Post # 1
I thought it would be interesting to see what sorts of responses come up! I met DH about four months after leaving my abusive ex and was not looking for anything serious at all. However, we really hit it off–he was (and is) such a sweet, considerate guy. I liked his charm and sense of humor and how he really cared about me. So here we are, not quite three years later, happily married! 🙂
Were you looking for a relationship when you met your SO, or was it something you just fell into?
Post # 3
I wasn’t looking for anything perse, but I had been single for a while. I wasn’t expecting anything to happen when we got together.
I had invited him to my little birthday outing that night, and it turned out that my ex was going to be there with his new girlfriend. I was pretty bummed about that, but it ended up being one of the best nights of my life since it was the time that we really hit it off. Everything sparked from that moment, and I’m glad he came :o)
Post # 4
I had just moved to a new city, and met him literally that first weekend. I had just broken up with my ex, who was terrible to me and emotionally abusive, about 3 months before that. Had no intention of getting into any sort of relationship! But we hit it off, and 4.5 years later, we are getting married in a few months!
Post # 5
I’m between casually and definitely. I was absolutely analyzing everyone I went out with to see if they had long term potential, but I was pretty open about accepting dates (within reason). I sort of had a relaxed attitude about dating in general.
Post # 6
When I met my DH, I had no idea he was going to knock me up before I turned 19, so I voted no.
Post # 7
Oh, not at all. I mostly just wanted to get laid. 😛
Post # 8
I asked my SO on a date three days after I “officially” broke it off with abusive ex (although it had been “over” for a long time)
SO and I worked for the same company and I thought he was cute. I just wanted to go on a date with another guy, but we hit it off.. 110% unexpected.
Post # 9
I was actually helping my ex-bf (we had just decided we could be friends) rush my FI’s fraternity.
Finding someone long term was the last thing on my mind. I was focused on introducing my ex to these guys I knew, and I was actually quasi-interested in another guy at the frat (not FI).
I met FI that night for the first time, and 7 years later we are getting married.
Post # 10
Absolutely not! And neither was he.
But we liked each other and wanted to date w/ no strings attatched. So we had an “open relationship” for 6 months were we only dated each other, but didn’t care if we went to a party and made out with someone else i.e. cheating never happened b/c we were open. We were in college and in our crazy days so this fit just right. All my friends thought I was crazy, but I loved our arrangement.
After 6 months the thought of us not being committed was getting to him, and I was ready to give it a go, so we decided to become exclusive 🙂
Post # 11
Neither me or my husband were looking for anything serious when we started dating. We had both recently broken up with people (him with the first serious post-divorce relationship and me with a shortterm and nonserious relationship). I asked him out because I thought he was cute and I figured there was nothing to lose, and my husband broke a promise he had made to himself not to date for the rest of the year when he accepted my invite to grab drinks.
I moved about 1500 miles away for school about 6 weeks after we met, so I was not looking to start any LTR when we got together…but he was too good to give up 😉
Post # 12
I wasn’t looking. I’d sort of given up looking and moved in to a flat with a best friend and we were going to have some girl time – lots of rosé and shopping etc and a month later she met her boyfriend too.
Post # 13
Not at all! He was actually a friend of mine for a long time before we officially started dating. And when he did ask me out, I went because he was my friend and because my friends encouraged me to do so. I had just ended a relationship about a month earlier and dating someone else was not something I was looking for.
I’m so glad I listened to my friends!!
Post # 14
Just the opposite. I had been looking and then I transferred schools and decided I wanted to be single and have fun, a week later I met FH.
Post # 15
I voted “not at all.” I was having a very on-again, off-again dating relationship with this tool when I met FH. I was also in my first year of law school and didn’t want to date anyone from school. We were just friends for a few months.
Post # 16
I’ve never been able to casually date, so yes, I was looking for something serious!