Post # 1
So I’ve only been planning for a couple weeks since my wedding is a little over a year out, but already I’ve been surprised to see that FI actually has wedding ideas. I know that sounds horrible, but you’d have to know the guy. He loves video games, working on cars, and working out. I never expected to hear things like this, totally unprompted:
“Babe I know you can’t show me but did you get an ivory or a white dress? I think ivory would be better on you.” It’s ivory, dear.
“This is the venue. I think they have everything we need and I like the catering options.” I agree!
“Do we get a candy bar? I want a candy buffet!” Of course, if you really want one.
“So I know we can’t pin things to wall but what about if we hang some fabric along the light fixtures?” Umm, I’d have to see it to know?
“Can we reserve a block of rooms for the out of towners just in case? I know my family will probably want to stay.” Sure.
“Where do you want to register?”
“Can we do chocolate and ivory for our colors?”
“I like the idea of [something I was looking at] but I don’t think it fits our harvest theme.”
Don’t get me wrong, this was all a pleasant surprise! I just thought he’d want me to take care of it all and just run things by him. Instead he’s asking really relevant questions and getting involved a lot.
Post # 3
@autumnmountainbride: Hubby had a few things he cared about that I really didn’t expect. I knew he would want to select music (all corny 1980s songs) and food (he loves to eat). But, I really didn’t think he would care so much about aesthetic details. For instance, he really did not want me to get a gold colored Maggie dress (According to him “it doesn’t look bridal. Brides wear white.”) and he was really big on what type of invites we needed to have ( he said “I like the one’s with the cardboard holder thing. They look neater.” He meant a pocketfold enclosure.)
Post # 4
My DH really wanted a photobooth, videographer, fruit tart instead of cake, and a lot of flowers. Other than that, I did pretty much everything else. It was the flowers comment that threw me for a loop, because we ended up with about triple the amount than I was orginally thinking. Not complaining though! 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
My FI tends to have strong opinions on things, or no opinion at all. Last night when I was showing him dresses, he said he LOVED a bow sash, because it made me look like I was wrapped up as a present for him. Guess I’m having a bow haha!!
Post # 6
@autumnmountainbride: My husband let me make all the major decisions. However he did ask could we have the wedding reception at Golden Corral to save money…I love him!
Post # 7
My FI was INSISTANT that we have chocolate cake, he HAD to have a vest and tie for his suit, and was really upset when I said I wanted flowers instead of figurines for the cake toppers. He also is making sure our exit song is the MANAMANA Muppet Song. He is so special 🙂
Post # 8
All my fiance cared about was the venue. He helped me pick the place— otherwise, I made the decisions after I ran through the options with him.
Post # 9
He did pick the shape of our wedding cake and we compromised on the flavor.
Post # 10
I was surprised that he wanted to be involved as much as he has been. I guess because a lot of my friends husbands always just said “tell me where and what time and I’ll just show up”. But my FI went to every vendor meeting, asked questions, looked at inspiration pictures. He’s actually been amazing through the whole thing!
Post # 11
My fi was a lot more involved than I expected as well!
He wants me in a white dress, not ivory and specifically asked for a mermaid gown
We chose the venue and food together, and decided we had to have a chocolate fountain
He said we MUST have a Lamborghini as our ride from the ceremony to the reception
He suggested our peacock theme so we can use both our fave colors (even though I planted that thought lol)
He chose our photographer and our dj
Only fresh flowers…
The list goes on and on!
Post # 12
– Not too much pink (which I knew, and only my flowers/the BM dresses will be pink)
– Wants a flower bout (I was going to do non-flowers)
– Very specific about his tie–we didn’t like any of the ones the tux shop brought in for us, so we went to four different stores and looked online and finally found an okay one (well, okay to me–I think the pink is too bright, but he likes it)
He’s gone to all of our vendor meetings and whatnot, but he’s leaving a lot of it to me because I care more about the centerpieces than he does lol.
Post # 13
Hbomb84 … that is hiliraous! the MANAMANA Muppet Song… sounds like something my FI might suggest! My FI gave his opinions on BM dresses- wanted knee length and not floor length, the cake, and wedding colors and venue location. Those are the only big decisions that we have made so far so i am sure that there are more opinions coming.
Post # 14
No pink (I’m on board with that)
No square cake (I agree!)
No traditional wedding songs (“Here Comes the Bride” etc.)
The venue has to be on one floor, and have an awesome bar (check and check)
Post # 15
Mine has been almost irritatingly involved 😉
I don’t really have a problem with his opinions and ideas except in flowers. He vetoed my bright flowers idea and then suggested dark blue, which is hard to find flowers in and isn’t the greatest colour for a May wedding. And then he vetoed purple, which is my favourite colour. Somehow we decided on raspberry red (like a light burgandy), blush pink and apple green. It’s not my favourite colour combination but oh well. I’m sure it will look lovely and I’m not the one wearing burgandy! But I do get really sad when I look at all the beautiful pictures of bright flowers and decorations 🙁
Post # 16
I was definitely surprised he wanted and big wedding. I didnt want a wedding I wanted to elope he gave me the colors he wanted in the wedding. It shocked me because given the fact he is so manly that I didnt think he cared as much as he does. He said we can compromise on anything but a small wedding.