(Closed) What are people's thoughts on soul mates..?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

If there is only one person on earth that is meant for me, what are the chances that we are both the same age, available at the same time and live close enough to even meet?

I believe you choose your mate and when you’re happy enough you decide you won’t be looking anywhere else anymore, you work with this person to make it work in good times and in bad.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I personally  have never had an experience where I would consider that I had met my “soul mate,” although I know people who really believe that their SOs/DHs are soul mates for them.

I DO believe that God chose my DH for me, but it’s not because we are so similar and share so many like traits and interests.  If anything, I believe that God chose my DH for me because, in many ways, he is my polar opposite (we’re not opposite in terms of our moral values and faith, but we are in most other ways.)

I find marriage to be much less about experiencing life with my soul mate and much more of a case of two very different people making each other BETTER people because of the refining that must take place for two distinct individuals to become “one” in marriage. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I do not believe in soul mates either. see what mommytobee said

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t know about “Soul Mates”, but my husband and I are just perfect for each other. We “get” each other so to speak.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t know if I believe that there is only one soulmate for us, but I know that FI is mine.

As @mommytobee said, If there is only one person on earth that is meant for me, what are the chances that we are both the same age, available at the same time and live close enough to even meet?”  

Well, FI and I are not the same age (21 yr age gap), we weren’t both available (he was single but I was still married at the time, although the marriage was in shambles), and we live 2,000 miles+ apart (we met at a conference).  Two days after we met, I called my best friend and told her I’d met my soulmate.  Unbeknownst to me at the time, he called his best friend and told him the same thing.  Two weeks later I was separated from my husband, and the rest is history.  

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mommytobee:  If there is only one person on earth that is meant for me, what are the chances that we are both the same age, available at the same time and live close enough to even meet?

I think that is even more of a reason to believe in soul mates… I mean it was NO accident me and my FI met… but there were SO SO SO many different things that could have happened to prevent us from even meeting in the first place. With that being said, i don’t think that means if you’re meant to be together that there will be no work involved. like the pp Brielle said :” find marriage to be much less about experiencing life with my soul mate and much more of a case of two very different people making each other BETTER people because of the refining that must take place for two distinct individuals to become “one” in marriage. ” I believe we were meant to be together to make eachother better people.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t believe in soul mates. But I do believe that certain things happen and you meet certain people for a reason.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Since I don’t believe in a soul — or fate or anything predetermined — no, I don’t believe in a soulmate.

Compatability is a complicated concept, and it includes so many different factors. Marriage in and of itself is a social construct, albeit one I obviously support and have entered into myself. Knowing this, I would think that there are plenty of other people in the world I could be very happy with… but in choosing marriage, I’m choosing not to be happy with anyone but my DH. If that makes him “THE ONE,” then I suppose he is.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@inspiredcreationsbyhaley: what a beautiful story!
Me and my FI are soul mates. He’s my best friend, lover, knight in shining armor, fellow gamer and geek. We met online. The circumstances were amazing. If I never said hello, we would have never met. If his friend never told him about the site we would have never met either. And we are only an hour apart! We made our lives better. It’s been no picnic, but we get through every battle. I think soulmates are not preset. I think your soulmate is someone you are willing to give your very best to. That you love through everything and you trust with your life. He happens to be mine.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Well, like a bunch of other ladies that have already posted, I don’t believe in “souls” at all, so it follows that I don’t believe in literal soul mates. Being an atheist, I don’t believe in god(s), souls, or pretty much anything supernatural. (And I’ve seen that Tim Minchin song before! Pretty much sums up my feelings on that…)

This doesn’t diminish my relationship with my boyfriend, or make him any less special to me, though. I do feel that my boyfriend and I are very compatible, and I feel very fortunate that things have worked out the way they have. 

But in reality, he’s just one of “the ones.” There are probably a number of people out there that I could be equally compatible and happy with~ we just haven’t crossed paths (or we did, but things didn’t work out favorably). It sounds unromantic that way, but it’s reality. =/ 

Post # 15
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Worker bee

@Sullys_Girl_27:  ” I think soulmates are not preset. I think your soulmate is someone you are willing to give your very best to. That you love through everything and you trust with your life.”  I think that’s an outstanding way to put it. 

 

I don’t know if “soulmate” is what I would use, but I do believe in fate. I don’t believe anything is pre-ordained either. I believe that life presents you with a series of choices (free will), and each choice you make determines how far off (or on) the path you are. 

Mr. E is most definitely right where I am supposed to be in this life. He’s just “it” for me. I see myself old with him, rocking on the front porch, yelling at kids to get off our freshly mowed lawn. Laughing

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I know this sounds cheesy, but I never believed in soulmates… until I met my honey a year and a half ago. It’s just a feeling that I have never felt before in my 28 years of existence. There is no one else on this planet that fits me like a glove the way he does. He’s the one for me, no doubt in my mind. 

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