Post # 1
I am a teacher with a Masters degree. I am also completing specialization to become a learning disability specialist. I cannot find a job and I haven’t worked full time in over a year. It is incredibly frustrating. I got married last month and I have been home. I prepare meals for my husband, tidy our apartment, do laundry, and try to manage responsibilities throughout the day while my husband works full time (he is also a teacher but six years older). When he graduated, there was more of a demand. My husband in no way pressures me to find work, instead, he is incredibly supportive. I don’t have a lot to offer him financially, but I am very blessed I do not have school debt, and we were blessed not to have wedding debt.
Our honeymoon is next summer. I wonder, since I cannot find a job, if we should think about having kids first. I know there is a lot to consider. I wonder if, by having children first, I can dedicate my time to raising them for the first few years, and then, when more work becomes available in my field, go back to work.My husband is 32, I am 26.
My question is, were you working when you got pregnant?
Were you staying at home?
What factors influenced your decision?
Post # 3
I was definately working and then cut down to part time with #2 to be home with them more.
To be honest,I think if you put your career on the back burner without any type of experience, you might always have a hard time finding a job. I would try to find something at least part time and build your resume first.
Post # 4
I’m working, it’s a retail job so not using my degree, but I’ve been there for 5 years at this point so I make a decent amount per hour, and the benefits aren’t bad either since I’m full time. I figure it’s best to save up money while I can since we’re considering my taking a couple years off when our child is born, and the bigger our financial cushion can be, the better. If you’re a teacher why don’t you at least substitute teach or something? That way you would have some experience and money coming in before children.
Honestly, working throughout my pregnancy has been tough. I’m on my feet all the time and I have been hit very hard by constant morning sickness (which thankfully seems to be starting to fade). But DH’d job dos not offer insurance and mine does, so I will be sticking it out for at least awhile longer to help us financially.
Post # 5
Do you want to work, eventually? It sounds like a good plan in theory, but with no experience and a huge gap on your resume it will be even harder for you to get a job in your field or any kind of job. I think that if you go that route, be prepared for a tough job search.
I was working when we got pregnant with DD and I’m working as we TTC. I’ve been employed since the week after finals/graduation. I think I’ll always work; I’m a great mom but I’m domestically disabled!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
Both times I was pregnant I was a full time student and working full time as well. Both pregnancies were not planned. During my 2nd pregnancy I was in the middle of my Bachelors degree and I was going to work only part time (weekends at a nursing home) to help with bills and to keep my employment for aftrer I was finished with schooling until I found a job related to my degrees. But then we found out I was having twins! So we needed the extra income. Shortly after ex and I broke up anyway so I really couldn’t afford to not be working. It was a mess but it all worked out in the end. I graduated with my Bachelors, even went on to get my nursing license and have a great job now utilizing both my Bachelors degree AND nursing license and have a great FI.
Just know that no matter what you decide things will work themselves out. Just have faith that you’ll find your dream job, you’ll be able to work while pregnant or stay at home while pregnant or whatever.
Post # 7
I’m in Southern Ontario and the boards I have applied to have 800+ people on their waiting list. There is a waiting list to get onto the supply list. I also applied here. I heard through the grapevine that I had an excellent interview, but have not received any feedback since. My brother in law’s girlfriend also can’t find a long term ocassional position, teaching is saturated. Since graduating I have taken three additional qualification to make myself more marketable. I would love to work. I want to be able to contribute to our household or at the very least buy groceries. I think I am somewhat selective because I have a physical disability which limits the type of physical jobs I can do (retail, waitressing, etc). I am looking for more of an office type job. I have tried changing my resume, employment agencies, etc.
I agree having a gap looks bad, an agency has told me that. I mainly apply to posted jobs although I also send out unsolicited resumes.
Post # 8
Whether you decide to TTC or not right now, I would continue to try to find work…unless you don’t WANT to work. Being out of the work force for a long time will just make it harder to find a job later.