Post # 1
Being almost 4 months out from our wedding and putting together our album, I’m reminded of things that in the beginning, I was adamantly for (or against) that I changed during the planning process. Most of these things I was forced to compromise on at the time, but now I’m SO glad I did. They don’t even seem important now.
1) No kids at wedding. My DH’s 2 cousins (4 and 6) are wild children, and I had images of them ruining my quiet, formal dinner. I started my planning being adamant that it was adults only. My Mother-In-Law insisted that they be invited because they were my DH’s’ first cousins and deserved to be there, and they were absolute angels.
2) No Dancing. Darling Husband and I pictured out wedding to be an elegant dinner with background music with mingling and drinks afterwards. However, out guests had other plans. Once dinner was over, they told the keyboard player to kick it up, and we ended up having a blast.
3) Only having my 2 brothers standing up for me. One brother was married almost a year before me, and thought I was semi-close with his wife, I had always pictured only having my brothers stand up that day. My mom highly recommended I ask my SIL as a courtesy, and I’m SO glad I did. We definitely bonded over the wedding planning and she’s in all of our important pictures because she was a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I couldn’t imagine not having her there that day.
Anyone else find anything similar during their planning?
Post # 3
I was dead set on having a non-secular wedding. Well, we ended up with a rabbi, a chuppah, a wine ceremony, and cutting the challah at the reception. It ended up being way more important for our families that we did do these things, than it was for us that we didn’t. And it all worked out fine!
Post # 4
I have always wanted a church wedding. I had to give that up because the Catholic Church does not perform second marriages (his, not mine).
Post # 5
So far all I have is that I was adamant that I was not going to wear a strapless dress. And I am absolutely in love with my strapless dress.
Post # 6
@MUI831: I said the SAME thing about strapless! No way in hell was I going to spend the night pulling my dress up so I didn’t flash my guests!
I totally ROCKED my strapless dress, and with the correct alterations, it never slipped!
Post # 7
hmm the size – we thought 30 was intimate – we have a hard limit due to venue size at 70 and we have 80 ppl on our A list plus a B list sigh
Budget – $15K – hmmm well add 40 ppl and budget is $22k
dress – no strapless nor corset – erp until I tried one on – OMG those make you look amazing
ummm I think that is all so far lol
Post # 8
So far :
– Number of Guests: Started off as “intimate” with about 80 and now its at 180
– Venue location: I really wanted something unique like a museum but will be having it at a banquet hall in a restaurant
– Maid/Matron of Honor: I fired my original Maid/Matron of Honor (I am a horrible person, I know)
So far, that is pretty much it.
Post # 9
Mine didn’t change too much, but Fiance wanted things very formal and fancy… until he realized how much that cost! Then it didn’t bother him so much to make it more casual.
Also my dress- I was adament on having straps…. and I don’t.
Post # 10
I did not want to hire a videographer and now Fiance and I are interviewing one right now. Go figure! The stuff they do now is so much better than the crap they did even 5 years ago. No more of those awkward table interviews! Thank goodness!
Oh, and I did not want a strapless gown… low and behold – that is exactly what I fell in love with. Go figure!
Post # 12
i always envisioned an indoor wedding. the stress of thinking about the weather seemed so uneccessary… but now, my venue is providing an outdoor space and for free, versus renting a second indoor room which will squeeze the budget pretty hard. i still stress about weather but the pictures will probably be 100 times better outdoors.