Post # 1
FI and I are eloping on Friday (2.5 days, eeeek!!!) so it would be 8/23. We’re also having a ceremony (vow renewal then I guess) plus reception/party for everyone 1/25. I assumed we would count 1/25/14 as our anniversary since it’s the big party with everyone, but my best friend/MOH brought up that she would count 8/23 as her anniversary.
So, bees who eloped and then had a small ceremony/party at another time- what day do you count as your anniversary? Or do you count both?
Post # 3
I would count the day I was married as my anniversary date.
Post # 4
Since they’re pretty far apart, I would celebrate both. ;D
But when asked when your anniversary is/how long you have been married, I would go with the elopement date.
Post # 5
@Fanciful: I’m arguing for both 😉 FI is like, “Um…why? The reception is in January so everyone is a part of it then, so shouldn’t it be January?” (I should also add though that he is a computer programmer and logical to a fault, so to him it makes perfect sense).
I was just curious what others are doing. We’re eloping for a variety of reasons- sick of planning a gigantic party so all of his mom’s friends can come, insurance/employment reasons, and just because we want to get the party started 😛
Post # 6
We did a civil ceremony last november to get married and start immigration paperwork. We had already had our October date planned so we are using that as our wedding.
If they had been in the same year it wouldn’t have mattered to me. Seeing as how our dates are almost a year apart we’re using the November date.
Post # 7
We got married October 20 and just had our reception on August 17. We will celebrate 10/20 as our anniversary, though why not drink some champagne on our reception anniversary as well, right!?! 😉
Post # 8
@xLoveLikeWinterx: I think that my FI and I are going to try to have our vow renewal on our elopement anniversary a year or so after we actually get married. So I guess I would celebrate both. 🙂
Post # 9
@xLoveLikeWinterx: I voted “I like ice cream!”. But if I had a wedding and reception on different days, even if the wedding was an elopement, I would still count the actual day listed on our marriage certificate as my anniversary.
Post # 10
I “celebrate” all our special days. To my FH he celebrates our wedding date and our dating anniversary. But I remeber the day we first met, and first kiss day. I just make mention of it and kiss him tons on kiss day
Post # 11
@wisher558: We had to do something similar for immigration paperwork so we have one date in January and one in June. We both like the idea of celebrating our marriage every 6 months :D:D:D Why not?
Post # 12
@Summer_Rose: this last summer was the first year SO and I were together for our anniversary of meeting each other and he refused to celebrate because it was no longer our anniversary. I doubt he’d let us celebrate 2 marriages lol
Post # 13
It’s sort of like having a baby, then a welcome home see the baby party later, and celebrating their birthday on the date of the party…
Sure, you can celebrate both but the main one is the elopement date 🙂
Post # 14
We go all out and do something awesome on our wedding anniversary. Our dating anniversary, not quite so much. It’s around Halloween and the first time we went “public” with the fact we were together was a Halloween party so we kind of think of it as our anniversary date. ; ) People from grad school occasionally still make comments about how we hooked up at that party and we’re like “Nope! We came together because we had been seeing one another for a few weeks by then!”
Post # 15
We got married at the courthouse a few weeks before our destination wedding, but we only celebrate the date of the destination wedding. We didn’t tell anyone about the courthouse wedding because DH was afraid they’d feel like we’d invited them to a “fake” wedding, so we pretty much have to celebrate the destination date or people would start asking questions. :/