What are some outdated wedding reception traditions?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

Anything to do with garters- selling them, flinging them across the room, taking them off in front of guests.

Bouquet toss- makes it seem like women are desperate to get married

Money dances- one tradition that should die. It has no value in modern society since most couples are already established in life by the time they get married. A friend whose culture this is part of changed it to guests pinning good wishes to her dress instead of cash. I liked that because it is a nod to the tradition without the cash grab.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

j_jaye:  Agree with all these! Absolutely hate the garter/bouquet toss.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

I’m throwing out almost all the traditions for my wedding. No cake, no bouquet, no garter, no bridal party….

I know it sounds odd, but I’ve never been one to go with tradition, and if it’s something where I have to ask why I need it, then I am not doing it.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m doing all of the above except a money dance. i have single friends begging me to throw the bouquet their way, so I don’t think my guests mind. Also, no one will be forced. And we get to play Beyoncé. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Tarp Chapel

No money dances, flower tosses, or garter slings over here! I do plan on cutting the cake though.

Post # 7
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Newbee

Worrying about which traditions people think are outdated.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts

Although these seem outdated guests don’t seem bothered by the traditions as they are somewhat expected. Guests like involvement. We did all traditions, first dance, father/daughter dance, mother/son dance, bridal toss, garter toss, and cake cutting. The only change in tradition for our cake cutting is I ran from my husband and hid behind a curtain because I didn’t want cake in my face. He ended up chasing me around the room. Totally spontaneous and un-planned but everyone got a huge laugh out of it. And I added a sibling dance where I danced with my 3 little brothers and our two kids to a hip hop song since they were the only kids allowed at reception. The “traditions” are not really a big deal…what else are you going to entertain your guests with for 4 hours??

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

marierenee:  garter tosses and bouquet tosses. I’m def not doing tthe former, and am undecided on the latter; a few people want me to do it but I only have about a dozen unmarried female guests and am unsure if it’s a bit weird/awkward. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

marierenee:  Just do what you want, you’ll find naysayers on just about anything. There’s pro’s and con’s to them all, but how boring would a reception be if we cut out ALL traditions?! 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

marierenee:  I do not come from an area or background where money dances are common, so I have never actually seen one lol. We are foregoing the garter toss because I personally find it embarassing. We are also foregoing the bouquet toss (which  I personally think is fun) because the majority of women attending are married so I don’t think it would be nice tothe maybe five ladies to be “forced” to go out for the bouquet.  I think I might go with giving my bouquet to the couple that has been together the longest instead … Or keeping it. Still have time to decide

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

We left out the garter toss, no way DH wanted any part of it. We still did the bouquet toss though, it was fun and no one took it too seriously.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

+1 to the garter and bouquet toss!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I agree that the bouquet toss and garter toss is outdated. I have never seen a garter toss (or take off) in person and I think I would be disgusted/mortified if I did and I hate bouquet tosses. I think it’s pretty silly to think guests will be bored without these things: I never miss them at weddings that don’t have them and I’m usually rolling my eyes or bored hiding in the bathroom when the toss happens anyway. Dinner, dancing and drinking is usually enough to keep everyone I know entertained. 

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