- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
2 months ago, we told his brother on the phone about our engagement.
We said invitations will be sent out shortly, told him it was going to be a destination wedding.
The brother finds out we are having an “Adult Only” ceremony & reception, and goes ballistic, calling all the family, accusing me the bride of discriminating against his GF’s 6 and 7 year olds.
We have never met the Girlfriend, or her kids, and tried to explain we are a mature couple, in our 50’s only inviting approx, 60 guests, who are mostly our age group. His Girlfriend is in her 30’s he is in his 40’s and they have accused us of ” breaking their little hearts” the kids that is.
The brother has played mean vendictive games for the past month, continually stating he is not attending to some, and other that he is attending alone, then completing the RSVP online with all 4 names, includes his Girlfriend, and the 2 small kids.
I write them back to confirm that while kids may attend the event’s planned over the weekend, they may not attned the ceremony and reception, and can I arrange babysitting for them. I also said more, and offered several suggestions to accomodate them for the entire weekend, keeping my rule of no kids. 2 weeks go by, no response, 3 rd week goes by, I write again,same offer, and cc the Girlfriend, and the Brother replies with a very nasty mean email, telling me to mind my business and he will take it up with my fiance, his brother.
The entire family tolerates this behaviour from this brother, and offer no help. The Mother in law to be, makes excuses for him, and says just ignore him.
I say he is uninvited, should I be made to feel uncomfortable at my own wedding?
and should I be really thinking about what Im getting into ??
To make matters worse, I recently find out this same brother and his Girlfriend of 6 months, have been visiting and in contact with my fiance’s ex wife.
wow…………this is scary!!!