Post # 1
I was just reading a link that another bee posted to Offbeat Brides, and it was all about “marriage haters” and how people love to tell others about how they will regret whatever major life choice they are about to make (marriage, babies, etc…). So it got me thinking about when I made a career change into nursing. I had TONS of support from all the people who mattered, but ALL the time random other people, finding out I was in nursing, would say “You’ll regret it, its such hard work” “Don’t you know you will just be cleaning up after other people and taking orders from doctors?” (nothing could be further from the truth), and the famous “You’ll seeeeeeeeeee! You’ll regret it!”.
I love nursing. I have days that I dont’ like it, but every job has it’s ups and downs. But I am glad I didn’t listen to those naysayers.
Anyone else get grief from others for changing their career? Or anything else?
Post # 3
I did too- I studied Creativity. The science of it (not underwater basket-weaving, as we used to joke!) I still have a tough time finding ways to use it- but while I was studying one of my colleagues was 65+ years old. She always told me how lucky I was to find and follow my passion at a young age. She told me I would never regret that regardless of where it takes me. I think there is a lot of truth in that- I absolutely LOVED what I studied and will never regret my choice. What is that saying, if you love what you do you will never work a day of your life? Yeah, something like that.
Post # 4
That’s so funny, because everyone keeps telling me to be a nurse! In R’s family, his mom, aunt, and grandma are all nurses. His mom works crazy overtime and co-owns a nursing home, so she makes A LOT.
I am a Psychology major, and looking to get my Master’s and/or PsyD. I’d love to do counseling, research, and Equine Assisted Psychotherapy. I’ve been getting a lot of reprimands for having a major which doesn’t guarantee a job right out of undergrad. It’s really discouraging but I have to do what I see fit.
Post # 5
I am sorry to hear that there are such ignorant people out there giving you a hard time. I have not had any experience with this but I knew i was jumping into a male predominate field. I’m in IT specifically a programmer and in my class of nearly 50 in college, only 5 of us were female. We are underrated and underpaid in most cases but I have yet to hear someone say anything about it…
Oh wait,.. There was one time when I was in college, and a Computer Science student asked me what my major was and i responded with MIS (Management Information Systems), he responded with “Oh the easy major”… Yes, Comp Sci is a hard major but I am thankful I took the MIS route which gave me knowledge about business and not just computers.
Anyway, you just have to brush off that hate. Nursing is a great and fulfilling field. Good luck with everything!
Post # 6
Lol yes! I was in school for awhile for nursing. Many woman in my family are nurses and they ALL told me not to do it! They said the hours are extremely long and theres a big chance of getting hurt on the job. I still decided to go for it but dropped because I decided to do cosmetology. (less stressful) Nothing against nursing though. I actually would LOVE to finish my degree in it!!! I would love to some day work as a nurse in the Neonatal unit.
Post # 7
YES YES & YES!
I work in a nursing home as an admin asst. and I am in school for elementary education. I am a total germophobe and everyone here says I am going to be a terrible teacher because of that. I find it highly offensive that they would say that. They are always saying how teachers these day dont do their job. How children dont know how to do cursive and spelling isnt taught right and the way they are teaching children to do math is horrendous (so they say). ITs a total smack in my face, given the fact that I have ALWAYS wanted to be a teacher and they know that. Everytime I take off work to go observe in schools (required by school) or take off for the praxis testing, they have something smart to say.
Its depressing, but its amunition to prove them all wrong.
Post # 8
I went for Criminal Justice/Social work…..well the Social Work field pays crap, less so than teaching. After getting frustrated w/ the job search I decided I wanted to go back to school and become a teacher. My mother (a teacher for 20+ years) LAUGHED in my face. Umm thanks? I ended up not going back to school (I got a fabulous job offer shortly thereafter). But really mom? Laughing?
Post # 9
I have to wonder why people think teaching is such a laughable and mockable career? How do they think we learn as children?
“If you can read this, thank a teacher” – my fav quote. so true. Yea it doesnt pay nearly what it should, but the rewards are so much more then what money can give. It pays enough to live off of. And the world will always need a teacher, it cant be replaced with a machine or computer.
Post # 10
Hmm I often wish someone had discouraged me from becoming a lawyer 🙂
In all seriousness, I think a lot of people find it difficult to go for their dreams and make snide remarks due to jealyous when they see others going for theirs.
Post # 11
Thanks for sharing everyone. I find it especially disparaging when those IN the profession already discourage you. But I have learned that generally the case with nursing is that those people who are outwardly hostile don’t like their nursing job to begin with. I tend to ignore those people. However, I am not ignorant that nursing has a lot of downsides too – hospital politics completely drive me up the wall! I don’t mind when people share the downsides, but it all has to do in the way you say it.
@MrsJKH2be – I had a client at my old job as a weight loss counselor (who was a nurse) also laugh in my face when I told her I was leaving my position to go back to school. Some people eh? It must have been espeically hurtful when it was your own mother though 🙁 Glad you were able to get something in social work – it is a great field. On of my very close friends is a social worker, and she was unemployed for 6 months before she found a job.
Post # 12
I honestly think some people are discouraging because they are jealous- they want to be able to go back to school and find their true passion. Some people just dont have the “change” gene.. so they take it out on those that do.
Post # 13
buah ha ha.When I gave up on goign to medical school to be an engineer, my dad lectured me for an hour and a half about how stupid of a decision this was. And now i’m an engineer and they’re so proud. Sigh.
The biggee now that i’m changing to RT? “you’ll regret how easy you have it. Your job is SO cushy”. Or “but you have the potential to make so much money!” (Um, in 15 years I’ll probably make 100K if i stay here. FIFTEEN YEARS. UGH!). Sitting at a desk 8 hours a day is AWFUL! I’m so much more a mover and doer !
And? It bores me to tears. I wish my paernts wouldn’t have encouraged me so heavily towards SUCH high salaries. I got turned off from a lot of careers at an early age because they told me 35K/year isn’t enough to live off of and I’d always be poor and regretful I didn’t pursue something “better”. Which, I get to an extent. I was always a sciency/geek child, but they could’ve more tactfully geered me towards science. In general a nicer paycheck just follows.
Mostly my parents are telling me this. Or people who can’t fathom giving up the salary I have now (when in reality I’m making a LATERAL pay move, and yeah 35K student loans blow but it’s not like i can’t recover). All my friends (also engineers) have been nothing but supportive. I think they get it.
Post # 14
People are giving you bees grief about being nurses and teachers?! I might as well give up now, haha. My life goal has been to become a full-time writer since I was a kid, and now that I’m almost done with my degree in Professional Writing, the most common reaction is “What are you going to do with that? You know how hard it is to get published. You’ll need to get a real job.” Yeah, like writing isn’t a universally useful skill that can be applied to a plethora of work…
Some people! Bah humbug. You just have to do what you love and not sell yourself out.
Post # 15
I get that all the time because I’m in Advertising. People said “you’ll regret it because you won’t make any money.” And yea maybe the money part is true, but I LOVE my job. I had jobs I hated before and it was so horrible to go to work every day that the money didn’t help make it any better. I’m glad I decided to do what I wanted versus whatever made the most money. Most of my friends that have high paying jobs hate it.
Post # 16
Oh boy did they EVER give me grief! My mom was sooooo disappointed that when I decided to pursue teaching (she wanted me to become an international law attorney). But, now, after she’s seen me teach, she says she’s never been happier to be wrong…that I totally light up when I teach & the students seem really excited & involved.
@MrsCox2be & @MrsJKH2be: Stand stong, teacher-sisters! (If you don’t already know) This job is UBER rewarding! I guess the most rewarding thing is doing what you LOVE!