What age would you use as a cut-off for a no child wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What is your age cut-off for child-free weddings?
    Under 21 : (4 votes)
    5 %
    Under 18 : (35 votes)
    42 %
    Under 13 : (38 votes)
    46 %
    Other : (6 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @jeg14:  I invited kids to my wedding, so I can’t speak from experience. I think it’s more about who you want at (or don’t) at your wedding. Are you okay having teenagers? College-aged?

    Post # 4
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    2061 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @jeg14:  I think it depends on the couple and the style of the wedding. FI and I are very into hip hop will most likely have music that we wouldn’t want to dance to with his 13 year old cousin. I think it gets really hard to say an age like 13 is a cut off, because you’ll always have people that are like “My kid is 11, but they’re an angelllllll.” . We are saying no one under 18 just so we don’t deal with the drama of people getting annoyed if someone’s 13 year old is there but their 9 year old isn’t. (Plus, FI has a cousin who is 13 and is a BEAST..we specifically do not want her at our wedding, so saying 18+ is what we’re doing).

    Post # 5
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    4468 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @jeg14:  We are always kid-friendly, but I assumed 13 was the cutoff for those who are not.

    Post # 7
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    7075 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We basically said if they were old enough not to need a babysitter, they could attend. I think the youngest was 15 though.

    Post # 8
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    179 posts
    Blushing bee

    I voted 13 because usually at that age they don’t have to be entertained or babysat. They can still be fun and enjoy the dinner and dancing. My no kid rule was less about kids or their behavior ( although it was a factor), and more about saving money at the reception with a reasonable size guest list. Paying 35-50/ppl is pretty steep if you have a family, that has large nuclear family. 

    Post # 9
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    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Our age we decided on is drinking age. With the exception of my two younger cousins because my aunt passed away so they are there for her. And then his son   But our wedding is going to be in vegas so we are renting an extra room for the kids to hang out during our fun time. Lol

    Post # 11
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    1194 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We’re saying nobody under 18. Generally 18 is considered an “adult” for most things, so this is no different.

    Post # 12
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    3707 posts
    Sugar bee

    Was 21+ (legal drinking age), at my sister’s wedding last spring, with the exception of 1 bridesmaid (16 1/2). Venue charged the full adult rate for guests 13+.

    Ours will have 4 under 21s in the bridal party (including cousin, niece, nephew) and 2 1st cousins – 15 and 18. They charge adult rate for food, for 13+, but don’t charge for alcohol for under 21s. Oddly enough, the next older guests will be 25 and up (bride and groom early 30s).

    Post # 13
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    2535 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Having kids there was one of the best part of my wedding . Some of my favorite moments and pictures are cause of kids. 

    Post # 14
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    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Firehall

    We’re asking for no children under the age of 5, because I’m uncomfortable with any child under 5 lol

    Post # 15
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    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @jeg14:  We were originally only have kids over 13 but my flowergirls didn’t have baby sitters so we had them there too. They were so gorgeous and beautifully behaved so I’m so glad I had them there in the end.

    Post # 16
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    1208 posts
    Bumble bee

    I say 18. I want people to be able to get CRA-ZY.

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