(Closed) Were we rude?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2705 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think you were rude at all.  I actually think they were rude for sitting guests in another room then removing those tables so you and other guests had no where to sit.

I doubt they aren’t RSVPing because they thought you were rude, they probably just forgot.  I’d call them and ask. =)


Post # 4
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Jamie42003:  Wow. If anyone was rude it was THEM!! What an ungracious bride and groom. I’m sorry but you should not seat guests in a room away from you and then make them leave their table without a seating area to go to.

I admit I didn’t get to talk to a lot of my guests, but I smiled and thanked everyone, even the ones who showed up uninvited.

You did nothing wrong. THEY sat you in the nosebleed section and THEY were the ones whose reception hall made you move.

Call them and ask if they are coming. IF they make smart remarks, kindly remind them you were place where THEY placed you and thank them for their response to your RSVP and move on.

Post # 5
1431 posts
Bumble bee

Well I think they sort of put you in an akward situation by taking your table away and leaving you know where to go. Honestly if it wasn’t a super close friend I probably would have left too if I didn’t know others at another table that I could crash at. Don’t read too much into it. Just politely ask them if they are coming. Also, maybe they are a little embarrassed because they know you left because of the weirdness of their seating arrangements.

Post # 6
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I do not at all think you were rude. I think that was very rude of them to leave you guys “homeless”. How long ago was their wedding? I would have called the bride or groom and let them know why you weren’t about to see and speak to them but in return I would like to know WTH was up with the seating arrangement??

Post # 7
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Honestly, if the wedding was such that the overflow pushed your table into another room, I doubt the bride and groom even realized you left early unless you ro someone else told them directly. 

Post # 9
14344 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think it was rude, and I doubt they even notice.   They probably just suck at RSVPs.

Post # 10
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I wouldn’t read into that much. Your perceptions of the non response are based on you being afraid you were rude-which you were not. You really had very little choice but to leave! I would have too! 

Post # 11
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have you talked to them since? I don’t necessarily think it was rude, but if you haven’t talked to them since, then I can see them being offended.

Post # 13
11343 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Jamie42003:  You definitely were not rude.

I also agree that it was not at all appropriate for your hosts to have removed tables and chairs where guests were seated to create a dance floor. If this couple wanted a dance floor at their reception, they should either have selected a larger venue where all guest tables and a dance floor could have been accommodated or they should have reduced their guest list accordingly.  I cannot imagine having nowhere to sit for the rest of the evening once the dinner was completed and the dancing had begun.

Post # 14
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wow, you were definately not rude.  I can’t believe that they sat you in a seperate room and then moved the tables.  I have seen it done where tables can be moved for a dance floor, we’re doing it slightly, but not so much guest tables, we’re moving our sweet heart table if we need more room for dancing, the rest of the dance floor area is open enough to not need to move anything else other than the slideshow projector. 

I couldn’t imagine having to move actual guest tables though, if so they should’ve made sure to move only like one table and made that table full of people they know would hit the dance floor immediately, like if I had to I would have moved my sorority sisters table as they won’t sit very long anyways and pushed the chairs to the side or to another sorority table.   

Post # 15
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

WTH? They were the rude ones good lord.

Post # 16
2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The purpose of the receiving line is so that the hosts of the party (bride and groom and family) may greet, and thank their attendees.  If they forego the receiving line, it’s technically their responsibility to visit each and every table to greet their guests, not the GUESTS responsibiliy to track them down to say hello.

So, you weren’t rude.  Have you gotten a thank you card from them at least?


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