- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I don’t have any advice, but I wanted to say that I’ve felt where you are feeling, and it takes some getting used to, that’s for sure.
@SillySavage: I am soooooo right there with you!!!
I’ve spent the last 7 years as a single mom, SWEARING up and down to anyone who would listen that I would NEVER EVER EVER NEVER get married again!!! So, ha ha jokes on me, I THOUGHT I was just goin to date some nice folks, and oila! Met the man of my dreams…the man I’d hoped to marry about 20 years ago!!! So, no, not until just very recently have I even considered marriage or ANYTHING even remotely resembling a WEDDING!
Fiance and I have kind of “secretly” been “engaged” since mothers day! But, we are both encore/repeat offenders, and in the real world our timing seems quick. We also have two children each, and they needed a lot more time than we did to adjust and be certain this would be a right fit for all of us…..so, we just happily kept it to ourselves that we were indeed planning to marry.
Now that we’ve come all this way, and made the announcement, ordered a ring, set the date, bought a house! it does seem like a bit of a anti-climatic event 🙂 everyone around us is VERY HAPPY and quite supportive, but it’s definitely NOT like being in our twenties again, planning a big white wedding. I’m 42, he’s 45…
So, we are having a very small dinner party “elopement” in our own living room on a winters night, surrounded by closest family and a few friends. I’ll be wearing a BLACK, yes, BLACK lace cocktail dress and he in a plain dark suit n tie. We are getting into some of the “bridal traps” hiring a caterer and bar, renting chairs, photographer, going to have a wedding cake and dancing etc., but it still doesn’t feel “BRIDAL” to me 😉
I found this site by researching moissanite stones! It has actually been a real pick me up…I lurk often, don’t post too much, but often smile at the stories and excitement I see being shared here by younger brides, and even those my age and older, who ARE planning and experiencing the traditional fluffy white weddings…and it makes me happy for all those who are so excited!! And in some ways, makes me feel a little more bridal because I can truly relate to wanting my marriage day to be just as perfect for me and my future husband, just on a MUCH smaller and different scale.
Very best of luck to you! Enjoy the process, whatever it may end up being for you, and congratulations on landing the most important component of all…THE love of your life and future husband!!!! A big fluffy wedding, or tingly feelings about a dress, does not a marriage make 😉 xoxox
@Sweetjennygirl: By wedding is in no way white or fluffy xD my dress is a dark earthy gray. the rest of the wedding is even less traditional, not to mention small, very small lol I would love to see your dress btw!
But after reading what you’ve written. I think what I’m worried about is looking back and regretting not doing something or taking advantage of something. So yeah just missing out on the whole experience. I just don’t know what the whole experience is!
Right there with you. We realised last night our wedding is in about 4 months (I totally thought it was 6 or 7…) and we’ve done pretty much nothing. We’re having a very intimate wedding so that helps, but yeah… I’m not terribly excited about engagement or about being a bride. I’m excited about the ‘wife’ part, and that’s good enough for us.
I don’t feel like a bride at all. Sometimes it seems absolutely surreal and overwhelming to be planning and I’m the girl getting married in a ballroom in the designer gown. That’s not to say I don’t want to marry my Fiance, I love him so much it hurts and can’t wait to be his wife, it’s just that I don’t understand the fuss over the bride. It makes me nervous and when someone says congratulations, I feel like falling off the face of the earth or I forget why they’re congratulating me (we’ve been engaged 8 months but pushed our wedding to next september).
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