what are some good tips to focus on life when engaged?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@vegas:  I try to limit my wedding talk to the Bee, my fiance, and our wedding coordinator.  I try to only talk about wedding related things with others if they bring it up first.  Obviously this doesn’t happen 100% of the time (sometimes I’ll get excited about something and want to share), but I really try to stick with these “rules.”  I don’t want to become obnoxious to people I’m friends with or come off as self-centered or wedding obsessed.

I guess I’m lucky in a way because I’m always so busy at work that I don’t have time to play on Pinterest, the Bee, etc.  My focus is on my work because it has to be.

Sometimes it’s a little more difficult outside of work to focus on other things, but I’ve been making an effort lately to get back into some of my hobbies (writing and cooking are the two main ones).  That seems to help me stay sane … I think I’d go crazy with stress if the wedding was all I could ever think about!  

Post # 4
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141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Remember that the wedding is day, marriage is a life. Don’t lose focus of your goals and don’t alienate your fiance or family because of wedding talk and madness 🙂 It’s easy to get caught up in all the planning.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Take it slow & enjoy every.single.moment!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I only talk about the wedding on the bee and to my darling so maybe try to keep it there? It is nice coming home from school or work and getting on here an unloading any new updates! Even if it is just a day it is still a day to remember so if it is important to you then don’t feel bad about it for a moment! However you can’t let it get in the way of life…Try and stay focused but trust me when I say being filled with excitment is normal 🙂

good luck hun! 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@vegas:  the details of your wedding should not get in the way of how you treat your mate. keep in mind that your mate is the most important thing – above the linens and colors and fittings and tastings. his feelings matter the most.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@vegas:  hang in there dear but I must admit it is refreshing to see a super excited bride! 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@vegas:  you can be mature and excited, how you talk on here is normally not how you are behaving in real life! Many people with sad stories are distressed when they post so everything seems a liitle dramatic and when you post happy things everything is a little dramatic! 

I think the bee means well but seems to be in an all around cynical mood lately 🙂 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@vegas:  Honestly, I have a hard time limiting myself talking about the wedding. I know it annoys my mom and FI sometimes, but I’m getting better.

One thing that’s helped me is to constantly be on top of things: certain things I’m planning for at the moment, canvassing prices for future expenses, always updating budget and to do lists.

Since I’m always doing something for the wedding, I don’t waste paper with a physical planning binder. I do all of my planning on Google Drive.

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