Post # 1
Or which one would you? My hubs and I originally planned a wedding for May 13th but decided 3 days before our trip to Vegas to sign contracts and pay deposits that we should just get married while we are there and be done with it so we did. It was an absolute blast and the reception dinner was so touching and intimate as there were only 10 ppl sitting around the table. But in doing so we actually hurt a lot of ppls feelings by not letting them know as they wanted to be there and share that time with us. Another thing about it that bothered me was my daughter wasnt there and she made the comment the other day that it hurt her feeling that she wasnt there, she is 6. Well DH and I thought that we could do a small renewal type thing in Oregon so all of my dad’s family could be there and my daughter could be involved. So my question is which one do we consider our anniversary: The elopement date (08/21/2010) or the renewal date (05/13/2011)
I threw a pic in just because I like to show them =)
Post # 3
Hmm most people will probably celebrate your renewal date since that’s the wedding you went to.
Post # 4
Thats true, I never thought about it that way
Post # 5
Oh I meant that they went to but you know what I mean!
But I would probably want to celebrate both!
Post # 6
Well, you could really celebrate either one, but if it is widely known that your renewal is a renewal, then I’d celebrate the original wedding date. Renewing your vows doesn’t change what date you actually got married on. Also, in the actual date you celebrate won’t matter—what will matter is making sure you can make your daughter and other family members feel included in your lives, no matter which date you are marking :).
Post # 7
We had a civil ceremony in February and a religious ceremony in September. We’re celebrating both (the more reasons to celebrate, the better!!) But in terms of “How long have you been married”? we’re using our civil ceremony date because we’ve been together for 8 years and I don’t want to be cheated out of another 8 months when people ask me.
The funniest thing is that we planned our Honeymoon in February because we want it to be freezing in Michigan when we go on vacation, but it’s actually during our civil ceremony week, so we’re calling it our Honeymoon/First Anniversary cruise!
Post # 9
Personally I would celebrate the date you actually got married and legally signed the papers.. but it is entirely up to you. You could celebrate both like the PP said, or pick the one thats more meaningful to you