(Closed) Were you scared as your wedding date came closer?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m scared too!  Lol, at the end of the day, make sure there is a planner or someone you trust that if there is an issue, it is taken care of without you being involved…as much as we plan, things can and will go wrong. Go with the punches, be flexible and we will have perfect days!

I have basically quit working all together  the last 3 weeks, when people see me, I’m like, “I’m planning a wedding for 200 people, you will not be seeing me”. 

I was in your same boat last week, I had a million small things that added up to a lot of things that needed to be done.  Everyone told me it would get done and it would just happen…no, it would only happen if I made it happen…now, I am 3 weeks out and there are just afew little things that I need to finish and it feels pretty damn good!  Guess what?  Those small things did come together!  (because I did them). Make a list, don’t add anything else and turn off all wedding shows because they make you add stuff (hello a popcorn and cotton candy machine to go with my candy buffet, stupid 4 weddings…)

Most of all, as awful as this time is, enjoy it, relish in the attention, because next month,no one will care, lol.


Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m also very similar to you an have been preparing myself in advance to make sure that I am as a relaxed a bride as possible.

 

Just like giving a speech in public; smiling through nerve racking moments really helps. When you smile it relaxes you instantly. I have had to give speeches in front of 100+ people and the only thing that calmed my nerves was smiling. And you know what they always smile back.

 

Last but certainly not least. I imagine my wonderful FI’s face at the wedding looking at me with such love. It reminds me that this is about me and him and somehow I instantly relax.

 

Post # 6
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4664 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s getting closer and I am definitely starting to freak.

Post # 7
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@JoJoDahling:  What about that bitch with the mashed potato bar?  How awesome is that?  We are so similar!  My fiancé has picked his tux and the cake…nothing else!  I always wanted to plan my dream wedding, but i have so much alone time with the wedding, I feel like some things will just surprise him.  

How many people are you having?  I’m at 174

Post # 8
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My boss gave me the best advanything add anything else, if it isn’t booked already, you don’t need it, don’t do it!  

She told me this 1 day before my cake tasting.  I wanted to add an embellishment that would cost .80 cents extra per slice, I shot that down so fast!  I said no, and it felt good!  I took backcontrol from the money hemorrhage…until I got on eBay last week and decided to buy afew pez dispensers for my candy buffet…157 dispensers later, I practically have enough for everyone…oops!  (don’t add that!)

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

SO BAD. I had a nightmare that I started walking down the aisle and stopped and turn and ran a la runaway bride.

Post # 11
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@JoJoDahling:  

Oh man, I hadn’t thought of speaking in front of everyone…lol, thanks!  

I have taken many public speaking classes, I’ll be fine 🙂

Its all friends and family anyway!  If I mess up, it will be something to laugh about over the years.  

I have nightmares that the wedding is now and there is a bunch of stuff that isn’t done…#weddingnightmares

Post # 12
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 

@JoJoDahling:  You soundlike me! This is how I’m dealing with it: a full body massage a few day before, to chill me out, a glass or two of bucks fizz before the ceremony(same reason) eye contact with my fi as I walk down the aisle, smile, be confident and if you’re not confident- play act you are!. 

Just enjoy! If, like me you’ve planned this wedding carefully in order for it all to run smoothly, then it probably will; if anything goes wrong – not your fault – denounce any responsibility! You can’t control extraneous influences on your wedding day, so no point in worrying about them.

Now to take my own advice onboard… 🙂

Post # 13
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444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

@JoJoDahling:  haha “everything will come together.” Next person who tells me that is going tO get it. I always think — yea, it will all come together for YOU! You will show up and it will be together! Guess who has to PUT it together?! ME.  And if I don’t, no one will. Because everyone else thinks it is all “coming together” so far all on its own like a mysterious miracle dream. But it isn’t. That’s ME working my ass off. 

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