinner down in front of the guests!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

wow they sound great.

 

personally i think your FRIENDS and FAMILY ought to respect that you are veggie. they love you thats why they are there. why spend YOUR money on YOUR big day on something you are against?

alternating meals sounds a very bad idea.

i say go all veggie. make sure people know in advance – enclose the menu card or something. so if it is a big deal that they eat veggie for one meal rather than come to your wedding. they have that choice.

 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

 

JiminyCricket:  this exactly, thats why i think no alternating meals!!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

juski:  I’d be perfectly happy to eat vegetarian at your wedding. I think your wedding day should not be a day on which you have to sacrifice your moral choices. Yes you need to make your guests are happy but you also need to be comfortable with your choices. I assume the dish will be tasty and your guests will be full… That’s pretty much all you need to worry about. Whatever you have whether it’s vegetarian or not there will always be someone who doesn’t like it anyway so stick with what will make you happy.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I personally would not eat a vegetarian meal beacause I’ve never seen or heard of a vegetain main meal I would enjoy, especially the one you psoted. I would suck it up for your wedding but would complain and get McDonalds of something on the way home because I woudn’t eat. This could be dangerous if others are drinking and not eating. Veggie appetziers are totally fine, but I think you need some kind of option for those who won’t eat that. 

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