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I didn't care much about getting engaged until about 6 months before we got engaged. Sadly, it was mostly because I kind of got it in my head that that was the time that we should have gotten engaged --- 6 months after we bought our first place together. We ended up getting engaged 6 months past my (fake meaningless random) deadline... and I was READY!
What about you? Did you yearn hard to get engaged? How long before he actually popped the question?
On our first date we talked about how we didn't want to get married and how people were sooooo pushy about it. By the time the date was over I called my bestfriend and admited to her that for the first time in my life I just knew he was the one and I was going to marry him sooner or later. We didn't wait too long. Six months later we were engaged. We became legally married almost two months ago and our actual wedding with friends and family takes place right around our the date when we first met. Quite honestly, I always thought I would never be getting married at this age. All of my friends had settled down and I was the last one and was so against it...now it's a different story. It's wonderful.
GREAT POST! i'm currently yearning. i thought we should have gotten engaged on our one year anniversary (june 1) or my bday (29th)... but hey who knows what he thinks maybe it'll be around the time we virtually met (two years ago in september but we can't remember the day!)
I had been dying to get engaged for a little over two years? probably before he popped the question. I'm not sure why, but once I graduated high school I was just itching to get engaged lol (not to just anyone of course, but Mr. Joe whom I had been dating for quite awhile). I know it's young, but that's how I felt. We got engaged when I was 20, but about 2 weeks before my birthday. I thought it would have been probably another 4 years though, so it was a nice surprise! I love being married :)
When I saw my family at Christmas, everyone was asking if/when we were going to get engaged, and I honestly answered them that we were so happy right where we were and that if the question came up, I'd say yes, but I wasn't pining for a ring. 3 weeks later he proposed! :) I know its not the way everyone feels before hand, but I was so happy to have already been so happy and content - it wasn't a relief to finally get a ring, it was a whole new excitement all on its own accord. :)
I wouldn't say that I wad "dying" to get married. I just knew very early on that I had found the person I wanted to spend my life with. I'm glad we got engaged when we did but I probably would have been ok waiting another year. Maybe. ;)
No actually. Two minutes before he proposed I told him he didn't have to rush. We could wait.
I was scared of not being ready and not doing the preparations I felt we needed to be ready to get engaged in the first place. I could have waited a few more months (maybe even up to a year more). I'm glad things worked out the way they did though. ;)
Good question! I had a weird old fashioned feeling pop up in me when we decided to move in together. I wanted to be directly headed toward marriage!
Oh and we were together 1 year and 1 month when we got engaged.
I started wanting to get engaged after we had been together about 2 years. I'd say it was about 6-7 months before he proposed that I started getting really anxious for it. We went away on vacation and I suspected he'd pop the question and he didn't. After that, I really started getting ready for it!
I definitely was not "dying" to get engaged. There was a point about 2 years into our relationship where I would not stop talking about weddings and getting married. I mostly talked about the kind of wedding we would have. It was a bit too much for FI, and he told me straight up that I needed to cool it with the wedding talk. So I did. Plus, I was still in college, so there was really no point in talking about getting married. A few months later he brought up looking for rings, which kind of took me by surprise, but I was all for it!
For me, there was never really a reason to be pushy about engagement. I was in school and made it clear to FI that he was not to propose until I graduated. Well, he didn't follow that rule, but I only had 1 quarter left when he asked. Now, if we had been together for 3 years and I hadn't been in school...yeah I might have been a little bit more pushy. But what we did worked out perfectly for us :)
I really wanted to get engaged!!! We didn't engaged until just a few months before our 5 year anniversary. But our first two years we were long distance and he wanted to wait until we both had "real" full time jobs. I was probably ready at about 4 years but it was worth the wait! I definEtly didn't rush him into proposing though, we rarely talked about it
Oh, I was dying to get engaged, all right. We met in the first month of our first year of college, and have been together ever since. We moved in together after school, and I was so not even thinking of marriage for the first two years. If anybody brought it up, I would say, "don't even talk to me about it, I'm just not ready to go there." Then--this really made me believe in biological clocks--it was literally like something in me just flipped a switch one day. I went from not even wanting to think about it to suddenly just being ready. FH wasn't quite there with me at first--it took about a year from the time when I suddenly became VERY VERY ready for engagement until the time we were actually engaged.
I am so with you Mrs. P because I too have had that fake deadline in my head and think he is off a bit by say five or so months..
I so want us to move ahead and get married, but I DREAD the moving part. I HATE moving! That is the only part of planning I am having a difficult time with right now is the thought of moving and then getting married within 60-90 days after. Bleech!
I wants me some romance! As far as I'm concerned, for a wedding gift he can give me movers to do 100 percent of the job for me! I'm all moved out (moved to my home 2 summers ago).
we knew each other was the one right away after dating (we were friends before) so it was sort of hard to be patient the whole time. I didn't really get antsy to be engaged until about 2 months before he popped the qestion. Even then, I thought I had it all figured out, and he completely surprised me!
Mine was an interesting situation:
I had just gotten OUT of a marriage before we got together. But I was SO over it. Yet also cautious about re-marrying - I didn't want to make the same mistake twice. (Not that marriage is a mistake - but it was in my case the first time because it wasn't properly thought through/done for the right reasons.)
However, I did looooove Mr. MJ and could feel in my bones that we were meant to be together forever. I think it took me about a year before I was ready for the proposal, and well, you've probably read my Ringzilla post... I got pretty antsy!!
I think I'm in the minority, but no, I was not.
My now-fiance and I were together five years before we got engaged, including living together for three of those years. I was having a great time just being together, cohabitating, having fun, etc. I knew it would happen eventually, but it was really my mom who was being pushy about it. I was in no hurry ;o) which might explain our 2+ year engagement...
I'm with carrie.a.s.b! I was with my bf for over two years and was still giving him not-so-subtle-I'M NOT READY hints. Then almost overnight it was like woah ok lets get married NOW. Of course I didn't say that... but I definitely gave him the "ok ready now" hints. That was about 2-3 months ago. I know he's ring shopping and I suspect he'll propose on vacation in 2 months.
But for right now in the interim? Dying to get engaged and get the planning started! :)
I wasn't too anxious. He actually proposed like, 5 months before I was expecting him to. We had a couple months of casual ring-searching and I'd tease him once in awhile about making an honest woman out of me, but I wasn't serious or anything. I was definitely ready, but I hadn't gotten to a point yet where I was DYING for it.
I was yearning BIG TIME!
We have been together for almost 6 years living together for over 4 years and we got engaged 3 DAYS AGO
and you can tell by my posts that all didn't occur post-ring! I have been yearning for that moment and have been ready to be engaged for 2 years!!!!!!!! It took him a little longer to be ready and then to save up for the ring!!!!
I didn't care. I had no idea he was going to propose. We don't live together nor will we before we're married. It was a total shock to me. We'd talked about it so he knew I'd say yes, but I never thought he would actually ask... lol
I didn't care. I had no idea he was going to propose. We don't live together nor will we before we're married. It was a total shock to me. We'd talked about it so he knew I'd say yes, but I never thought he would actually ask... lol
My FI was ready before I was, he would ask vague questions like "do you want to be engaged" and stuff like that. I was crazy about him, but just was comforatble with the way things were. Then one day I woke up & I wanted to be married, BAD, so I told him "I'm ready to be engaged" a month later he proposed, so I really didn't have time to have those crazy "dying to be engaged moments" the ball was kinda in my court ;)
I wanted to get engaged before or at our two year anniversary. It took over three years. Sigh.
We had been dating for 5 years (minus a little break) before we got engaged. Once I was helping my best friend plan her wedding, it was like I caught a virus and then I was dying to get engaged. My FI and I had talked about it lots so I knew my turn was coming!
I wasn't even expecting to get engaged! We're young and even though we have a house together (Yay buyer's market!) I didn't feel like we had to take the next step.
I go through weird spurts though now that we are engaged, like one day we're going to elope, the next we're waiting 2 years. A lot of our plans depended on other people but now we're planning our wedding our way : )
I was itching to get married about 2 years after we started dating. We had actually started talking about marriage about a year into the relationship. He proposed right around our 3 year anniversary and we will be getting married right before our 4 year anniversary.
I really wasn't dying to get married. Even now, i WANT to get married, I'm EXCITED to get married....but I'm still not feeling rushed at all. I've always just been dying to just get to the committed stage in all my relationships. Once FI and I hit the "we're definately together, there's no one else" stage, I was fine. The engagement was just a huge plus!
FI on the other hand, is totally DYING to get married.
We were together just over a year before he proposed...He kept telling me that we'd have to be together 18 months before he'd pop the question which technically means we should be getting engaged next month, ha!
I wasn't dying but I was more than ready. We were together 3 yrs and 2 months before he popped the question. Early on in our relationship (probably a year or so in) we were talking about marriage and even kids and how much we wanted to marry each other.
With all of this I was getting pressure from my family, friends and even co-workers. They were questioning him and essentially our relationship which put unconsciously put pressure on me so I couldn't stop talking about it and all he could say is that he had the date in mind. All I can say is that I had a feeling it would be 2008 but when December came I just gave up on talking about it all. My internal deadline was being reached. Luckily for me, he did it in December '08 on my 27th birthday! It was the best day of my life so far. Besides the weather, everything was PERFECT!
My Mr. Roddy did an awesome job :)
About 2 months before he got deployed, I felt we should get engaged. After all, we wanted to get married right when he got back! Well, we compromised on that after he said "when i get out of the Army" which would have been June 2010 and I really felt that planning a wedding while he was deployed would keep me in good spirits. So glad I'm not just now starting to plan! With grad school?! OH goodness.
I wasn't "dying"....that just makes it sound desperate! I definitely wasn't desperate, but after almost 4 years together, I figured he should have had it figured out by now, too.
HA, I was DEFINITELY "dying" to get engaged for about the last 8 months before he proposed...I really didn' think it was going to happen for at least 2 years last summer and then HE suggested we go look at rings...boy, did he regret that one bc once that happened, I just could not get my mind off the engagement and then once our good friends got engaged in October, well, it was all over from then...Right after that was my birthday, his birthday, our 4-year anniversary, Thanksgiving with both of our families together, holidays, New Years and still nothing! So after several (many many many) fights about it, I stopped talking about it completely and then he FINALLY proposed...It really was a relief bc I was starting to doubt it would ever happen!
I did! We were talking about it for a while in the time leading to out 1 yr anniversary. He always said he would ask after that mark, so I did get antsy, but iI was being patient. So 4 months later...he proposed!! I couldn't be happier!
Not engaged yet, but I think I'm a 7 on the "dying to get engaged" scale. 10 being on the floor and out cold. I probably started out at a 3 on the scale about 8 months or so ago, when I started to feel that our relationship was losing that forward momentum (we've been together for close to 7 years). I, like some other ladies, never thought about marrying, or getting engaged. It just wasn't on my "to do" list, but if it happened, hey great! So I guess what makes me yearn is feeling that our relationship should have grown into the next phase by now and it hasn't yet. I know he's currently shopping for a ring, whether casually or seriously I don't know, so I think I'll definitely be at a 10 by the end of the year if it hasn't happened by then.
Great thread, by the way! I was curious of this myself...
Oh, I was just dying to get engaged! And it was a pretty quick thing too...about 4 months after we started dating seriously, I just knew that it was going to happen eventually! I had to wait until 8 months for him to pop the question!
No dying to get engaged here. I already knew he was the one and we talked about getting married a lot before we finally decided too. I wanted to wait until after I finished school. He thought that was too long (since that might include another 2 years of grad school, I have yet to decide on that one) so we decided to get married the summer I finished undergrad. I guess because we already had a timeline and the fact that I already felt like I had made that commitment mentally I didn't feel too antsy.
I wanted so bad to marry him! Everything went very quickly, but I wouldn't have minded if it had gone quicker. I moved in with him after 5 months of dating, and he proposed 6 months later. But I was in love by day one!
I was really really ready for us to get engaged but also really happy and so grateful for him that I tried to cool it! I wanted him to propose when he was ready and one of the big reasons I couldn't wait what because I really just wanted to talk about wedding stuff with him and find out what he wanted for our wedding (beyond some of the things we'd already discussed) He proposed in May and we had been together for 2 years and 8 months by then. Another big factor was/is that I'm 32 and would like to have children but who knows what kinds of complications you might have conceiving until you try so I didn't want to wait too long. I certainly wasn't (and I'm still not!) getting any younger!
And now I'm loving being engaged - when you look at the 'dating' part, 'engaged' part and 'married' part, the engagement is only going to be a tiny drop in the bucket of a very long relationship so I'm trying to enjoy it as much as I can.
We had practically already planned our wedding in an abstract way but I thought we were still a couple years out. I somehow arbitrarily decided that 27 was a good age so when he proposed this winter it definitely surprised me (I'm only 25.) It took a month or two of having the ring on my finger to really wrap my head around it and decide that I wanted to get married this year.
So yes and no. I was really excited about weddings but wasn't dying to actually do it. Kind of like babies, actually. Right now I'm really loving other people's babies but am not ready for my own. Although if it happened I would probably jump on board pretty quickly. :-)
I was not "dying" to get engaged, but I was definitely VERY ready and hopeful for it. I felt like there was no chance of it happening until we had been together for at least a year and a half. We had a vacation planned around that time, so I was really hoping, but told myself, if it doesn't happen it's no big deal, because I promised myself that I would wait AT LEAST two years before feeling like I should expect anything. Of course it happened on vacation at the year and a half mark, so overall it came earlier than I anticipated, but just when I really wanted it!
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