Post # 1
I was wondering how many of you ladies were (or weren’t) involved with the ring shopping. If you were, did he approach you about it? Or were you more upfront about being involved? I ask this because I’m thinking that we’re turning a corner as far as becoming engaged in the near future (hoping within the next 8 or 9 months. if not I’m OUT but that’s a whole other post…) but he hasn’t really brought up ring styles or anything. Makes me a bit nervous to be honest. Most of my girlfriends were involved with the ring- went shopping together, openly discussed styles, what they did/didn’t like etc. So just curious how ya’ll worked it out.
Post # 3
We had talked about marriage A LOT – so I started with showing him styles that I found on the web and then progressed into showing him styles at the store! And when I found the one I knew immediately!
Post # 4
Yes and no. We had talked about marriage previously and we both knew that’s where we were headed, but I never went ring shopping or any of the like. But his mother (God bless her) has very… different taste than me in e-rings so I had definitely made it clear about what cuts I liked and what metal I wanted when it happened. Other than that, everything was a surprise.
Post # 5
My poor FH, he proposed when we had been together for 17 months, but I showed him ring styles starting a year before that! We went shopping a couple times, and ultimately he picked out my favorite one. He did so well!
Post # 6
We went looking at rings to see what kind of ring I would want. I have very small hands and chubby fingers and I wasn’t sure what would look good on me. He ended up getting something similar to the ones I had liked at the store.
Post # 7
We started talking about getting married in August of 2008 and married in the summer of 2010. In early March of 2009 I reminded him that he gets really busy coaching little league baseball in the spring, and sometimes it can take a long time to order/ custom make an engagement ring.
He took the hint, and we went ring shopping in late March. He wanted my input, and I told him I’d be happy to choose a cut and setting design, but the size and quality of the stone were up to him.
We finalized the design I liked in early April.
And tomorrow is August 1. And I have no freaking clue why we aren’t engaged yet.
Can you tell I’m frustrated about it?
Post # 8
I was totally surprised. We hadn’t talked about marriage and all I told him was that I liked princess cut..
Post # 9
Nope, not at all. My proposal came as a total surprise and I was so shocked and happy when he knelt down to propose! I was never one of the girls who dreamed about or knew what kind of engagement they want, anyway. It took him a few months to scheme for the proposal and he did a GREAT job picking out a ring. The only clues he used on picking out a ring were that he knew I preferred the look of silver over gold on my jewelery, and he sneakily asked me about my ring size one time when I was shopping for a ring for myself. He handled everything himself, and I am soooo proud and happy and I think it made it just that more romantic and meaningful to me. It meant so much to me that he took the time and effort to talk to the jewelry designer (a family friend) and he hand picked the diamonds under her guidance. He also picked a timeless/classy style based on what he thought I’d love. And he was right, I absolutely love it! It turned out perfectly for us and I know I’ll treasure forever. 🙂
Post # 10
I feel your pain, girlfriend. I’ve tried to just keep my mouth shut. It’s difficult.
Post # 11
we had talked about marraige, and weddings, but not the ring. i felt like he knew me well enough that he should know the basic style of ring that i would want… and i really didn’t want to pick out my own ring. and i got exactly what i wanted- a 4th generation ring! i’m all about vintage!
Post # 12
Yeah, I picked out my ring… He wanted to make sure that I’d absolutely love it and what it symbolizes. I think that a surprise ring could be really fun though!
Post # 13
He picked out my ring with no input from either myself or my sister. I LOVE it, he did a really great job. When it came to my bands though (I have two on either side of the e-ring) he wanted help.
Post # 14
my bf has an heirloom diamond that he’ll use to make a ring, and he doesn’t want me involved in choosing the setting. i absolutely love that the diamond has been passed down in his family, and though i do love that he wants to design it himself, i also really want to help and be involved! but, the surprise will be fun too…
before we talked about it, i was really struggling with a way to ask him if i could be involved. we’d talked hypothetically about getting married, and being together for the rest of our lives, but not much more concrete than that. i didn’t want to pressure him or be presumptuous, but i also wanted him to know that i’d be happy to be involved in picking it out and/or paying for it when the time was right. even though it sounds like a super passive-aggressive approach, i ended up writing that in an email to him, just so he wouldn’t have to respond right away if he didn’t want to, but i could still say it and have the idea in his head. he didn’t say anything about for 2 months, but then it came up during a silly fight/discussion. it turned out it’s something he really wants to do himself, and i’m so glad i know that now. even though i’m still waiting and i don’t know when he’ll propose, i know now he has an idea and a plan! and, now when wedding-y things come up, we talk about it like “when we get married” and not “if.” all things that make the type-A, over-analyzing-and-planning side of me super happy 🙂
Post # 15
He insisted I go with him to pick out a ring. I didn’t want to in the beginning but I’m glad I did. We were able to combine our tastes into a ring that made both of us happy.
Post # 16
My boyfriend suggested we go shopping. As he puts it, “I’m Italian and if you leave it to me, I’ll get you something guady that I love and you’ll be forced to wear it forever. You’re coming with.”‘
We had decided that I’d pick the setting, he’d pick the diamond size, clarity, cut, yada yada… (so it’d still be a surprise). But after shopping five weekends in a row, I looked at him and told him I’d be happy with anything, and at that point, he had a pretty good idea of my style, and sent him off to buy it on his own.
He’s now bought it (He dances around the house telling me his surprise is going to be “sooooo good!”), and now I’m playing the waiting game.