Post # 1
I am just about ready to sendout my Bridesmaids invitations asking if they would be my bridesmaids, but I just got done being a bridesmaid and I was the only one doing ANYTHING so I want to make sure my bridesmaids understand that this invitation isnt just so they get a cute dress and pictures but that they are taking on a part of the wedding responsibilities. The only problem is that Im not entirely sure what those responsiblities are.
What are some specific things you did or have had your bridesmaids do?
Post # 3
@EAB: mine have planned engagement and bridal showers, helped me reserve blocks of others and they ar helping me with our reception wands(ribbon on dowel for people to wave as we leave) and putting together invitations and programs and such
Post # 4
Quite honestly, the only thing they HAVE to do is buy a dress, show up on the wedding day and look pretty. There are no specific required duties for a bridesmaid.
Post # 5
Op technically all BM’s have to do is wear a dress and show up for your wedding. All the other stuff is bonus and never ever ever required contrary to some brides beliefs
Post # 6
The only things I have asked my bridesmaids to do is order and pay for their dress in a timely fashion, find a silver shoe they find comfortable and show up on time and pretty.
Post # 7
I think you and your bridesmaids need to agree on their duties together. When I asked mine and my sister (MOH), I said I wanted a bachelorette party (nothing expensive, just a low-key night out). I also said I wanted them to come with me (for opinions) when I go dress shopping, and that I might want help making invitations/guest book/packaging up favours. BUT – these are two friends I have known forever and my sister, so they would do these things with me even if I didn’t ask.
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Post # 9
@ItWasntMe: Those things are all nice, but they certainly aren’t required.
Op, the BMs have to be in their dress, on time, clean, at least halfway sober, and smile for pictures.
Typically, the people close enough to you to be in your wedding will offer to help with DIY projects, bridal gown shopping, bridal shower & bach party, etc.
The biggest thing I would suggest is to communicate openly and honestly with your BMs about your expectations as well as their expectations. No matter how stressful wedding planning gets, remember that these are you nearest and dearest FRIENDS not props for pictures, warm bodies to make sides even in the ceremony, or slaves to do your bidding. As long as you keep the lines of communication open and treat these ladies like your friends first and foremost, you will be ok 🙂
Post # 10
Mine have been fabulous at asking me every few weeks if I need help with anything. Specifically they plannedthe bridal shower. Are expected to attend bachelorette party ( I kinda planned my own since they were doing the shower) and they all attended engagement dinner which we threw ourselves. A couple went dress shopping w me. Helped calm me down when I was having a difficult time making decisions Found cute things on pinterest. Asked q’s about little details I may not have thought about. And most importantly to me have just shown their love and support for us and making sure I know how honored they are to be a part of this special day with us. I couldnt have chosen a better bridal party (I know wedding is still 2.5 months away ask me if I feel the same after the wedding lol).