Post # 1
or came with other problems?
I’m a waiting bee so I am not here to bash on a ring my SO gave me (he’s in the process of designing one but that’s all I know), but I wondered if any bee received a ring that they wouldn’t have chosen for themselves or didn’t choose if you went ring shopping with your SO. Do you end up just loving it anyway, but secretely a small part of you wishes for something more/less of what it is now? Did your ring end up causing you a myriad of problems like jealousy from friends/family, sizing issues, etc. Again, this is not to ring bash, but an outlet for the deep suppressed ring thoughts lol.
I’ll put the telltale disclaimer: I’m aware (and assume we all are!) that being engaged to be married and marriage itself is about WAY more than the ring which is why it could be taboo to be outwardly dissatisfied. Just vent about your ring frustrations and your secret is safe with the bees 🙂
Post # 3
I told FI (BF at the time) I was a little worried ab the ring he was designing for me. But that mostly stemmed from a nightmare i had where he gave me this ridiculous over the top gawdy ring! Luckily, the boy has never let me down, and completely blew me away with my ring!!!
I do however have a couple issues- less than 2 weeks after being engaged, one of the pave diamonds fell out of the band. It was free to fix, but i had to part with my ring for 2 days 🙁 They tightened the prongs & i havent had an issue since! (i check it often just in case, and did before it fell out, which is how i knew). Also, when FI and I looked at rings one day (a year ago) I weighed 65lb heavier than I do now. He ordered the ring in the size i was before the weight loss. When i got the diamond replaced in the band, they sized it down, but not enough, so it still spins A LOT. It bothers me sometimes, but I figure it will fit differently once I’m wearing a wedding band with it, and I dont want to mess with the integrity, so i’m dealing with the spinning til the wedding!
Trust your BF! If he’s given you jewelry before, and you loved it, and hes designing something for you, you should have nothing to worry about!! 🙂
Post # 4
I have been given jewelery not my taste (though I love my ring).
I bring it out for special occasionas, even if I dislike it.
But thank GOD I love my e-ring! Because I think wearing jewelery I HATE would be awful!
Post # 5
Yea, He got me a solitaire because thats what he likes and he thought i would. But I really don’t like solitaires – we got a new setting for the diamond. One with saphires on either side and now we both love it.
Post # 6
My ring isn’t something I would have chosen for myself. I think it’s common for men to be more concerned with quality than size, which is fine! I have a beautiful diamond with no visible flaws and great color, but it’s smaller than I wanted and it’s not pave. I still like it a lot because he’s the one who picked it out and it has a really pretty setting to hold the diamond, but it doesn’t get commented on often and I don’t stare at it all day and night. I might get an upgrade someday! We’ll see.
Post # 7
I was the reverse. I loved my ring, my husband hated it. The TL;DR story was that his mother talked him out of proposing with the ring he liked. She said I’d hate it.
Post # 8
I had a lot of issues with my original e-ring. We’d gone looking before and I thought I’d pointed out the style of ring that I liked (white gold, halo or cushion). My FI proposed with a yellow gold solitaire that, honestly I would’ve worn but it was too big (couldn’t be resized) and I was allergic to whatever it was blended with (I was itchy every time I wore it and I got nasty red marks under the ring). So we went to the store and picked out another one that was more my taste, but he still liked too. I can’t say he was happy about the change, but there were so many more factors than it just not being my style.
Post # 9
Yes, I was previously engaged and married (now divorced). I was young and “romantic” and felt that the “man” should pick out the ring without any help (an idea that may work for some people, but didn’t work for me). Honestly, I never really looked at rings (weird, I know) and I guess I thought they were all just kind of the same. Once I got my ring, I started to notice other people’s and realized that ah, yeah, there’s a certain style of ring I like and the one I had (while very nice) wasn’t it.
I guess what I learned from that was speak up! If the man is considerate enough to care and ask about what you want, be considerate enough to him and yourself to tell him. I’m dating a wonderful man now and he knows exactly what I like ;-).
Post # 10
My ring is exactly my style – size, shape, quality, etc. My now husband admitted to looking at cheaper rings ($1000ish) because he didn’t want to spend the money on a larger ring, and when he saw the size of the diamonds, he just knew I’d be mad lol He ended up ‘doing the right thing’ and getting me what he thought I’d love. And, he was right…I just love my ring! He does too 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
nope, I was actually pleasantly surprised that my ring design was so perfect for me. I dislike most styles, so the odds were very slim!
however, weddingbee has kind of ruined me because I suffered from some stone shrinkage after joining this site. even still, I really love my ring anyway, especially after I added a wedding band. I’ve been wearing this set for over two years now so they’ve really grown on me. I completely waffle between wanting an upgrade (years from now) or just wanting to wear what I have forever.
Post # 12
Yes! I was in a LDR with my ex-FI when he asked me to send him pictures of ring I liked. Expectatiosn were high and disappointment was very big when I opened that ring box after a lame proposal.
The worst thing was he claimed that the ring was an exclusive custom design but when we went to the store to have it sized I saw many copies on display
Post # 13
My ring is the polar opposite of anything I ever wanted — but it’s an heirloom and the family significance of it means more than vanity/my personal taste.
Post # 14
Not to threadjack but this is actually something I am struggling with right now.
My fiancee proposed with exactly what I asked for, just bigger. The ring I originally liked had about .3 carats in delicate pave halo around the center stone and a very slim band. I was given a 2 carat stone (which I wanted) with another 1.5 carats in a halo and on the band. Its very pretty, but it looks HUGE. Like to the point that it makes me a little uncomfortable and attracts alot of attention and comments. Some friends have even asked if its costume jewelry. If I was in love with it I wouldnt care but I really just dont love the setting. I talked it over with my fiancee and he didnt seem too bothered by my feelings, he originally was going for a smaller setting but changed at the last minute because he thought I would like this one. Im generally an over the top, bigger is better type person so I can see how he would think that. I’m not sure if I will actually go for the reset, just because he tried so hard and is very proud of the ring he did give me, and its not like i hate it. I feel awful and spoiled telling anyone about this so thanks for listening to this vent!
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2015 - Alexander Homestead
@Nouna_: By the way, your ring turned out to be BREATHTAKINGLY GORGEOUS! So hopefully as soon as you saw it, all of your worries quickly washed away. Congratulations again!
Post # 16
Thankfully I haven’t ever recieved a ring from my SO that I didn’t like. But that’s probably because I spend so much time shopping with him showing him styles I like. SO also consults my mom on pretty much everything he buys me and thankfully we have similar tastes and if I pick something out specifically she always has my back 😉
I actually just finished a very detailed powerpoint for him on how to pick the perfect ring for me!