(Closed) Were you waiting on your proposal? Were you surprised? Were you unsure?

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Question is in the post...
    I waited SO LONG!!! aaghh : (24 votes)
    14 %
    I waited a little while : (32 votes)
    19 %
    I knew it was coming : (41 votes)
    24 %
    I didn't know it was coming : (14 votes)
    8 %
    I kind of knew it was coming, but didn't really know when : (43 votes)
    25 %
    I wasn't sure I was ready for him to propose! : (4 votes)
    2 %
    I wasn't sure until he asked, and then I KNEW : (6 votes)
    4 %
    I wasn't sure until he asked, and I still wasn't sure! : (4 votes)
    2 %
    I wasn't ready the first time! : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    1106 posts
    Bumble bee

    I am currently waiting.  We have talked about it and he has given me a timespan inwhich he will propose, it’s just a matter of time.

    Post # 4
    2336 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Man, I feel like I waited SO long, but we started dating really young, so I kind of had to.

    I knew one day we’d get engaged, but I had NO idea it was coming because I thought it was still a couple of years off (not that I wanted to wait that long!) I also knew he was going to ask my dad first and I thought my dad was gonna try to tell him to wait.

    Apparently, instead, my dad was just like… “Are you sure you want her?” 😉

    He proposed last April, when I was 20 and he was 21.

    Post # 5
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I didn’t know it was coming – he had dropped hints, but I was actually hoping that he wouldn’t! For the first part of our relationship, he was very difficult to talk to about the future and, if I asked him where he saw us in a few years, he would just say “I’ll be with you.” If I asked about kids or buying a house, he would never respond seriously (e.g. “Let’s have 100 kids! They can be our tiny little midget slaves!” or “Of course we’ll buy a house, and there will be a special room devoted soley to guinea pigs!”). So when he proposed, I was honestly trying to think about how to put my foot down and either figure out where the relationship was going or end it.

    Since then, I’ve put my foot down with him and we’ve both come a long way in communicating better. We both can be pretty childish at times, but when it’s time for a serious talk, we can manage it.

    Post # 6
    43 posts

    I wasn’t ready at all. I said no, or more accurately, “What are you doing?!” We had always talked about getting married one day – turns out we just had different ideas of what ‘one day’ meant. He took it like a champ though, and  he’s planning to propose again when I finally have my proverbial shit together. Or I might surprise him and propose to him. He earned it, let’s face it.

    Post # 8
    473 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I was expecting it, knew the ring had been bought, but I didn’t know when the proposal would come. When it happened I was TOTALLY surprised and kind of went into shock! I immediately said yes, though 🙂

    Post # 9
    4659 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Kind of knew he was going to do it but didn’t know when… the moment he did it was so amazing!

    Post # 10
    43 posts

    @yanamari:  Thank you 🙂 I can laugh about it now, but the day it happened and I had to tell him no, I literally felt like a bigger bastard than Hitler.

    Post # 11
    2587 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    I honestly thought it would be another couple of years before we even thought about getting engaged, so I burbled along quite happily, and then he dropped this great mega-bomb on me.

    I didn’t take it very gracefully. I panicked. I did say yes, but I also threatened to be sick on him if he got down on one knee, swore at him a lot, and got drunk. So I spent Sunday with a hangover and still freaking out a bit.

    Now I’m really happy and excited, but it took about a week, week-and-a-half to get over the wiggins and the shock at having my ‘schedule’ moved up by two years!


    ETA: I was also a bit blindsided that he’d managed to keep everything a secret for 3 months. He’s usually pants at secrets – in the run up to birthdays and Christmas, he keeps sort-of trying to tell me what he’s got me, but not quite. Apparently he kept saying “I’ve got a secret!” during the run-up to the proposal, but then when I asked him what he’d said, he’d change it to something else. So. I’m more dense than I thought I was, and he’s more sneaky.

    Post # 12
    7022 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I knew it was coming and I wasn’t ready when it did.  I thought it would be right, but I just wasn’t ready.  I was barely out of an abusive marriage.  DH was like a balm to me.

    Eventually, I pulled the plug on the whole thing.  Like Newt’s man, he took it like a champ.

    A mere five years or so later, I got ready and we got married.  He did a whole new proposal, which I didn’t expect or feel I deserved.

    Post # 13
    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    i knew the ring had been bought, but i didn’t know when the proposal would come. when it happened i was kinda freaking out though (in a good way)!

    Post # 14
    43 posts

    @sassy411:  You totally deserved it – you shouldn’t ever be penalised for not being ready. I bet your SO felt exactly the same way and was eager as ever to pop the question and get a ‘yes’ second time around. As my boyfriend so eloquently puts it, “Faint heart never won fair lady”.

    Post # 15
    909 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We talked about it for a long time before he finally did it (7 years). I knew it would be coming soon since I had moved in with him in June and knew he had asked my dad but I didn’t know exactly when. And when he finally got around to it in September I was surprised up until the last 30 minutes before or so since he drove me back to our college and I knew something had to be up with that (we hadn’t been back in years). I immedietly said yes with a huge grin!

    Post # 16
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    You don’t have an option for being sure when he popped the question…

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