Post # 1
Just wondering how far people go in planning before a proposal. For me, I am not going to book anything yet, but have started planning in my mind and pinning things. Mostly trying to nail down a date right now. I went so far as to email my program director at school and ask what the dates of clinicals for next summer will be so that I can try to see when I will have free time. I felt weird asking because I told her it was because I am planning to get married next summer. That made me feel weird since I don’t actually have the ring yet! But SO has encouraged me to go ahead and do these things so….yeah. Just makes me think more and more about how I am sitting here WAITING. lol.
Post # 3
I’ve been some what planning in my head and pinning as well, my SO told me I should start thinking of wedding ideas and also we have a date as well. I feel like if you’re about to get engaged soon you should start planning or thinking about wedding ideas, dates, themes etc.
Post # 4
No date and no bookign anything until a ring. Everything is is planned tho. The reason no date is because we will be having a short engagement and if a date is made then I will have a good idea of when he would propose. Today we talked about veils ( he really wanted me to wear one so i showed him the only two types i like and he showed interest in one more then the other) also centerpeice ideas. We’ve tlked and agreed about almost everything else. So by time as we are engaged all we would have to do is book and start DIYing lol that’s where the 5-7 months of planning will be needed.
Post # 5
I think my boyfriend will propose within the next year, and I certainly don’t have anything booked, but I’ve looked at my schedule to think of some possible dates and have looked at venues online, but I feel really weird calling to inquire more information when the engagement could still be a ways away! Also, I think it’ll be nice to look at venues together instead of having my heart set on one right away.
Post # 6
We have a date and I have a Pinterest borad with tentative ideas, but that’s about it.
Post # 7
I know it’ll be in March…I know it’ll be 50 people…I want a restaurant ceremony and wedding so I’ve perused the internet to see how that works, it’s pretty popular here in DC so I’m excited. I’ve looked at dresses online. That’s about it.
Proposal should be coming in about 6 weeks or less. ah.
Post # 8
I don’t have a date yet on the engagement as we pushed back our timeline, but I know it’ll be within the year once SO finds a permanent position. I know that I don’t want to spend a lot on a wedding overall so I’ve looked at local, inexpensive vendor reviews on the bee then saved to a pinterest board. I had to make the board secret because I didn’t want people to think we are engaged yet. SO has an idea of which vendors we’ll probably go to since we see a lot of them at the farmer’s market and both love them. Really only caterer and flowers.
That’s about it though. I would never buy or book anything in advance and probably won’t start to really plan until about a month after the engagement. Let my poor SO rest as I’m sure preparing to propose is mentally draining.
Post # 9
I have a Pinterest board and have looked at pricing for venues (just looking online, not contacting a real person or anything). Here in DC the venues book up really fast, so I figure it cant hurt to get a jumpstart 🙂
I also did some a little weird the other day. I’m in love with a wedding dress from the Christos Spring 2011 collection that no longer appears on their website. I emailed the company to see if they still made it, but sadly they told me it’s been discontinued. I suppose I will have to find another dream dress!
Post # 10
@Vivasevilla804: I totally hear you on feeling weird inquiring about dates and info. I feel like I’d then have to lie about things if I was asked about a proposal. I don’t see anyone doing that really but you never know, sometimes strangers can get really chatty on the phone! Being pre-engaged is some sort of weird wedding purgatory.
Post # 11
@Macsgirl14: No real planning over here! I don’t even have a Pinterest board. For me, I just find it kind of weird to be planning a wedding when I’m not even engaged, but that’s just how I feel. Not to say I don’t look at the Pinterest wedding stuff haha..I just don’t repin any of it!
The only thing I’m really “planning” is the date. I have about 3-4 possible date ranges in my head..but which one we go with depends on when my SO actually proposes!
Oh and we also already have our “venue.” His parents have an amazing beach house and we plan to get married there. Since it’s not something we have to book or anything like that, though, I don’t know if that really counts as planning.
Post # 12
I was planning way ahead of time, and had to put a stop to myself! Haha. I had a venue, a photographer, the flowers and everything else all saved in my bookmarks. But I decided if I kept going that way, I’d have nothing to plan when I actually get engaged!
So I deleted all those bookmarks, and am only allowing myself to talk about wedding ideas here, but not actually plan them. We still know the guest list (only 16 people, so that’s easy), approximate location, the colour theme and what both of us want in a venue. But as for all the other details – that’s waiting until later now.
Post # 13
@Macsgirl14: i have researched, many many venues, prices,, and been dreaming about a proposal for ever!!! but, thats as far as i went, used to buy wedding mags but decided to stop that crazyness lol
Post # 14
I already have a dress design in mind, we already came up with the guest number (150 although I want 50), persons in the wedding party (no bridesmaids nor groomsmen), no flowers (maybe a feather bouquet), cupcake or oreo cake, we have discussed possible places for the venue, I’ve thought about dates (non-summer, non- christmas, non-popular date) as well as my secret pinterest board… no bookings as yet… I think that it is a good head start
Post # 15
Like some of the other bees, I also have a few pinterest boards that I use to collect inspirations in regards to dresses, colors, decorations etc… But that’s as far as I go. I’m not planning anything seriously without being engaged, as the thought just makes me personally uncomfortable. Especially since I was the one asking if we could elope, I know this day will mean something to him, so I want us to envision/create it together.
Post # 16
We haven’t talked dates, but we have researched venues, the possibility of a destination wedding, themes and decor we like, invitations, etc… SO knows I don’t want to start talking to vendors or touring venues until we’re engaged and have had a chance to feel out family (would they prefer us to get married locally and invite all the cousins and second cousins, or is a smaller destination wedding ok? Will we be footing the bill entirely, or have some help from family?). So, lots of research, very little “planning”!