- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I posted this on the wrong board so I am posting it on here…
Well, a little background….SIL’s son who is 13 has been picking here and there on my daughter who is 5. My daughter is from my first marriage so they all met her when she was 2. At first it was great….then a year or 2 passed and things started out to be me notb eing comfortable. One time it was he pushed her into a cactus…another he was making a knife out of wood and waving it in her face really close (all the kids were playing she was on other side in the yard with us and he makes her way over to her) Those things were stopped immediately….DH confronted his sister about this in front of everyone saying what is going on with this and his parents literally did nothing. It was one of those things that DH is the only one reprimanding him. I just pushed away from his side because of this…seems like something is always going on with my kid coming back from whining that he did something to someone. Well I am not sure why he is even playing with a 5 year old and his 10 yo triplet sisters in first place???
Anyway at our wedding it was amazing. Lots of my family was there…so I think this child was very intimidated and shy at the time and did absolutely nothing. The kids got along very well.
Fast forward to today…..Oh my word what a day we have had……he does not even greet you….he has no manner and his parents do nothing about it. I think we just have different parenting views. His dad literally told us a story about how one of their daughters called her parents an idiot…she is mentally depressed and on 2 different depression meds while they laughed about it. Mentally ill or not if my kid called me an idiot that would be corrected very soon.
Well, there went SIL’s son…my daughter comes over to me (she was sitting with the kids in eye view of us) he went and was sitting at my daughters seat and took her fork, and stuck it in his mouth and messed her whole meal up as he started cracking up. I took the plate away and gave it to DH and told him what happened….
He went over to his nephew and asked him if he thought this was funny and told him it is not a joke to stop messing with his daughter. His nephew looked at him and started busting out laughing and doing like this cackle sound. My DH grabbed him and took him to his parents who were in kitchen with everyone else. His nephew laughed the entire way. He shows no respect to anyone.
DH went into kitchen and spoke loud and told his sister that she better start telling her son to respect others and that he was tired of his kid being picked on. I mean he lost it! I stood in the room with the other kids. He told me FIL told him to take it down a notch. No one did anything. No one told the child to go apoologize for ruining someone else’s plate and playing with food. The child has been taught no respect or anything.
Me, DH, and DD ended up leaving immediately. I told SIL thank you for inviting us because she was in my path during our leave. She barely looked at me and barely hugged me back when I went to say goodbye. I just ended up leaving with DH at that point. He is so upset, sad, and upset with everything today. I do not like bullies…we do not like bullies and there is clearly sometihng going on here with this child. DH said he will probably never see his sister until the funeral of one of his parent passing. She lives like 15 min from us.
I just don’t understand that with all the instances this was never brought up to him when we confronted his parents about it….DH feels like his sister does not even care about his and her relationship if she is just going to let her child get away with these things. THey all literally stood there with deer in headlights….all of them…in the kitchen..headlights. They didn’t know what to do. They said nothing…
It was more exhausting dealing with all of this today…it’s just not worth my sanity really. Why go somewhere where you get stressed? If you can’t change something, change the environment I guess…and that’s why we ended up leaving.
Edit: it is now Friday. DH told me he could have went about it in a better way….he is just fed up with how this just snowballed and nothing was done about it. He seems very sad and I am not sure what to do…but obviously be there for him.