Were you initially upset at not being able to spend much, but ok about it later?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t say I was upset by our limited budget, but maybe disappointed. My mom really wanted a lot more people at our wedding which could’ve been why I wanted a bigger budget so we could invite more people, but in the end I absolutely don’t regret our budget! We ended up with a beautiful wedding and we weren’t horribly in debt because of one special day.

Post # 4
1355 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

I didn’t want to have a big wedding, so I wasn’t sad about not having a lot to spend… I was more disappointed that we had to pay for anything more than our marriage license. I’d have rather used that money toward our home renovations :/.

Post # 5
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our wedding will be aabout 13k.. but originally when we began planning, we wanted to keep it under 6k. Once we made a list of those we wanted invites [family & friends], and things we for sure wanted to have [dinner, dancing, booze, food] – we realized it just wasn’t going to happen. So yeah, we were pretty upset. We decided that we would spend more on it, because it’s really a one time thing [we hope anyway!].

If all we could spend was 5k, then yeah, I’d be super disappointed, and we’d probably wait until we could afford more.

Post # 7
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

@trying_to_keep_hope:  for us, it’s been more that other people are disappointed.  While we COULD spend more, we don’t want to.  I’m not willing to spend more than $5k on a party – even if it meant we could invite a ton more people.  

His mom was disappointed at first, but she understands our perspective.

Post # 8
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

How much we spend isn’t important to us.  It’s always been about having our closest friends and family there to support us.  🙂

Post # 9
534 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Not upset.  We’re having the exact wedding we want.  Brunch is much cheaper than dinner and we’re able to afford an open bar, and we’ll be spending under $5,000 for the reception.  (We’re expecting around 60-70 guests.)

Don’t be upset about having a budget.  You can have a great wedding on any budget!

Post # 10
1802 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m hoping to spend less than $5,000 once we start the planning process. I’m actually not upset at all! I’d be super upset if I realized that we spent like $20,000 when all was said and done. I’m happy, but that is probably just because I’m cheap! 🙂

Post # 11
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We aren’t married yet but I can already tell you yes. Earlier this week I posted about being disappointed about what we are able to do for our wedding. Writing it out and now focusing on how much more time I have to spend with my kids, FI, friends, hobbies instead of spending a ton of time planning, searching deals, ect has helpe me get over it. Do I still wish we could have the “dream wedding”, yes. But I’m not upset about it anymore, I just needed to process my feelings and kinda of grieve it as dramatic as that sounds I don’t know how else to word it 

Post # 12
1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I can’t speak from experience here, but my sister had a small wedding because at the time that is all she and her husband could afford. I think it was $7,000. Now that I’m planning my wedding, I can tell that sometimes she is a bit wistful. For instance, I know she was never totally happy with her dress and it kind of sucked that she couldn’t invite many of her friends. I wish I could somehow give her that experience!! But of course, she and her husband are super happy, and the wedding was really nice, so I don’t think she regrets it.

Oh yeah, the only thing she definitly regrets is not getting a better  photographer. She hired a friend of a friend who hadn’t done weddings before and  the photos are all terrible.

Sorry not sure if this is very helpful haha.


Post # 14
2878 posts
Sugar bee


When we decided to get married, we just threw a random number on the table : 3K. I had read blogs about budget weddings and I thought it was totally doable. Then we started looking around IRL, and disappointment followed. Our budget is now 7K, and I am trying hard as hell not to burst it.

I have NEVER been upset about not having more money to spend : it’s also a statement for us not to spend over X amount, because we’re frugal in our daily life as well, and we live with the priciple that we can totally have more for less. 

What upsetted me, though, was the lack of options for budget weddings, and I’m especially pointing at venues and caterers here. I wanted to choose my menu, provide the alcohol given that it is very expensive in Canada compared to the US. A 3K wedding would be possible given that I chose what we would eat and what we would drink. To give you an example, a bottle of wine I would pay 15$ at the liquor store will cost me 45$ at a venue.

But it was nearly impossible to find a venue for 60-ish guests, without a caterer, without alcohol already included, etc. Everything was beginning at 50$/guest, and we simply couldn’t cut the guestlist anymore (anyway you can’t rent the venue either without at least 50 guests). There were A LOT of restrictions like that that just didn’t allow us to throw a wedding at the budget we wanted, and no backyard available for a ”at home” wedding, so we had to double our budget.

This is what I’m bitter about. Not the fact that I don’t have more money – I still wouldn’t want to spend it on my wedding. But really, the fact that the industry is greedy and pushy and wants you to always pay more and always be more complicated and expensive. 

Post # 15
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@trying_to_keep_hope:  I was bummed at first. Not because I wanted a big lavish event, but just because I wanted it to be really pretty and I was having a difficult time envisioning how I could pull off a lovely, romantic, memorable, wedding on a low end budget. I did a lot of pintresting and a lot of planning and a lot of diy’ing and I’m happy to say we pulled off a truly beautiful day for us and our guests on our $8,000.00 budget. 

Post # 16
1768 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My number one thing is invitations. if we had the money, they would have been letterpressed and gold foiled and dip pen calligraphied and freaking amazing. alas, we have to send out almost 100 invitations and just don’t have the money for that. So instead I got nice flat printing on high quality paper and a calligrapher is addressing them with a regular pen (it’s about half te cost) so…I’ll live. And they’ll still go in the garbage.

FI and I also wish we had sprung for a trolley instead of our limo bus for BP transportation. It was almost a 1k difference, and, the biggest thing- all the trollies were booked.

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