What are my obligations?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Personally, I think the only wedding you are obligated to go to is your own.  If you can’t afford it and aren’t dying to go, send your regrets.  There’s no reason to strain yourselves financially or take off vacation time for someone else’s wedding unless you really want to. 

Post # 3
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1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I don’t think you are ever obligated to attend a wedding, especially if there are financial concerns. Given that you’re not very close, I don’t think it would inappropriate of you to not attend. If they question why you’re not there, just state the truth – financial reasons, work reasons. <br /><br />FWIW, I don’t think I would go if I didn’t feel I could afford it and didn’t really know them. I also don’t get very much vacation time (read: none at all).

Post # 4
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1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Agree with PP.  You are never obligated to go to someones wedding, it is an invitation not a summons.  If you don’t want to go- don’t go 🙂

Post # 5
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

Agree with the PPs. You are not obligated to go. I wouldn’t go to a wedding I coukdnt afford to attend Either. Just send regrets and if they ask why you can either tell the truth or use an excuse. 

Post # 6
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

I dont think you’re obligated to go, but if my SO were going, I would probably go. I personally wouldnt want my FI having to explain to everyone why his fiancee didnt attend the wedding that he was attending. 

Post # 7
Member
906 posts
Busy bee

It depends on the situation. If it was your so/fi’s friend then I would send my regrets and not go but since it’s your so’s/fi’s family then I would go if he was going because him attending a family wedding by himself wouldn’t look good for you. It would make your future Inlaws think that you don’t care about their family 

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