(Closed) What are the disadvantages of getting married far away?

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@VickyAurea:  Sorry, just to clarify, do you have a typo there? 4-6 miles? Or do you mean 46 or 40-60 miles?

I’m planning a long distance wedding. Well…FI lives in the town where we are getting married. But I am about a 3.5 hour drive away. It isn’t terrible, because he is able to go talk to vendors, after I do the research. Otherwise, I would be doing a lot of calling on my lunch hour. 

One thing that has been very difficult is that vendors just don’t work on the weekend here (which is the time that I visit). So I have had to take time off in order to see my reception venue.

Another issue is that anything I do for the wedding (ex: DIY craft) will have to be transported there.

And another issue (which you mention) is the set-up of the venue. You may have to book extra nights in a hotel to get everything properly set up and ready to go, which might eat into any savings you made.

 

Post # 4
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Some older guests may not attend, people with kids might not come and personally I myself would feel a little put off by it if it’s far away, unless I am really close to whoever is getting married.

Having said all that I’m eloping with my fi and 20 immediate family members then going home a week later for a big party which cuts out the wildly expensive sit down meal, would that be a better option for you? Have a small intimate wedding and dinner then a big party later in your hometown? I’m doing it on 2 separate days because of flights, but it can be done on the one day 🙂 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

4-6 miles? that is not far at all My venue (that I consider to be pretty close is 25ish miles away.

So my answer is no that is not to far away at all 🙂 

Post # 6
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It’s bound to be a typo, either 40-60 or 400-600 miles.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

4-6 miles is totally fine!  Are you sure that’s what you meant?  Our wedding is about 15 miles or 20 minutes from where we live, and 35min from the nearest airport.  We have plenty of people coming still.

I also once went to a wedding that was a good 30 min. from anywhere down crazy windy roads, very confusing.  They had 3 tour buses that they rented out for the wedding to transport *everyone* to and from.  If you’re really worried, you can always do that.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@VickyAurea:  4-6 hours might be way too far. I am not sure I’d go that far for a wedding unless it was a very important friend.

This means that all your guests will have to book a hotel room unless you have the wedding quite early in the day (and then people will have to wake up early).

It can be done, but this will cost guest a lot of extra money.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Would all your guests want to camp? Do any of them have back problems or medical conditions that would prevent them from spending two nights in a tent in the middle of a field? Do they all have caravans, tents, camp beds and sleeping bags? Can they all get their in the first place? How many barbecues are you bringing? Do they have to bring their own BBQ? Where do they all go to the toilet, shower or just simply go to wash their hands? Will the rain piss down? Where do you get ready for a wedding in the middle of a field? 

Post # 12
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

And it would likely be two nights and not one because you wouldn’t want your guests driving home drunk for 4-6 hours.

Post # 14
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I know it’s not uncommon but it always seems like a lot more Hassle I think it’s a good idea if the majority of the guests are young but I wouldn’t do it as a lot of my family are in their 60s and 70s 🙁 

About the bbqs I didn’t mean they would have to BBQ their own wedding dinner, I meant for other meals. 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Our was about 3 hours away and felt very semi destinationish which we loved. Bad part… we had to drive there several times in a short amount of time since we had a quick engagement so we were pretty sick of the drive by the end. We also didn’t have children at the wedding so a couple friends couldn’t come because they didn’t have a sitter that far away. I wouldn’t change it for anything though. I loved it being far enough away where the family and bridal parties all stayed together fri/sat night, it made it a fun weekend style wedding.

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