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When I was in high school, oh-so-many years ago, I pictured myself being married by the time I was 24. I am not sure where I pulled that "magical" number from in my head, but that was always the plan. Life had other plans for me, however (such as, oh, let's say....finding the right person!), and I ended up getting married at 29. In all fairness, I just barely eeked in marriage during my 20's (okay...I turned 30 the day AFTER my wedding!).
It feels like there is such a narrow timeframe that society has deemed "the right time" for a woman to get married! If you are married in your early 20's (or before), you hear the "You have time! You are so young! You should wait! Divorce rates are *blah, blah, blah* times higher if you are married at *blah, blah, blah* age!" lines. In a matter of just a year or two tacked onto your age, suddenly it becomes, "Better hurry up! The clock is ticking! Maybe she doesn't WANT to get married? She is too career focused! (*cough* in danger of being deemed the "crazy old cat lady" *cough*). Madness, I tell you!!
Eh, people are always going to have SOMETHING to say about your timing. My question for you is, did your timing end up being what you had envisioned when you were younger? Did you get married earlier than you thought you would? Later than you thought? Or did you not think you'd even want to get married at all?
I thought I would have the dream life. finish college and find me mr. Right and be marired before I turn 30 and have a kid by 30. Well reality hit me hard and I just got engaged and will not be married until I am 32. I was really hard on myself for not meeting those goals but I look at it now as its part of life.
Growing up, I had always imagined I would get married at 27. I dont know why.
I got married at 23....I would've never expected that!
I'm not married yet, so hopefully it's okay that I'm answering this :) I envisioned getting married no earlier than 30, if ever at all. I never thought about marriage as a child, and in middle/high school I was convinced love was for idiots and it would only bring me pain (I was a child of divorce). I had sworn off relationships, and then I met my FI and as our friendship and then relationship developed I realized that there might be something valuable about getting married and having a family.
So rather than 30, I'll be just a few months shy of my 26th birthday.
I was sure I'd be in my early 30s, I got married much earlier than I thought I would (26).
My sister had the magic age of 27 but now she is 30 and ready. You never know. Life is so different than we "think" it should be, or imagine it! I never really had an age, I never thought I would get married because my mother has been married 4 times and it tramatized me :)
I thought I would follow in my mom's footsteps and be married by the time I was 20. (Actually she was married, had one kid, and was expecting me by the time she was 20).
That absolutely didn't pan out--thank God for small blessings! Looking back, I honestly don't think I would have been mature enough at the age of 20. I ended up meeting Mr. Right when I was 24 and turned 25 before we were married. He was also older than I "planned" for him to be. He's only 4 years older than I am so it's not a big deal, but when I was younger that seemed like a huge gap!
I didn't think I'd get married until my 30s, but I ended up getting married at 25
@PitBulLover: I always imagined 27 for some reason, as well! I have no idea where that number came from - but I'm actually getting married two weeks after I turn 28.
Growing up, I always figured I'd find Mr. Right in college and get married shortly after graduating (age 22-24 basically).
DH and I met in college and married when I was 23 and he was 24. So pretty much dead on for what I had always thought.
Growing up I always thought that I would be married by 25. Uhhtt totally wrong, I was married at 31. Looking back at that age, I am so glad that it happened when it did. Not that I was immature, but there were a few things that I wanted to accomplish first and some growing that needed to happen.
I thought I had it ALLLLLLL figured out. I wanted to marry right after college to my h.s. sweet heart. In fact, I wanted to be engaged after h.s and then be engaged throughout college years. However, I did not get engaged and /or married till I turned 29.
Life. It has a way of working out in a way you least expect it to. (FYI, I am REALLY GLAD I did NOT marry my h.s.s.)
I thought I would never get married haha. Really never! Unless I was like 40+ and had already traveled the world and done everything I ever wanted to do. I'm now 24 and getting married in 3 months. Everyone was in shock but I wouldn't change a thing. I found the elusive "one" haha
I never had a plan ... all of my goals have been very school- and career-centric, everything else I considered come-as-may. I got married at 21.
I think 25 was always my magic number. For no real reason. I got close; I was 24.
I thought I would get married at 22 and got married when I was two weeks shy of 23 (so I was right but barely).
In my teen years I never really thought about marriage. Then once I was done college I just kind of thought I may never get married, even though I thought it would be nice. Kept dating a bunch of guys that would end up not being people I could see myself marrying. Then I met now DH. I knew we would eventually get married and after we were together a couple years I knew I wanted to be married by 30 and I told him so. I was 29 when we got married. I'm happy the way things happened.
I always envisioned being in my mid twenties when I got married. I’m 25 (and a half, if you want to get technical).
I always thought that I would meet my future hubby during college, and get married the summer after graduation, which would have put me at 22. I'm glad it didn't happen, I'm glad I was able to finish up school (well, at least my undergrad) and get a few years of work and living alone under my belt.
I thought I'd marry my HS sweetheart right after college, no older than 22. Wanted to have babies immediately, and be done by 25. Turns out I *am* marrying my HS sweetheart, but he's younger and we waited until he finished college, so I'm 24, he's 23. Babies probably won't even start until 26 or 27.
*laughs at 14yo me*
I thought I'd be at least 30, possibly 31 or 32.
We're marrying in 1.5-2.5 years time (depending on my studies), so I'll be either 26 (nearly 27) or 27 (nearly 28), which is much younger than I thought I'd be.
I thought I'd marry at 23 and have my first child at 26.
I married at 35 - and don't even WANT kids!
Planned on being married at 26. Which is exactly how old I'll be!! =)
Not sure why, but I always thought 24 or 25. I met my bf at 22, though, and was SO not ready to get married anytime soon, but things change so quickly! Now I'm closing in on 26 and not even engaged, and suddenly, like you said, the clock seems to be ticking away! Now I just want to get married before 30, although sooner would be better!
I also planned on waiting until around 30. I thought I'd get a start on my career, do some traveling, etc then settle down and have a family. Instead I met the woman of my dreams right after my 21st birthday and I'll be married at 23. And I couldn't be happier.
Growing up, I did not believe in marriage. My parents are still married but I did not have a pleasant childhood. In my teens and early 20's I was convinced that I would be perpetually single. At 25 I met DH, even tho he was almost 22, I never imagined it could work.
It wasn't until we had been together almost 4 years that marriage entered my mind, although he knew all along. When he proposed, I had wanted to get married before I turned 30, but we took our time figuring out what type of wedding we wanted, so I settled for 5 days before my 31st birthday.
OP: I did not feel too old on my wedding day and no one has commented as such. But they have said to hurry up with babies… But in NYC its normal to get married later
I suppose I figured I'd do it just like my mom--get married at 25. That is going to end up being my age on my wedding day (albeit I will turn 26 only 10 days later lol)
I thought I would be married by 25, with a kid or kids by 27/28. The kids number is arbitrary, but my parents got married at 20 and had me at 24 and I always loved how close we were, so I wanted to be a younger parent as well.
I got engaged at 21, and will be married at 23. Now thinking more like 26/27 for kids, though. Pretty close!
I for some reason always thought the perfect age for getting married was 26. I'll be 25 when we tie the knot.
For some reason I've always thought I'd be a young bride, since I was really little. In high school I dated a guy seriously and loved the idea of being married shortly after HS- when it didn't work out I was sad that I'd be an "older" bride (haha, because early 20s is so old, right?). But I got engaged at 19 and will be married at 21... just like I hoped :) I always planned on kids in the late 20s though... but my baby fever is telling me it might be quite a bit sooner ;)
Considering that every female in the family got married at 20, that's what I thought when I was young. Later on, I realized I'd be in college then, so I figured 21-22 depending on graduation. Got married at 25...oh, well, it was worth it for the right guy!
My husband & I have been together since I was 15 so I knew somewhere between 18-20.
21 or 22... sounded old to me! I'm marrying the same guy now as I would have then and we would have been together for 4 or 5 years already at that point. Guess that's just how the cookie crumbles! At 25 I think it's still safe to say I'm a young bride.
I think it's pretty common to base your thoughts on your mom's age, especially if your parents marriage has been a happy one. My mom was married at 23, so as a child I always thought I'd do the same.
It was hilarious when I actually hit 23 and thought oh HELL NO. By that point I was still very much exploring life and the world and I knew it would be YEARS till I would ever even think about getting married.
I will be 29 when we get married.
I always tought i would be married by 25, I will be 24 when we get married. I still can't believe I am already 23 it seems like yesterday I was just dieing to graduate highschool (that was 5 years ago), the 5 years between grades 8 and 12 seemed so much longer. I want to be 26/27 for kids but I am starting to freak out now that that is only 3 or 4 years away.
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