Post # 1
The replies on a recent post got me wondering. It seems that more than a few of us were actually seeing someone else when we met our SO/FI/spouse.
I know I was in a semi-serious relationship that had been going on for about six months. I think that bf and I both knew by that point that it wouldn’t be permanent, but we still cared about each other and enjoyed spending time together, so we kept seeing each other (that sounds bad, doesn’t it?).
Once I met my husband, the shortcomings in the previous relationship were suddenly much more glaring. I ended things with the former bf and a few weeks later started dating my husband. It was a little messy, but I have no regrets.
Post # 4
I was dating someone else when I first met my FI. He was single.
Post # 5
We were both totally single when we met.
Post # 6
We were both totally single.
Post # 7
We were both single when we met!
Post # 8
He had a girlfriend and I was just enjoying the single life…aka seeing a few people 😉
Post # 9
@Ms.Teddy: Same for me! He was actually in the final stages of breaking up with his girlfriend of 2 years when he met me. We went out for my birthday and a few months later we were officially an item!
Post # 10
I was VERY casually dating someone. It wasn’t really serious and we also knew that it wasn’t going to last. I knew I wanted to be with FI and as soon as we started hanging out more I broke things off with my other BF. FI and I started dating 2 weeks later.
FI was completely single. He only had one 2 week GF a few years before he met me. Luckily for me he was very focused on playing college baseball.
Post # 11
I had a “casual” relationship with a guy when I first met my FI, and FI at the time was sorta/kinda talking to his ex. Then FI swept me off my feet and I think we both realized we deserved a real relationship!
Post # 12
I had been casually dating a guy who had been one of my best friends when I met my husband. Since it was casual dating with no real plans for the future and it didn’t seem my friend was all that interested, I started dating Mr. Symphony. I knew from the start he had everything I was looking for. That’s when it got messy, apparently friend WAS interested, but it all worked out, because it turns out he was more interested in my sister anyways. 🙂
No regrets here!
Post # 13
I was casually dating this nightmare of a guy…like 3 or 4 dates in?
Post # 14
I had been single for about 3 months before we met, but my Love was in a relationship, but it was at the end of a bitter breakup.. It bothered me at first because I felt like a rebound, but we are happier than ever! 🙂 Just depends on the situation, I suppose?
Post # 15
I was actually engaged when I met my now FI. It sounds terrible… but the night I met him my ex FI cheated on me with some random girl he met at the bar that night (I was at the bar WITH my ex.) I was angry and vengeful so I saw a cute guy at the bar and started making eyes at him. lol Needless to say he came over and we ended up talking the rest of the night but when it was time to leave I left with my ex and we went to an afterparty (with the girl) and when I decided it was time to leave my ex stayed. And the rest is history.
Little did I know I had made a very valuable friend that night who was recently divorced because of her cheating on him. We bonded over that very quickly and took our relationship a little too far, but we can’t change the past. Even though it took me seven months to actually leave my ex, my FI was there for me through it all, he became by best friend and gave me the courage to leave.
It sounds bad, but the night I left my ex is the night my FI and I officially became boyfriend and girlfriend.
Post # 16
I was single and had given up looking but I had just started a new job and I saw a guy that I thought was cute, but he was in a relationship and I’m the farthest thing from a homewrecker and standing beside him was my now FI. Haha I think I made the right decision(;