Were you given a ring and it wasn't your "style"?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1248 posts
Bumble bee

I told FI (BF at the time) I was a little worried ab the ring he was designing for me. But that mostly stemmed from a nightmare i had where he gave me this ridiculous over the top gawdy ring! Luckily, the boy has never let me down, and completely blew me away with my ring!!!

I do however have a couple issues- less than 2 weeks after being engaged, one of the pave diamonds fell out of the band. It was free to fix, but i had to part with my ring for 2 days 🙁 They tightened the prongs & i havent had an issue since! (i check it often just in case, and did before it fell out, which is how i knew). Also, when FI and I looked at rings one day (a year ago) I weighed 65lb heavier than I do now. He ordered the ring in the size i was before the weight loss. When i got the diamond replaced in the band, they sized it down, but not enough, so it still spins A LOT. It bothers me sometimes, but I figure it will fit differently once I’m wearing a wedding band with it, and I dont want to mess with the integrity, so i’m dealing with the spinning til the wedding!

Trust your BF! If he’s given you jewelry before, and you loved it, and hes designing something for you, you should have nothing to worry about!! 🙂

Post # 4
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have been given jewelery not my taste (though I love my ring).

I bring it out for special occasionas, even if I dislike it.

But thank GOD I love my e-ring! Because I think wearing jewelery I HATE would be awful!

Post # 5
1549 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yea, He got me a solitaire because thats what he likes and he thought i would. But I really don’t like solitaires – we got a new setting for the diamond. One with saphires on either side and now we both love it.


Post # 6
1275 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My ring isn’t something I would have chosen for myself.  I think it’s common for men to be more concerned with quality than size, which is fine!  I have a beautiful diamond with no visible flaws and great color, but it’s smaller than I wanted and it’s not pave.  I still like it a lot because he’s the one who picked it out and it has a really pretty setting to hold the diamond, but it doesn’t get commented on often and I don’t stare at it all day and night.  I might get an upgrade someday!  We’ll see.

Post # 7
8678 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I was the reverse. I loved my ring, my husband hated it. The TL;DR story was that his mother talked him out of proposing with the ring he liked. She said I’d hate it.

Post # 8
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I had a lot of issues with my original e-ring. We’d gone looking before and I thought I’d pointed out the style of ring that I liked (white gold, halo or cushion). My FI proposed with a yellow gold solitaire that, honestly I would’ve worn but it was too big (couldn’t be resized) and I was allergic to whatever it was blended with (I was itchy every time I wore it and I got nasty red marks under the ring). So we went to the store and picked out another one that was more my taste, but he still liked too. I can’t say he was happy about the change, but there were so many more factors than it just not being my style.

Post # 9
536 posts
Busy bee

Yes, I was previously engaged and married (now divorced).  I was young and “romantic” and felt that the “man” should pick out the ring without any help (an idea that may work for some people, but didn’t work for me).  Honestly, I never really looked at rings (weird, I know) and I guess I thought they were all just kind of the same.  Once I got my ring, I started to notice other people’s and realized that ah, yeah, there’s a certain style of ring I like and the one I had (while very nice) wasn’t it.

I guess what I learned from that was speak up!  If the man is considerate enough to care and ask about what you want, be considerate enough to him and yourself to tell him.  I’m dating a wonderful man now and he knows exactly what I like ;-).

Post # 10
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

My ring is exactly my style – size, shape, quality, etc.  My now husband admitted to looking at cheaper rings ($1000ish) because he didn’t want to spend the money on a larger ring, and when he saw the size of the diamonds, he just knew I’d be mad lol He ended up ‘doing the right thing’ and getting me what he thought I’d love.  And, he was right…I just love my ring!  He does too 🙂

Post # 11
1443 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

nope, I was actually pleasantly surprised that my ring design was so perfect for me. I dislike most styles, so the odds were very slim! 

however, weddingbee has kind of ruined me because I suffered from some stone shrinkage after joining this site. even still, I really love my ring anyway, especially after I added a wedding band. I’ve been wearing this set for over two years now so they’ve really grown on me. I completely waffle between wanting an upgrade (years from now) or just wanting to wear what I have forever. 

Post # 12
299 posts
Helper bee

Yes! I was in a LDR with my ex-FI when he asked me to send him pictures of ring I liked. Expectatiosn were high and disappointment was very big when I opened that ring box after a lame proposal.

The worst thing was he claimed that the ring was an exclusive custom design but when we went to the store to have it sized I saw many copies on displayFrown

Post # 13
473 posts
Helper bee

My ring is the polar opposite of anything I ever wanted — but it’s an heirloom and the family significance of it means more than vanity/my personal taste. 

Post # 14
5 posts

Not to threadjack but this is actually something I am struggling with right now.

My fiancee proposed with exactly what I asked for, just bigger.   The ring I originally liked had about .3 carats in delicate pave halo around the center stone and a very slim band.  I was given a 2 carat stone (which I wanted) with another 1.5 carats in a halo and on the band.  Its very pretty, but it looks HUGE.  Like to the point that it makes me a little uncomfortable and attracts alot of attention and comments.  Some friends have even asked if its costume jewelry.  If I was in love with it I wouldnt care but I really just dont love the setting.  I talked it over with my fiancee and he didnt seem too bothered by my feelings, he originally was going for a smaller setting but changed at the last minute because he thought I would like this one.  Im generally an over the top, bigger is better type person so I can see how he would think that.  I’m not sure if I will actually go for the reset, just because he tried so hard and is very proud of the ring he did give me, and its not like i hate it.  I feel awful and spoiled telling anyone about this so thanks for listening to this vent!

Post # 15
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Alexander Homestead

@Nouna_:  By the way, your ring turned out to be BREATHTAKINGLY GORGEOUS! So hopefully as soon as you saw it, all of your worries quickly washed away. Smile Congratulations again!

Post # 16
55 posts
Worker bee

Thankfully I haven’t ever recieved a ring from my SO that I didn’t like. But that’s probably because I spend so much time shopping with him showing him styles I like. SO also consults my mom on pretty much everything he buys me and thankfully we have similar tastes and if I pick something out specifically she always has my back 😉

I actually just finished a very detailed powerpoint for him on how to pick the perfect ring for me! 

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