Post # 1
I am trying to figure out what’s going on in my guy’s head but for the life of me–I can’t! I am trying to figure out what’s the hold on a the proposal. Here’s a little background: We have known each other for 4 years, we got serious a year after we met. We both have great careers; he is 28 and I am 25. We went ring shopping in January and we took a cruise on Valentines Day 09. I just knew he would pop the question–BUT NO! That’s just too much like right!
So that leads me to present day–I have been waiting for a proposal since Jan, here it is August and NOTHING, NADA, ZIP, ZELCH, ZERO! Ladies I am at my wits end! So I have been trying to figure out what’s going on in his head aka read his mind! ( I know, it’s not possible! But hey, I am taking desprate measures here! LOL) He is really good about keeping secrets and acting normal! (I HATE IT)
So that brings me to this weekend we are actually going to Chateau Elan (WINERY AND RESORT) this weekend to celebrate our anniversary (the day we offically became a couple) and I would love to get proposed to while I am there, however my mom says otherwise! She thinks it’s going to be on my birthday (Sept. 1st)! I am really driving myself crazy–trying to look for subtle hints!! It’s actually hilarious! So I come to you ladies for help, advice, meds–whatever you want to give!
What are some signs that you noticed before your guy proposed to you?
Post # 3
I went to Chaateau Elan a couple years ago…its beautiful there!! thats a perfect place to get engaged!!! So i hope it happens for you!
I knew it was going to happen for me because HE stopped talking about getting married! He was the one to always talk about it and once it slowed down or stopped altogether I knew something was going to happen soon!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Insistence on doing certain things in VERY particular ways — he had a plan and wanted to make sure it happened exactly as he’d imagined!
Post # 5
Ugh, I appreciate your situation. But for me, I noticed NOTHING in terms of signs. NONE. Not even at the moment he dropped to his knee. He kept it so well hidden that I was clueless. I DID find though. that once I stopped thinking about it and accepted that we would get there when he was ready, I stopped analyzing everything all the time and it came not even 3 months later. Itll happen
Post # 7
We were actually planning the wedding together before he proposed so we talked about the proposal A LOT!!!!!!!!!
A week before the proposal he stopped answering ANY question regarding the proposal at the time this didn’t make me say “Its going to happen soon” It made me extremely frustrated!!!!!!
On the day of the thing that made me think it was happening was that he was being over-nonchalant – Lets go for a walk or we don’t have to if you don’t want too type thing! And right before it was about to happen (while we were walking in a park) he wouldn’t take his hand out of his right pocket (the ring was loose in his pocket) – AWE!!!!!
I know that this second one doesn’t happen now – but it will happen and it will be perfect!!!!!!!!
Post # 8
I saw absolutely NO signs – I didn’t even think he would be proposing for another 4 months or so. It took me by complete surprise!
Post # 9
he started talking about many serious things we never did before; like we never said the L word, so the next time we saw each other (we’re long distance) he said he loved me, then he started talking about the future and kids
then finally he said we need to look at engagement rings, my heart stopped, it wasnt the most romantic way but it was our best and most romantic trip to the crribean in the antigua, in a beautiful romantic restaurant, I knew right then he meant he wanted to marry me, my heart was bursting with happiness! i was sooo happy! I got the ring 2 months later but that was my real proposal
Post # 10
I had no idea about the proposal, it was a complete surprise…no ring shopping, nothing. But, when I think back, he was being sooo nice and soooo extremely patient with me for about a month before the proposal 🙂
Post # 11
@KellyV How did you stop thinking about it? That’s the hard part, even with every thing going on in my daily life! Everytime we are together I can’t help but think about it! I get excited at the thought of spending the rest of my life with this man! IT’S HARD FOLKS!
Post # 12
like Ms Bruschetta, my boy was sooo insistent on taking me out to lunch a certain day. Unknowingly, I was crabby, and was like, NO! I’m busy. can you stop freakin asking me since I’ve already told you 20 times I’m too busy to take off for a long lunch. And then he was like, well I’ll pick you up from work. I was like WHY? I can just drive to you, like normal. He really wanted to pick me up. so eventually I was like FINE. lol its a wonder he still went through with it!
Then he took me to a park (the guise was, oh, we haven’t had time alone lately (we both live at home still) and so I wanted to have a picnic with you blah blah) at which point I thought it might be happening, but didn’t allow myself to think about it too much because I didn’t want to be disappointed. But then, it did! Looking back, he was very nervous, and acting that way, but I didn’t know why, I thought he was upset and kept asking him what was wrong 🙂
Post # 13
mechiebaby, oh thats hilarious
there were some other stories here too where the bride almost messed up the proposal and had no idea and the guy was insistent going to a place
aw so cute
Post # 14
@chaotic – it was hard. But I finally realized that my dropping (not so subtle) hints was NOT going to make him move any faster…regardless of wheter we’d gone ring shopping or talked about it in the past, etc. I kept quiet, realized I was ok with the pace things were going, and when he was ready Id be there ready as well. I knew he was the one, and knew that he knew I was the one, so I had to let life take its course. And then BOOM it happened. My sister told me that the day I told her I was ok with where things were, he came to her and asked her to go ring shopping with him…Oh, and I didnt mention to him that I was fine, I just let it be
Post # 15
He made it a point to surprise me. He know that if there was something “planned” that I’d catch on. So instead of the romatic candle lit dinner with a horse drawn carriage that I would be sure to figure out – he proposed in the airport parking lot after I returned from a long work trip. He knew that I wouldn’t have “engagement” on my mind and it was the PERFECT surprise.
So just back off and be surprised, let him pick out the perfect ring and do what he wants to do to make it special. Try to learn as little as possible, even if hes bad at keeping secrets!
Post # 16
On one of his days off, he called me in the morning and said that he was going bowling. He called me later around 2pm that day and said he was just heading out. I asked him what he had been doing all day long and he said nothing. When I got home his dishes were still in the sink and I was kind of annoyed that he really had done NOTHING that day. The laptop was still sitting where it was the night before–which was really strange because playing on his laptop is one of his alltime favorite things to do. It seemed strange that he had spent the whole entire day home and hadn’t even touched it. I doubted that he had really been home the whole day like he said. When he got home later he was SUPER lovey dovey, hugging me, and telling me how much he loved me. He’s not really the mushy type usually. Then it suddenly hit me. Years ago, he said that someday when he got married he wanted to go to the Shane Co to get a ring. Well, the closest Shane Co is right across the street from the bowling alley.
For the next couple of weeks he was abnormally helpful around the house, offering to do the dishes and laundry… I knew for sure something was up.
He popped the question a few weeks later in Hawaii 🙂