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I thought it would be interesting to see what sorts of responses come up! I met DH about four months after leaving my abusive ex and was not looking for anything serious at all. However, we really hit it off--he was (and is) such a sweet, considerate guy. I liked his charm and sense of humor and how he really cared about me. So here we are, not quite three years later, happily married! :)
Were you looking for a relationship when you met your SO, or was it something you just fell into?
I wasn't looking for anything perse, but I had been single for a while. I wasn't expecting anything to happen when we got together.
I had invited him to my little birthday outing that night, and it turned out that my ex was going to be there with his new girlfriend. I was pretty bummed about that, but it ended up being one of the best nights of my life since it was the time that we really hit it off. Everything sparked from that moment, and I'm glad he came :o)
I had just moved to a new city, and met him literally that first weekend. I had just broken up with my ex, who was terrible to me and emotionally abusive, about 3 months before that. Had no intention of getting into any sort of relationship! But we hit it off, and 4.5 years later, we are getting married in a few months!
I'm between casually and definitely. I was absolutely analyzing everyone I went out with to see if they had long term potential, but I was pretty open about accepting dates (within reason). I sort of had a relaxed attitude about dating in general.
When I met my DH, I had no idea he was going to knock me up before I turned 19, so I voted no.
I asked my SO on a date three days after I "officially" broke it off with abusive ex (although it had been "over" for a long time)
SO and I worked for the same company and I thought he was cute. I just wanted to go on a date with another guy, but we hit it off.. 110% unexpected.
I was actually helping my ex-bf (we had just decided we could be friends) rush my FI's fraternity.
Finding someone long term was the last thing on my mind. I was focused on introducing my ex to these guys I knew, and I was actually quasi-interested in another guy at the frat (not FI).
I met FI that night for the first time, and 7 years later we are getting married.
Absolutely not! And neither was he.
But we liked each other and wanted to date w/ no strings attatched. So we had an "open relationship" for 6 months were we only dated each other, but didn't care if we went to a party and made out with someone else i.e. cheating never happened b/c we were open. We were in college and in our crazy days so this fit just right. All my friends thought I was crazy, but I loved our arrangement.
After 6 months the thought of us not being committed was getting to him, and I was ready to give it a go, so we decided to become exclusive :)
Neither me or my husband were looking for anything serious when we started dating. We had both recently broken up with people (him with the first serious post-divorce relationship and me with a shortterm and nonserious relationship). I asked him out because I thought he was cute and I figured there was nothing to lose, and my husband broke a promise he had made to himself not to date for the rest of the year when he accepted my invite to grab drinks.
I moved about 1500 miles away for school about 6 weeks after we met, so I was not looking to start any LTR when we got together...but he was too good to give up ;-)
I wasn't looking. I'd sort of given up looking and moved in to a flat with a best friend and we were going to have some girl time - lots of rosé and shopping etc and a month later she met her boyfriend too.
Not at all! He was actually a friend of mine for a long time before we officially started dating. And when he did ask me out, I went because he was my friend and because my friends encouraged me to do so. I had just ended a relationship about a month earlier and dating someone else was not something I was looking for.
I'm so glad I listened to my friends!!
Just the opposite. I had been looking and then I transferred schools and decided I wanted to be single and have fun, a week later I met FH.
I voted "not at all." I was having a very on-again, off-again dating relationship with this tool when I met FH. I was also in my first year of law school and didn't want to date anyone from school. We were just friends for a few months.
I've never been able to casually date, so yes, I was looking for something serious!
I think I was in the looking-to-"settle down" phase of life. A couple of my close friends had already gotten married and after a relationship that I had thought was heading toward that ended, I was ready to really find "the one," rather than get attached to someone who I knew wouldn't fall into that category.
@Entangled: LOL! Your honesty is awesome, and that's actually what our situation was, too. "Nice guy, attractive...let's go!"
Absolutely not! I'm like Entangled - I thought it was going to be a 2-3 month fling (mostly we were physically attracted to each other) - but we ended up getting to know each other and it turned into the real thing.
Nope, I was actually dating someone else while beginning to date him. (shhh...don't tell him)
I've never been one to casually date, so yep I was definitely looking for something long term.
Helllz to the no. I was 19. I had been in an LTR that soured, flowed by a brief, but emotionally abusive relationship. It was totally meant to be a fling. And I even told him that this was NOT going to become a serious relationship, so if he was looking for that, well.. look elsewhere! He said he was fine with whatever would happen and now he can't get rid of me. ;)
i didn't go in expecting it to be a long term relationship, but after a few dates i would have kicked him to the curb if i didn't think he had long term potential. i don't like to just 'date to date'.
OMG I totally forgot I was dating someone else when DH and I first started dating!! Wow, my memory is not so good anymore..
I already knew DH for a few years when we started dating and DH knew I was just starting to date someone else. So it actually made him work a lot harder in the beginning to win my affection. He was always worried about the other guy - if I was going out with him or not, etc. I tortured DH a little because this was actually the 3rd time we dated (the first 2 times he wasn't ready for commitment), but I knew all along the other guy didn't even compare (poor guy).
Erm, no - we were both in long-term relationships with other people. We didn't cheat, but the whole breaking-up and getting-together was pretty messy :S
RainStorm. xx
Not at all. I was with a different guy when I met my FI. Also I was just about to graduate highschool so I was not looking for anything long term. It just happened to find me. FI and I were talking about this one day, he wasn't looking for anything serious either. It just ended up that way.
Casually. When I met FH I didn't think I found the one, we didn't even start dating right away. That part came about unexpectedly.
Not really, we started dating when I was a senior in high school, and he was a freshman in college. I doubt either of us were thinking that 5 perfect, wonderful years later, we would be married!
Now, for old times sake...
Our First Date!
Our Wedding Day!
I wasn't really looking at all. I was on a dating site, but more of because I was bored than anything else. I was planning on moving out of state, so getting into a long-distance relationship was the last thing I wanted to do (having been in such relationships before)! He really tried to woo me, and begged me not to accept the job I was offered after an interview in the other state. I didn't accept the job, but it was because they didn't offer me enough $, not because he asked me to stay. I'm glad I did end up staying, though : )
Ditto @Entagled
Serious relationship was the last thing on mine and FH minds. Plus it has been long distance. I never would have thought I would successfully have made it through a three year long distance relationship and now be a few months away from marriage.
I was so unprepared to meet my future hubby..had I been, I would at least wore something more girly. FI and I met through a friend one day out of the blue. I had given up on love..after my previous relationship ended tragically. On the verge of turning 28 I mentally gave myself two years to get financially prepared to adopt (i went out on 3 first dates and hated it so I figured it wasn't in my card). To my surprise, I met Mr. Swttea and we fell in love instantly. We had our first date and got engaged within two months of our first meeting!
I was 18 and a freshman in college.... so, no. But here we are 7 years later : )
Not at all...I was 19 and a sophomore in college...not looking for anything. We will be celebrating our 5 year dating anniversary next Friday!
HaHahahaha, NO! My BF was supposed to be a one night stand. I met him one week after I got out of a crappy 2yr relationship. I'm happy with how it turne dout though :)
Not at all. I actually told him when I first met him that I hated all men and didn't want to ever get married (I had obviously just been burned in a crappy relationship that had just ended). He stuck around and changed my mind, to say the least! ;)
Nope, I had just gotten out of a 2 year relationship and we met in a club. Who would've thought?
Not even a little bit. And even like 6 months after dating, I wasn't sure I wanted to be in a relationship.
Not looking at all. I had just moved away to college and finally broken off all contact with my ex who I had officially been broken up with for a year. We started just hanging out on campus because he was the one person I sorta knew in my new city (we met through a mutual friend back home) and I thought he was fun and cool to hang out with. A few months later he asked me on a real date and 5 years later, we're getting married in 6 months!
@Lindsay12.31.2010: Cute
To answer the question no. We just started grad school, he was extremely focused and I was dating some idiot when me met. Took us a year to finally get the ball rolling. 2 and a half years later I couldn't imagine myself with anyone else.
I went out with SO to get back at my ex! The ex kept saying we were "just friends" for over a year. I got pissed off and told him that if we were "just friends" then I could go out with any guy I wanted. SO asked me out, I accepted, it was the best date of my life, and I dropped the ex like a bad habit! :)
I was pretty much. I signed up on match.com and we both happened to be looking for someone - even though we wouldn't have admitted to it. We each went on 1 date prior to eachother from match. then we dated for a year and got engaged. then 1 year later married. bam.
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